Indlela yokunceda umntwana wakho ayeke le mkhuba ecasulayo kwaye ufunde ukuxelela nokutshitshisa
Ukuxubha kuyisenzo esicasulayo kodwa esingaqhelekanga esikolweni esikolweni esikolweni. Abantwana banokwenza i-tattle kubantwana abafunda nabo esikolweni okanye kubantakwabo okanye ngabahlobo ekhaya. Basenokuxelela ngomzali okanye omnye umntu okhulile.
Indlela engcono yokukhubaza ukukhwaza kumntwana wakho kukuqala ukuqonda ukuba kutheni usebenza njengomntu onolwazi ngaphambi kokuba umqhekele kulo mkhuba.
Ukuba unenkathazo kunye nomntakwabo ongeke ahlanganyele, umzekelo, unokumfundisa indlela yokufumana ezinye iindlela zokusombulula iingxabano. Ukuba uthetha ngabanye ukuba bafumane ingqwalasela, unokumnceda ukuba aqonde indlela enokubangela ngayo abantu ubuhlungu ngokubethekisa kwaye amqhube ekubhekiselele ekuziphatheni okwakheni.
Oko kwathiwa, abantwana kufuneka bafundiswe ukuba bathethe njalo xa umntu ehlakalwa okanye esengozini. Njengoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana bafunde indlela yokuxelela abantu abadala ngokuziphatha kakubi njengokwenyama okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokomzimba, abazali bafuna ukwazi indlela yokufundisa abantwana ukuba bahlule phakathi kokuxelela nokutshiza.
Yintoni ukuxuba?
Ukukhangela isenzo sokwenza ingxelo malunga nokuziphatha komntu okanye ukuziphatha, ngokuqhelekileyo ukufumana loo mntu enkingeni. Kodwa xa umntwana etshela umzali okanye omnye umntu okhulileyo malunga nento ephazamisayo umntu okanye ingabangela ingozi, akuyikukhwaza - oko kunceda umntu okanye ukuthintela umntu ukuba akhathazeke.
Kutheni abantwana bakaTattle
Izingane zingasebenzisa ukuxubha ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Enye into, abantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni bafunda ngakumbi ngemithetho kwaye kuthetha ukuthini ukuwaphula. Bahlakulela imilinganiselo, baqikelele umahluko phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga, kunye nokugxininisa ekuthandeni. Ngoko xa bebona umntu wenza into ayifanelekanga, banokuvakalelwa ukuba baxelelwe kubo.
Abantwana banokuthi bathente ngenxa yokuba bafuna ukufikelela kumzali okanye kumfundisi ochaphazelekayo kwaye ngenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba kunokufumana umvuzo wokungenzi wabo owenzelayo umntakweno okanye umfundi ofunda naye. Basenokukhuthazwa ngumona, njengokuba phakathi kokulwa nabantakwabo . Kuloo meko, umntwana angathena ukuze athole umgca phezu komntakwabo okanye udadewabo.
Abantwana abancinci abasweleyo izixhobo zokuxoxisana kunye nokulawula iingxabano. Umntwana onomuzwa wokuthi umntakwabo akafanelekanga kuye uya kufuna uncedo lwakho ukuba ungenele rhoqo xa unenkinga kodwa ubabonise indlela yokuhamba kunye nabantwana bokwenene abanothando .
Indlela Yokukhupha Ukukhupha
Unokuthatha ukukhwabanisa ngokukhuphaza ngokunyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba acinge ngemiphumo yezenzo zakhe. Buza umntwana wakho, uza kuziva njani ukuba wenza into ethile, mhlawumbi ngengozi okanye engenalo intsingiselo yokuphula imithetho, kwaye omnye umntu wathi kuye? Ngaba wayeza kuba nomsindo? Ukukhazeka? Ngxolongo? Zithengisiwe? Ngaba wayevakalelwa okanye wayevakalelwa?
Ngokucetyiswa kumntwana ukuba ucinga ngeemvakalelo zomntu awayexhonyayo, awufundanga nje umntwana wakho ukuba kutheni ukukhwaza kungabangela ubuhlungu kodwa kubuye kukhulise uvelwano kumntwana wakho.
Enye indlela ephumelelayo yokuphazamisa ukukhwabanisa kukunika umntwana wakho izixhobo zokumnceda afunde indlela yokuxazulula ezinye iingxaki.
Ukuba unenkathazo nomfundi ofunda naye ongayi kuba naye, mxelele ukuba azame ukuthetha kunye nokuguquka xa kunokwenzeka. Ukuba ulwa nomntakwabo okanye udade okhupha okanye ophazamisa iimvakalelo zakhe, umfundisa ukuba abuze ngokuzithoba kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuze ahlonipheke kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ukhokela abazalwana kunye nobudlelwane obuhle babo. Esikhundleni sokunyuka ngexesha ngalinye umntwana wakho ekhupha, khokela umntwana wakho ukuba acinge indlela yokusebenza ngxabano kwaye uncede wenze imeko ibe bhetele kumntwana wakho kwizinga eliqhelekileyo.
Qinisekisa ukuba ugweme umntanakho ngokuxubusha umntu ngokugweba ngokuphindaphindiweyo umntakwabo, umdlali, okanye omnye umntu - ukwenza into engalunganga.
Oku kuya kukhuthaza kuphela umntwana wakho ukuba aqhubeke ekhwaza.
Ekugqibeleni, zama ukujonga uhlangothi oluhle lomntwana wakho ukuba abe ngummeli wabasemagunyeni. Ukukwazi oko abanye kufuneka kwaye akufanele kwenzeke kuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho ufunda imithetho, kwaye ukuxubha yindlela yakhe yokuthi uyazi into elungileyo kwaye yintoni ephosakeleyo.
Indlela Yokufundisa Abantwana Xa Kufuneka Baxelele - Ukuxubana nokuxela
Kukho amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, xa abantwana befuna ukuxelela umntu omdala malunga nento eyenzekayo-xa uthetha uya kunceda umntu (kuquka nabo) abenzakalisa, uya kunceda umntu usemngciphekweni, okanye uya kummisa umntu ozenza ngamabomu kutshabalalisa okanye kukulimaza. ( Ukuxhatshazwa ngumzekelo obalulekileyo kubantwana kufuneka baxelele, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo okanye babone omnye umntu bexhatshazwayo. Xoxa nomntwana wakho malunga nokuxhatshazwa kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okumisa ngokukhawuleza.)
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba acinge ngaphambi kokuba athethe kwaye acinge ngezinto ezifana nomntu oza kuzisa ngaye wenza into ekulimaza omnye umntu okanye ngokwabo okanye enze into engalunganga ngengozi okanye ngenjongo. Buza umntwana wakho ukuba azibuze nokuba uzame ukulungisa ingxaki yakhe ngaphambi kokuba eze kuwe uncedo. Kwaye kukho konke, mbuze ukuba azibuze nokuba ukuthetha kuya kunceda umntu ukuba aphephe okanye azuze kuphela umntu-umntu omnqongileyo-engxakini.
Yiba nomonde. Kungaba nzima kakhulu kubantwana abancinci ukuba bahlule phakathi kwimeko enobungozi kwaye engekho. Xa efika kuwe, mnike ingqalelo kwaye ube nokuqonda okulungileyo. Vumela indawo yokuphambuka kwaye uqhubeke ugcizelela umyalezo obalulekile ukuba ube ngumntu onobubele nonomdla, kwaye uhlale uzama ukukunceda, kunokubangela ukulimala.