Indlela yokwenza umntwana wakho ashukuthele endaweni yokugweba
Enye yezona nkxalabo eziphazamisayo kodwa eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha kwezingane zihamba. Abanye abantwana banokuthi bathambekele ngokwemvelo ukuba bahlambulule, bahlawule, baze bahlalutye ngaphezu kwabanye, kodwa oko kuziphatha okuqhelekileyo phakathi kwezingane ukuba abazali abaninzi bayazi ukuba unomsindo wokuba nomntwana aqhubeke edlala okanye ahlanganyele komnye umsebenzi kwaye abonakala engenakunceda into ziye zacelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba zenze.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba zikho iindlela onokulawula ngayo ukuziphatha okukrakra kwaye uncede umntwana wakho afunde ukuhambisa izinto kunye.
Amacandelo aBazali ekuncedeni nabantwana babo iDawdling
- Qonda ukuba kutheni abantwana behla.
Into enokubonakala ngathi umntwana uyayihoxisa izicelo zakho, uthi, ukulahla iitoni zakhe okanye ukuhlamba izandla ukuze sidle isidlo sinokubangela ukuba ugxile kulo msebenzi. Oku kukwazi ukwenza utshintsho ukusuka komnye umsebenzi ukuya kwesinye kulula kakhulu kubantwana abancinci, abangenalo ukuzilawula kunye nokuqeqesha ukushiya into abandakanyekayo kwaye baqhubele kwenye into.
Ukutshintsha i-Dawdling kusenokubangelwa ngumntu. Abanye abantwana banokwemvelo ngokunyanisekileyo ukuya kwimihla kwaye banokuphazamiseka lula ngenye into ngelixa, bathi, ukuxubha amazinyo okanye ukucoca igumbi lakhe. - Cinga ukuba yiziphi iinguqu ezinokuthi zilandele ukuziphatha kwayo.
Ngaba kukho umntakwethu omtsha kwintsapho? Ingaba umntwana wakho uqale isikolo? Ngamanye amaxesha, utshintsho kwimiqathango yentsapho lunokubangela ukutshintsha kwindlela yokuziphatha komntwana. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana usenokuba novuyo ngomntakwethu omtsha okanye uqala isikolo, kuphela ukuba uqaphele ngokukhawuleza ukuba akayivuyo ngokupheleleyo ngenguqu. Cinga ngento enokubangela ukukhwela, okuyiyo indlela yengane yakho yokubonakalisa ukunganeliseki okanye ukungonwabi malunga nento entsha okanye eyahlukileyo.
- Yehla kumgangatho wakhe.
Ngaba ucela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlanganise izinto zakhe esikolweni xa uhlala kwenye into? Ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana wakho akasaphenduli emva kokucela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukulungela, yima oko uyenzayo. Yehla kwinqanaba lakhe kwaye uthethe ubuso nobuso malunga noko akenzanga ngokuchanekileyo kunye noko ukulindele kuye.
- Gcina upholile.
Kuyakhathazeka kakhulu ukubona umntwana wakho edlala kunye neetayiti zakhe phantsi emva kokukhumbuza isikhwama sokufaka ijeyethi yakhe. Kodwa ukukhala okanye ukusebenzisa i-tone ekhuni ukubonisa ukukhungatheka kwakho kunokumenza ukuba ahambe ngokukhawuleza kweso sihlandlo. Ngaphezu koko, uya kuba nako ukucacisa ngokucacileyo kwaye umntwana wakho uya kukwazi ukuphulaphula xa uthetha ngoxolo. Isicwangciso esilungileyo esikhokelela kwisisombululo sesikhathi eside ukuba uhlale uzolile, uqaphele kwaye umkhumbuze ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uphinde uphendule isicelo sakho kaninzi kwaye ulindele ukuba enze njengoko ucela ngaphandle kwezikhumbuzo kwixesha elizayo. - Cacisa imiphumo yokuhlawula.
Mxelele ngokucacileyo malunga nento eyenzekayo xa ungenamathela kwishedyuli. Ngokomzekelo, cacisa ukuba xa engagqoki ngexesha lokuya esikolweni, uya kufika ngokukhawuleza. Oko kuya kuthetha ukuba ulahlekelwa ixesha lokuncedisa kunye notitshala kunye nabahlobo bakhe, kwaye ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokuva ibali elithakazelisayo okanye omnye umsebenzi wasasa. Ukuba akahlambululi amathoyizi akhe ngokuhlwa ngexesha elifanelekileyo, uya kuba nexesha elincinane lokufunda ibali lakhe eliyithandayo kunye nawe ngexesha lokulala . - Vumela ixesha elongezelelweyo.
Ukuze umntanakho asebenze kule sigaba sophuhliso, misela eceleni ixesha elongezelelweyo ekuseni okanye kusihlwa, okanye nanini na ukukhawuleza kunzima kakhulu kwikhaya lakho. Hlela i-alamu ekuqaleni okanye uqale umdlalo uhlambulule ngaphambili ukucwangcisa ukulibaziseka.
- Jonga nje ngomsebenzi oqhubekayo. Ungalindelanga ukuba inkinga yokulungisa ihambe ngokukhawuleza. Umntwana wakho oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala uya kufuna iimkhumbuzo ezininzi ngokuphindaphindiweyo malunga nokuhambisa izinto phambi kokuba athole i-hang it. Yaye khumbula: njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, uya kukhula ngokukhawuleza. Kuze kube ngoko, xhasana, isigulane, nokuqonda.