Ukumama Kungakhathazeka: Nasi isizathu!
Abantwana bazisa uvuyo, uthando, kunye nezipho ezingenammangaliso ebomini bethu, kwaye akukho nxu lumano olunzulu kunoko phakathi komama nomntwana. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuzibophelela ekukhuliseni omnye umntu ukususela ekusaneni ukuya kumntu omdala (nangaphezulu!) Kuza umthwalo owongezelelweyo wokuxinezeleka, kwaye uxinzelelo oluza kunye noba lunokuba luncedo. Nangona umama ngamnye enokujamelana noxinzelelo oluthile, iimfuno ezininzi zobunina kunye nabaxinzelelekileyo abaye bahlangabezana nazo ziphela jikelele.
Ipesenti ephakamileyo yabamama baziva uxinzelelo kule mimandla elandelayo:
Ixesha lifuna
Ngayo yonke inkathalo kunye nokukhuthazwa okufunwa ngabantwana, kunye neemfuno ezongezelelweyo zabantu abongezelelweyo ekhaya, uninzi lwabafazi banokuva ixesha elifutshane. Ingaba kukho ukungabi nesikhathi esaneleyo sokufumana iimpahla zokuhlamba, ixesha lokuchitha nje ukudlala kunye nezingane, ixesha lokuzimela, okanye ixesha leminye imisebenzi ebalulekileyo, oomama abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba akukho mahora aneleyo ngosuku benze konke abakudinga okanye abangathanda ukukwenza.
ZeMali
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba usebenzisa ulondolozo lwemini, umntana, okanye ukunikezela ngengeniso epheleleyo yokuhlala ekhaya, ukunakekela abantwana kuyabiza. Njengoko bekhula babe yimpahla emitsha, imisebenzi emitsha, kwaye ekugqibeleni baye kwiikholeji, umntwana ngamnye unokufaka ingxaki kubhajethi yentsapho. Ngelixa abantwana banokubaluleka kweendleko, abazali bahlala bejamelana nokunyamezeleka kwengxaki .
Ubudlelwane obufuna
Njengoko oomama batya ixesha elifanelekileyo kwiinkalo zabo kunye nabantwana babo, ngamanye amaxesha ezinye iintsebenzo zithatha isihlalo sokubuya, ingakumbi xa abantwana bancinane kwaye badinga ingqwalasela engakumbi.
Oomama abantwana abancinci bevame ukuziva beqhekeke phakathi kokudibanisa iimfuno zabantwana babo kwaye besenamandla okwenza intetho evuselelayo, amaxesha adlalayo kunye nokulala nomntu oye wanceda ukudala umntwana. Basenokufumana kunzima ukwenza ixesha labahlobo babo njengoko bejongana noxanduva lomama.
Kwakhona, njengoko abantwana bekhula beguquka, oomama bangatshintsha kwaye bakhule kwiindlela ezintsha, ezinokuthi zenze uxinzelelo kubuhlobo obude. Oomama abangabodwa bangakwazi ukujamelana nale nto kwizinga eliphezulu ngakumbi, ngakumbi xa kuthethwa ukuthandana.
IziKhuseli eziKhuselekileyo
Ukuhlawulwa enembopheleleko yokunyamekela umphefumlo omncinci osengozini kwaye ukhulise ubomi obumnandi ukuba ube ngumntu omdala, oomama abaninzi baziva ukuba ihlabathi libe yindawo eyingozi kunokuba ibonakale ikhona. Ukususela kwiintsuku apho abantwana bebetha iindonga baze bafake yonke into emilonyeni yabo kwiintsuku xa abaqhubi beqhuba (ngaphandle kwethu) kunye nokulungiselela iikholeji, kukho ubuninzi beengozi ebantwaneni bethu abajamelene nazo, ngoko ke uxinzelela ukuba oomama bajamelane. Oomama banenkxalabo malunga nokuziphatha kwabafundi kunye nophuhliso loluntu, okwenza zonke izigaba ezintsha zophuhliso zibe ngumngeni.
Ukuzithemba
Kukho ukwesaba ukuba oomama abaninzi banako-ukuba abenzi umsebenzi ofanelekileyo. Ngenxa yokuba ngamnye umntwana unempawu ezizodwa zeempawu, iimfuno, kunye ne-quirks, kwaye ngenxa yokuba abantwana bayakhula baze batshintshe lonke ixesha, akunakwenzeka ukusebenzisa indlela yokulinganisa ubukhulu obufanayo obuya kumama. Oko kuthetha ukuba oomama bahlaziya rhoqo izinto abazenzayo, befuna ulwazi olutsha (ukusuka kwiingcali zabazali abavame ukungavumelani kwimicimbi emikhulu), kwaye bazama ukuhlala isinyathelo esinye phambi kwezingane zabo ukuba zibe ngunyameko njengonina.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, zikhona iimfihlakalo eziza kusombululwa, iingxaki zokusingatha, kunye nemililo yokukhupha endleleni. Kulula ukuba oomama bazibuze, kwaye bagxininiswe yimiphumo yokwenza impazamo. Yonke inxalenye yokuba ngumama onembeza.
Ixesha elilodwa
Ekugqibeleni, phakathi kwale micimbi (kunye nabanye abangathethi), oomama abaninzi bakuthola kunzima ukwenza ixesha kunye nokugcina amandla okuzinyamekela. Ukuphela kwezona zininzi zonyango zonyango, imisebenzi yokucebisa abantu kunye nezinto ezithandwayo zentsuku ezingaphambi komntwana xa uxanduva lomfazi luphindaphinda kunye nokufika komama. Ngokudabukisayo, abaninzi bethu badinga eli xesha ukuba babe bodwa, babonakalise, bahlolisise kwiphephancwadi, kwaye bazinyamekele ukuba sikwazi ukunyamekela abanye.
Ngoko, ejongene nazo zonke iimfuno ezixinzelelekileyo zokukhulisa abantwana, yintoni umama ukuze akwazi ukugcina ubunyulu kunye nokuthula? Eli nqaku malunga noomama kunye nokuzinyamekela kukuqala, kwaye uluhlu lwezibonelelo ezingezantsi lunokunika isicwangciso esipheleleyo seengcamango ukuze sikugcine kakuhle njengomama.
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