Enye yeendlela zokuziphatha ezifanelekileyo kukukhusela. Ukuba unokuthintela iingxaki zokuziphatha ngaphambi kokuba uqale, uya kugcina unentsapho enonwabileyo. Ukuthintela iingxaki zokuziphatha kufuna ixesha elithile kunye nemigudu; nangona kunjalo, kungabakho utyalo-mali obunokubaluleka okuza kukugcina ixesha elide.
1. Ukuphuhlisa ulwalamano oluhle
Ukuba awunalo ulwalamano oluhle nomntwana wakho, umntwana wakho akanako ukunyanzeliswa ukuba aziphathe kakuhle.
Njengabantu abaninzi abadala bashukunyiswa ukuba basebenze nzima kumphathi abayithandayo kwaye bayayihlonela, abantwana baya kuba nako ukulandela imigaqo yakho xa beziva bebathandwa kwaye bahlonishwa.
Ukubonelela ngoncedo oluninzi . Nika umntwana wakho ingqalelo engacatshangwanga ubuncinane imizuzu embalwa ngosuku. Dlala imidlalo, ujabule, kwaye wenze imemori. Ukomeleza ulwalamano lwakho, ngakumbi umntwana wakho uya kuba ngumntu oza kuphulaphula imithetho yakho.
2. Yenza iMithetho iVuliwe
Abantwana abanakuyilandela imigaqo ukuba abaqinisekanga ukuba zilindele ntoni. Yakha uludwe olubhaliweyo lwemithetho yasemakhaya uze ubonise ngokucacileyo kwikhaya lakho.
Chaza imigaqo xa ungena kwiimeko ezintsha. Ngokomzekelo, tshela, "Ufuna ukuklibala kwilayibrari," okanye "Akukho kusebenza xa sisityelela uTogo kwisibhedlele."
3. Chaza iziphumo eziphambili kwexesha
Emva kokuba usicacisile imigaqo, xelela umntwana wakho oko kuza kwenzeka xa ephula imithetho.
Umntwana wakho akayi kuba ngumngeni kumngeni kwimithetho okanye umda wokuvavanya ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kuphendula njani.
Yithi, "Ukuba ukhala okanye ugijime kwivenkile, uza kuphuma emotweni ixesha lokuphuma," okanye "Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlala esihlalweni sakho etafuleni kwindawo yokutyela, Ndiza kusasa. "
4. Ukubonelela ngesakhiwo kunye neShedyuli
Yenza ishedyuli yengane yakho echaza xa kufuneka enze umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, xa efuna ukugqiba imisebenzi yakhe, kwaye xa ekwazi ukufumana ixesha lokukhulula.
Xa abantwana basebenzise isakhiwo, banokukwazi ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo.
5. Dumisani ukuziphatha okuhle
Thatha umntwana wakho ukuba abe mhle. Ukunikela indumiso ngokukhululeka. Dumisani imizamo yomntwana wakho kwaye unikezele udumo xa ubona iziphathamandla ofuna ukuzijonga ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Xa umntwana wakho edlala ngokuthula, phawula. Okanye xa ebeka izitya zakhe kwindawo yokucwina, kucacise ukuba uyayixabisa.
6. Sebenza njengeqela kunye nabanye abanonophelo
Nangona imimiselo ayifuni ukuba ibe yinto efanayo kuzo zonke izicwangciso, inceda xa abantwana abanonophelo baqhubeka. Sebenza kunye neqabane lakho, umntanki womntwana wakho, okanye ootitshala ukuba baxoxe ngeendlela zokuziphatha kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezifunekayo.
7. Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Ngeemvakalelo
Xa abantwana beqonda iimvakalelo zabo, banokukwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabo. . Fundisa umntwana wakho ubuchule bezakhono zobungcali kunye nezakhono ezithile zokusingatha iimvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka ezinjengokwesaba, ukudakatheka, ukukhungatheka nokudumala.
8. Fundisa ukuLawula umfutho
Xa abantwana bekwazi ukulawula iimpembelelo zabo, bancitshiswa ukuba bangachukumisi okanye bahlaziye. Fundisa umntwanakho uqeqesho lokunyanzelisa umtsalane ngemidlalo eyahlukeneyo kunye neendlela zokuziphatha.
Xa abantwana beqala ukulawula umgudu, ubomi babo bezenhlalakahle buya kuphucula kwaye bathambekele ekusebenzeni kangcono emfundo.
Ngoko qalisa ukwenza ukulibazisa ukunyaniseka kwaye unike umntwana wakho izakhono azifunayo ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe zomlomo nezomzimba kangcono.
9. Yenza inkqubo yoNcedo
Khangela indlela ofuna ukuyenza ngayo rhoqo, njengokuthi "ukwenza imisebenzi," okanye "ukugcina imisebenzi yakho." Emva koko, misela inkqubo yomvuzo eya kukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale kwindlela.
Abantwana abancinci basabela kakuhle kwiitshathi zesikiti kunye nabantwana abakhulileyo basabela kakuhle kwiinkqubo zoqoqosho lweedokethi . Umntwana wakho uya kukhuthazwa ngakumbi ukuba alandele imithetho kwaye uza kufumana izakhono ezintsha.
10. Cwangcisa phambili
Qinisekisa ekukhuseleni iingxaki zokuziphatha ngokucwangcisa kwangaphambili.
Ukuchonga iingxaki ezinokwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba ziqale.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho unokulwa nomntakwabo onobani osebenzisa umdlalo wevidiyo kuqala, umise inkqubo ecacileyo. Batshele ukuba banokutshintshana kwaye nabani na ophikisanayo okanye olwa naye ulahlekelwa ithuba lakhe. Xa uhlala isinyathelo esinye, ungakukhusela iingxaki ezininzi zokuziphatha.
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