"Ukunyameka" kunye "neminyaka emibini" kungaba ngamazwi atshintshanayo. Ngomzuzu owodwa phakathi kwakho uguqa ecaleni kwakho embhedeni, olandelayo uxelelwa ukuba unamahloni. Ngamanye amaxesha utshintsho lunokubonakala lubonakala lukhulu kakhulu, kunye ne-middle-brooding yakho kwigumbi lokulala ngeeyure ekupheleni. Ixesha lini na ukuxhamla kwindlela eqhelekileyo yokuvelisa kwaye nini ibonakalisa into embi ngakumbi?
Kutheni amaTween afumana ukuzonwabisa
Xa siyeke ukujonga zonke izinto ezihambayo zihamba ngokwemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nasentlalweni, akumangalisi ukuba bafumane ubuncinane. Njengoko beya kutshatyalaliswa, ama-hormone abo aqala ukuguquka, abangela ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo. I-Tweens ayinaso ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo ekulawuleni ngokupheleleyo imivo yabo. Ngamanye amazwi, bathetha ngokuqinisekileyo oko bakuvakalelwa ngathi bakuvakalelwa! Bajongana noxinzelelo oluninzi, kuquka ukufuna ukuba ngumntwana wakho omncinci onyamekelwayo kwaye ekhuselwe ngoxa efuna ukuba ngumntu okhulileyo, omelekileyo. Hlanganisa ezo zinto kwaye zenza ezinye iimoya eziphazamisayo.
Ziziphi iingxaki zoMoya?
Nangona uninzi lwengqondo luguquko luqhelekileyo, izifo zengqondo ziyakwenza kwaye zivelise ngexesha le minyaka. Izifo ezimbini eziqhelekileyo zengqondo ziyingozi enkulu yokuphazamiseka kwengxaki kunye nengxaki yokuguquguquka kwengqondo. Ezi zimbini iziphazamiso zibandakanya amaxesha aphantsi, ukungafuni, ukunganaki, iingxaki zokulala, ukutya okuphazamisayo, ukukhathala nokuncipha.
Kwi-disorder bipolar, ezi zixinzeleleko zihamba kunye nexesha le-mania okanye i-hypomania (i-low-level mania) equka ukukhathazeka okuphakamileyo okanye okugwenxa, ukulala kancinci, ukuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo, ukunyaniseka nokubonisa ingcamango. Abadala abaselula okanye abantu abadala abanesifo sengqondo sokuhlala bodlar often have a episodes of these emotions that can last weeks and longer, but a child with a bipolar in a position to change between the high and low levels.
Ziziphi iimeko eziqhelekileyo zokukhathazeka kwemizwa?
Unokucinga ukuba iingxaki zengqondo zivakala kakhulu ezinjenge-pakati yakho. Enyanisweni ke, ezi ngxaki ziyanqabile, ngakumbi kwiqela elidala eliphakathi. Inkxalabo enkulu yokudandatheka ihlasela kuphela malunga ne-2 ukuya kwi-4 ekhulwini labantu abangaphantsi kwe-18, ngokuqhelekileyo ngokuqhelekileyo. I-bipolar disorder iyingqayizivele kakhulu ngaphambi kokukhulelwa; kuphela i-1.2 ekhulwini yabantwana abanentsholongwane. Oko kwathiwa, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo kaninzi kunokungafunyanwa ngabaselula, ngokubhekiselele kwi-Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation. Asifuni ukuxubusha imeko engathi ingabalulekanga.
Ukwahlukana Phakathi koMoya kunye neengxaki zoMoya
Ngoko ungayichazela njani ukuba umntwana wakho unesifo sengqondo okanye uhlala nje? Enye impazamo eyintloko iphene. Zonke ii-sulks ngezinye izihlandlo, kodwa qaphela ukuba i-middle-brooding yakho isondela endleleni yokuya esikolweni, ukutya kunye nokulala, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimidlalo okanye ukuhlangana kunye nabahlobo. Ngaba uqobo uhlala ubomi ngendlela efanayo? Ukuba kunjalo, ukuxhalabisa kunokwenzeka ukuba kusemgangathweni. Kwakhona, gcina iliso kumntwana ofunda naye kunye nabahlobo bakho. Benza njani? Ziziphi iindidi zokuguquka kwemizwelo ezihamba nazo?
Ukuqwalasela ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kwiqela labanontanga kunokukunceda ufumane ingqiqo kwizinto "eziqhelekileyo" - nangona kungenakuba yinto eqhelekileyo kuthi thina abadala! Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kufuneka uxoxe nodokotela wengane yakho ukuba phakathi kwakho ubonakalisa uxinzelelo olukhulu, uqala ukuxhatshaza kwihlabathi, uthi ufuna "ukusabalalisa" okanye ukuthetha ngokuzibulala kunye / okanye ukufuna ukulimaza abanye.
Indlela yokusingatha ukunyameka okuqhelekileyo
Ngoko ukuba ucinga ukuba ujongene netyala lokuzihlaziya okuqhelekileyo - kunye namathuba, unjalo-ke unokuhlangabezana njani na? Khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kuhlanjululwa, kodwa kunokuba ulwa ne-cocktail engaqhelekanga yama-hormone, ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo, kunye nentlalo yoluntu.
Mnqumle umncinci omncinci . Ngelo xesha, nangona kunjalo, uyazi ukuba akunakulungele abantwana ukuba baveze abanye ngezenzo zabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bahamba njani. Ukuphuhlisa uvelwano lwabo ngokuchaza indlela izenzo zabo ezichaphazela ngayo okanye amanye amalungu omndeni. Gwema "nina" amabinzana anjengawe "Awukho umgca xa ukhononda ngokutya." Endaweni yokusebenzisa "I" amabinzana, njengokuthi "Ndandizibuhlungu xa ukhononda ngesidlo sakusihlwa endichitha ixesha." Qaphela ukuba umntwana wakho akanakho ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza okwangoku. Kungekudala, nangona kunjalo, iimoya zabo ziya kubuyela emva kwaye uza kuba kunye eshedeni kwakhona kwakhona. Ewe, ubuncinane kwithuba elincinane.