Umntwana wakho ukhula kwaye ulungiselela iminyaka yakhe njengomntwana osemtsha kunye nomdala osemdala. Nangona ungeke uqaphele imihla ngemihla zonke iinguqu kunye neziganeko ezibalulekileyo eziphakathi kwakho, amathuba okuba phakathi kwakho uyazi kakuhle kwaye ujabule ngabo, okanye ujonge phambili kwiziganeko ezithile kunye nezihlandlo.
Umntwana wakho uya kujongana nemicimbi ethile ekhethekileyo kunye namava okuqala okuqala kwiminyaka embalwa ezayo, kwaye zonke zibalulekile ngenye indlela.
Ngezantsi zizinto ezimbalwa ezibalulekileyo zakho phakathi kwakho mhlawumbi ujonge phambili ngexesha leminyaka emibini. Abanye omele ulungiselele, abanye baya kuba ngamaxesha okuzonwabisa kunye nokukhumbula. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko, qiniseka ukuba wena kunye nomntwana wakho ujabulela iimpawu eziphambili kunye namava azayo.
Ukujonga umdala
Njengomzali, mhlawumbi uya kuthanda ukuba unako ukugcina umntwana wakho encinane nje ixesha elide. Ngoxa ungeke ukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho akhule kwaye akhule , mhlawumbi phakathi kwakho. Uninzi lwabantu aba-13 bafuna ukubukeka bekhulile kwaye bavuthiwe kunokuba banjalo, kwaye abaninzi babo baya kufana neendlela zokufashisa iintsholongwane, imikhwa kunye nezinye iindlela ukuze bavele bekhulile kwaye bapholile.
Kukho iingozi ezininzi kule ndlela. Umntwana wakho usemncinci kwaye akalungele iimeko apho abantwana asebekhulile bafumana bejongene nazo. Kwaye, ngelixa i-kati yakho ifuna ukukhula, wena njengomzali uyazi ukuba ukuhlahlela ukuya ekukhuleni kunokuba nzima kwaye kufuneke, kwaye ukunika iminyaka ebalulekileyo yobuntwana akuyona into efanelekileyo.
Ncedisa phakathi kwakho ufunde ukuhlala ngethuba, kwaye ujabulele amava aphuculwayo. Ukubeka imida kunye neengxoxo zentliziyo kunye nentliziyo kufuneka zincede umntwana wakho afunde indlela yokwenza ubuninzi beeminyaka ephakathi xa ekhangele phambili kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo.
Ukuhlala Kwedwa Ekhaya
Umntwana wakho mhlawumbi ubekho ebantwini abadala okanye abantakwabo abadala ubomi bakhe bonke, kodwa umntwana wakho uyazibuza ukuba kuya kuba njani ukuhlala ekhaya yedwa .
Ukuhlala ekhaya ngokwakho kuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho ukhula kwaye akhula, kwaye uthemba ukuba ujikeleze izinto ngexesha elifutshane. Nangona umntwana wakho engakulungeli ukuhlala yedwa ixesha elide, lakho phakathi lingabangela uxanduva lokufumana amava ambalwa.
Qinisekisa ukuba uyazi imithetho yakho yaseburhulumenteni okanye yendawo ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ukuba ushiye phakathi kwakho. Kwakhona, ezinye i-tween zingenako ukukhululeka ngaphandle kokulawulwa kwabantu abadala, ngoko uyazi ukuba ngaba i-kati yakho ikulungele ngempela amava phambi kokuvavanya amanzi.
Ukufumana nokuchitha imali yabo
Kwabaninzi banciphisa ingcamango yokufumana umntwana okanye ukufumana imali yokuhlala kwilwanyana, okanye nayiphi na indlela inomdla. Aba bantwana abadala abakwazi ukulinda ukuba bathathe umsebenzi ukuze bafumane imali yabo baze bayisebenzise, okanye bayigcine into ethile ekhethekileyo. Abanye abantu bafuna ukusebenza ngokufanelekileyo ukuze banokubonisa ukuba bangenza igalelo kwintsapho. Uphakathi kwakho unokulungele ukusebenza ngaphambi kokuba ulungele ukuba asebenze.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ucela ukujoyina abasebenzi, unokunceda. Nika umntanakho umsebenzi wokwenza ngaphakathi kwendlu, kwaye usethe ixesha elide. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufunde indlela yokulawula ixesha, cela uncedo, kwaye ulandele umsebenzi, nangona kunzima okanye kungathandeki.
Nika umntwana wakho uxanduva olukhuselekileyo oluya kukunceda phakathi kwakho ukuphuhlisa izakhono ezifunekayo xa engena kwilizwe elisebenzayo lokwenene.
Ukuthatha Uhambo ngaphandle kwakho
Amaninzi amaninzi azimisele kwaye akulungele ukufumana i-adventure , kodwa oko kunokuba nzima ukuyenza xa umama okanye utata elele. Yingakho abantwana asebekhulile bevame ukuthabatha ukuhamba kwintsimi okanye kunye neeholide ngaphandle komama noyise, kunye nabantakwabo.
Ngaphambi kokuba uzinikele ngokuzithandela kuzo zonke iintsimi zokuhamba kwintsimi, qiniseka ukuba ubuza umntwana wakho ukuba uya kuhamba ngaphandle kwakho, kwaye ungayithathi ngokwabo ukuba ayenzi. Okanye, khawucinge ukuthumela phakathi kwakho ngeveki kwindlu yesihlobo okanye kunye nomhlobo othembekileyo okanye othembekileyo, okanye inkampu yobusuku.
Inkampu yobusuku ivumela abantu ithuba lokuba benze abahlobo abatsha, bafunde izakhono ezibalulekileyo, kwaye babe ne-adventure yabo. Naluphi na amava okhethayo, khumbula ukuba kuya kunceda ukuba phakathi kwakho kuhlakulele ukuzimela kunye nezakhono zokusombulula iingxaki, kwaye kunokukunika nokuphuka, ngokunjalo.
Ukuya kuMdlalo oPhakamileyo weBhola leBhola
Umntwana wakho unokuya esikolweni esiphakathi, kodwa sele esele eqala ukucinga malunga nesikolo esiphakamileyo kunye nayo yonke into emnandi ezayo nayo. Ukuya kumsebenzi wesikolo esiphakeme, njengomdlalo wesikolo sebhola ephakamileyo, into eninzi ayikwazi ukulinda ukwenza. Ukuya kumsebenzi nawuphi na wesikolo esikolweni esiphakamileyo kukuthabatha ama-tween ahlala esondeza abantu abaselula, kwaye afumana isikolo esiphakamileyo kwaye sisakhula. Ukuba umntwana wakho unomdla wokuya kumdlalo wesikolo esiphakamileyo okanye umdlalo wesikolo esiphakamileyo okanye ikhonkethi ujonga ukuhamba kunye ukuze ukwazi ukufunda ngokubanzi ngesikolo kwaye ukhuthaze umdla wabantwana kwixesha lakhe elizayo esikolweni esiphakamileyo.
Ukufumana isoka okanye intombi
Akunakukukhathaza kakhulu ngomntanakho ukutshata okanye ukufumana isoka okanye intombi, kodwa i-kati yakho inokuziva ihlukile. I-Today's tweens ixhala ukudibana kunye nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye ukuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu uyazi. Ininzi yale mibutho yesikhashana kwaye ayinzima kakhulu, kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukutshatyalaliswa, kuya kufuneka wenze imithetho yakho kunye nokulindela kucace. Usenokufuna ukubhala isivumelwano "sokuthandana" sokuthi wena kunye nomqondiso wakho phakathi, ngoko ke akukho nto ayiqondiyo malunga noko kwaye ayivumelekanga.
Nangona ukudibana kungenako ukuba kungathandeki kangangoko kunokuba kubekho esikolweni esiphakeme, kunokuchaphazela ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho kunye nokuzithemba xa kuvela iingxabano okanye ukuphuka, ngoko-ke lungele ulungiselele umntwana wakho ukuba abuyele emva kweenyawo zakhe kudana.
Ukujoyina iQela
Isikolo esiphakathi sinika abantu ithuba lokuba benze okungakumbi ngaphezu koluntu kunesikolo sokuqala. Uninzi lwezikolo zinika amakilabhu emva kwesikolweni okanye imibutho umntwana wakho angayifumana, okanye amaqela ezemidlalo okanye iiklabhu zezemidlalo zangaphakathi. Ukuhlala emva kwesikolo ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiqela kuya kuba mnandi kubantwana abancinci, abaye bahamba ngqo ekhaya emva kwesikolo.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba aphenye okukhethwa esikolweni sakhe, kwaye uzame ukukunceda phakathi kwakho ufumane iqela okanye iqela elihambelana nobuntu babo. Ukuba umntwana wakho sele edlala imidlalo, unokukhuthaza ukuba phakathi kwakho wenze into ehluke ngokupheleleyo, njengokuba ujoyine iqela lezemvelo okanye iqela laseSpain. Iingcamango zibalulekile ekuncedeni phakathi kwakho ukufumanisa into entsha kwaye mhlawumbi nokuba nomdla okanye umdla.
Ukunyanzelwa Kwezinto
I-Tweens ikhula ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo nangengqondo, kwaye ifuna ukuba ukwazi. Amaninzi amaninzi ayavuya kakhulu ngombono wokuba uphethe into ethile. I-middle yakho ingathanda ukulawula abazalwana abancinci ngelixa uxakeke ekudleni, okanye umntwana wakho angathanda ukuthatha inxaxheba kwisiganeko okanye iphrojekthi apho angakhokelela khona. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba azibonelele izakhono zobunkokeli ngokunikezela imisebenzi efanelekileyo kwiminyaka.
Ungacinga ukubeka umntwana wakho ephethe ukucoca i-pantry, ukulungiselela igaraji, okanye ukucwangcisa umyezo omtsha wemifuno. I-Tweens inokufunda ngokuncedisa ngeeholide, ukuthatha uxanduva olongezelelweyo ngemisebenzi yabo yasekhaya okanye iiprojekthi zeklasi, okanye ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwintlangano okanye iqela likarhulumente elijongene neeprojekthi zoluntu okanye imicimbi ekhethekileyo. Qhathanisa umdla wabantwana bakho ngeeprojekthi, kwaye ubone ukuba ngokukhawuleza i-kati yakho ifunda njani izakhono ezintsha kwaye iqhosha ngokwenza umehluko.
Ukufumana Ukunyameka Kwinyani
I-Tweens ixhalabele ukuhlakulela ingqondo yazo kunye nolwazi oluhlukileyo kwaye luhluke kubazali babo. Esi sigaba sophuhliso siqhelekileyo, kwaye abazali akufanele bathathe le nqanaba ngokwabo. Enyanisweni, unako ukuzibamba emhlane ukuze uncede umntwana wakho azive ekhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuzityhila ngokwakhe kwaye azame ngobunikazi, iimfuno kunye namakhono.
Abaninzi abama-10 bafuna ukufumana umdlalo okanye umdlalo owanceda ukuba bathethe ukuba ngubani. Bangamkela imidlalo, ubugcisa, okanye izazinzululwazi ukwenzela ukuba bakwazi ukwenza ingxelo kubo okanye oontanga. Abanye abathathu baya kuba nexhala lokuba bajoyine amaqela (okanye neminye imibutho) kwaye bathathe uxanduva oluninzi ngala maqela. Ncedisa ukunyaniseka kwakho, kwaye ungamangaliswa okanye udidekile xa umntwana wakho egxuma esuka kumdla ukuya kumdla. Yonke inxalenye yenkqubo.
Ukuba Sondela Kuwe
Yikholwa okanye akunjalo, phakathi kwakho mhlawumbi ufuna ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nawe kunokuba ucinge. Nangona umntwana wakho ephuhlisa isangqa sohlobo kunye nokwethembela kulabo bahlobo ngakumbi, ufuna kwakhona ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nawe, umzali. Nangona usenomzali wakho umzali, kwaye usethe imida, kufuneka ujabule kunye kwakho kunye nesigaba sophuhliso.
Umntwana wakho uyakhula, kwaye ufumana zonke iindlela ezihle kakhulu phakathi kwakho. Unokufumana into yokuba into eyenziwa ngumntwana omdala osemdala uqala ukubonakala ngathi, kwaye oko kungakuqinisekisa ukuba wenza umsebenzi omhle njengomama okanye utata.