Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana wakho engakukhathaleli nendlela yokufumana umntwana ukuba aphulaphule
Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi umntwana wakho akayiva into oyithethayo, okanye uyakukhathalela ngokucacileyo? Ngaba uhlala ufumana ukuphindaphinda into ephindwe kwixesha lokudinwa kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukucaphuka?
Ukuba ukuva okukhethileyo kubantwana yinto oye wayilwela kwintsapho yakho, zi zizathu ezimbalwa ezenza ukuba kwenzeke - kwaye ezinye iingcebiso malunga nokuba ungayiphula njani iphethini.
- Utsho kakhulu. Ukuhlala esifutshane kunye nokubambelela kumgaqo omnye okanye ezimbini kuyona mgaqo-nkqubo ophambili xa ufika ekunxibelelaneni nezingane. Ukunika umntwana uluhlu lwezinto akumele azikhumbule - zithi, uluhlu lwemisebenzi emininzi oyifunayo ukuba umenze okanye ukumkhumbuza ukuba enze izinto ezininzi ukuze alungiselele isikolo, umzekelo - kunokukwenza kube nzima kumntwana ukugcina umkhondo wento efunekayo. Ngokufanayo, usebenzisa amagama amaninzi kunye nokuya kwenkcazelo eninzi malunga nento ethile, njengokuba kutheni uyamsola ngenxa yokwenza into engalunganga, unokuphelisa nje ukuhlaziya umyalezo. Ukufutshane kunye neyona nto ibaluleke ngakumbi kubantwana abancinci, abavame ukuba nengcaciso emfutshane.
- Umntwana wakho ugxile kwenye into. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana bagxininisa ngokukodwa kwinto abayenzayo, enoba babheka imbonakalo eyintandokazi okanye i-movie okanye bedlala ne-Legos, ukuba abakuva nje. (Abantwana, njengabantu abadala, banokungxininisa ngokupheleleyo into ethile; ngoko xa bengayiphulaphuli, ngamanye amaxesha ayinakuzingcikivo kangangoko kubangelwa ukuba bajonge ngokupheleleyo into ethile.) Zama ukubona icala elihle kulo ( ukwakha izakhono zabo zokuxininisa) kwaye ubuze umntwana wakho ukuba anake ingqalelo ngokuya kuye kwaye uthethe ubuso nobuso. Yaye khumbula ukuzama ukunika umntwana wakho ixesha lokutshintshwa ukusuka kumsebenzi akwenzayo kulokho ucela ukuba akwenze.
- Uthetha naye xa wenza enye into. Kwenzeka - uxakeke ukwenza isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye ufuna ukukhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba agqibe umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo ukwenzela ukumemela kuye ukusuka kwigumbi okanye ngaphaya kwendlu. Kodwa xa kunokwenzeka, zama ukungena kumkhwa wokuthatha ixesha lokuya kuye uze uthethe naye ubuso nobuso. Amathuba omntwana wakho ekuphulaphulayo anyuselwa ngokucacileyo ukuba uyamthobela ngokupheleleyo xa wenza isicelo.
- Ugxeka. Ngaba ungathanda ukuba umntu wayehlala ehlambalaza kwaye ngaba ufuna ukunyamekela oko akutshoyo loo mntu? Ukuba ungekho nto ("andiyazi ukuba kutheni ungeke ulalele!") Ngoko umntwana wakho unokukwazi ukukuqhelanisa ngokuqhelekileyo.
- Unoku-oda okanye ucela. Ukuhamba ngokugqithiseleyo umgcini we-drigeant ("Thatha loo matayipi okwamanje!") Okanye umcebisi ("Nceda, nceda, awukwazi ukuthatha amathoyizi akho?") Bobabini banakho ukuvelisa iziphumo ezifanayo ngexesha - abantwana abaphulaphuli . Indlela engcono ukuyibuza ngelizwi elimnandi kodwa eliqinileyo. Fumana loo mgca ococekileyo phakathi kokuyalela nokucela umntwana wakho.
- Awulandeli amagama akho ngesenzo. Ukuba uyazibuza ngokuphindaphindiweyo umntwana wakho ukuba athathe amathoyizi akhe kwaye awukulandeleli nemiphumo xa engakukhathaleli, ngoko uyamfundisa ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, akukukhathalele.
Indlela yokufumana umntwana ukuLawula
Ngoko ngoku ukuba uyazi ezinye zezizathu zokuba umntwana engasayi kuphulaphula, uyifumana njani ukuba ayiqwalasele into oyithethayo? Zama ezinye zezicwangciso zokukhulisa izakhono zokuphulaphula kakuhle.
- Jonga izinto ngamehlo. Yehla kumgangatho womntwana wakho uze umcele ukuba akhangele ngqo kuwe xa uthetha omnye nomnye. Le yindlela ehle kakhulu yokungaqiniseki ukuba unomdla opheleleyo wengane yakho kodwa nokufundisa umntwana wakho imbeko kwaye uphulaphule ngendlela ehloniphekileyo xa umntu uthetha naye.
- Mamela umntwana wakho. Nje ngezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuphulaphula ngokulandela umzekelo owamiselayo. Ukuba wenza umkhuba wokuphulaphula umntwana wakho xa uthetha, uya kukwazi ukwenza okufanayo xa uthetha naye.
- Zama ukufumanisa ukuba kungani engathobeliyo. Cinga ngezinto ezinokubangela umntwana wakho ukuba angakunaki. Ngaba uyamcela ukuba enze into enzima kakhulu ukuba ayiphathe eyedwa? Ingaba unenkathazo yokwenza into oyicelayo ngenxa yokuba ukhathele okanye i-cranky? Khawuqwalasele oko kunokubangela ukuziphatha kwakhe kunokumgxotha nje ngomntwana wakho engayithobeliyo okanye enenjongo yokunyanzela okanye enokukutyeshela.
- Gcina upholile. Njengoko uphukisa njengoko kungenjalo xa umntwana wakho engayiphuliphuli, zama ukuhlala uxolo kwaye u- Zen njengoko ukhokela umntwana wakho, kwaye ugweme ukukhwaza okanye ukuthetha ngelizwi elikrakra. Ngoba? Izizathu ezibini ezibalulekileyo: Enye, xa uvutha umsindo, ubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba awuyikulawula kwaye unokutshintshe amaqhosha akho. Kwaye ezimbini, ngoxa ukukhala kungakufumana iziphumo kwixesha elifutshane, ekugqibeleni liya kulahleka ukuphumelela kwalo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- Chaza ukuba ayihloneli. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba akaphulaphuli okanye angamnaki umntu xa bethetha nawe akuyona indlela enhle yokuphatha abantu.
- Faka injabulo encinane. Ukuba ufumene kwimfazwe eqhubekayo ukuze ufune abantwana bakho ukuphulaphula, utshintshe ukuguqulwa kokusebenzisana kwakho ngokukhanyisa izinto ezithile. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unokukhungatheka ngumntwana wakho ukukhwela kwaye ungakwazi ukulungiselela isikolo ngexesha, sebenzisa ixesha lokuba ubone ubani onokuyiphumelela umqhubi ukuya emnyango okanye ukumisa isatidi esicatshangelwe ukumvuza ngento afunayo ukuba Unokulungela ngexesha leveki okanye ngaphezulu. Sebenzisa ingcinga yakho ukukhuthaza intsebenziswano endaweni yokwenza iimfuno.
- Vula ietafile. Qiniseka ukuba uvumele umntwana wakho wazi ngaphambili ukuba uya kwenza lo msebenzi ukuze azi ukuba awuyikumnyalela: Hlela malunga nemizuzu engama-30 (ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi, kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yomntwana wakho nendlela ayenzela ngayo ) kwaye utshele umntwana wakho ukuba awuyi kumphulaphula. Ngeke kube yinto ende ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho aqonde indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ukuba umntu onokufuna ukuthetha naye.
- Ungalindelanga iziphumo ubusuku bonke. Ukwakha umgangatho wokunxibelelana kakuhle yinkqubo engathatha ixesha elide ukuphuhlisa. Esikhundleni sokulindela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ephulaphule xa uthetha into ethile, jonga ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono zakhe zokuphulaphula njengenxalenye yokwakha isiseko esibalulekileyo esiza kukunceda wena kunye nomntwana wakho ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane obuqilileyo kwiminyaka ezayo.