Xa Ucinga Ngokuthathwa Kwezentlupheko
Ukuthatha ngaphandle kwesizwe sakho kuyisigqibo esikhulu. Kwakhona mpikiswano. Imibuzo ihleli malunga nokuba unentsapho emhlophe ingayilungisa kakuhle umntwana omnyama ekujonganeni nobuhlanga. Ngombulelo kuMthetho woPhuhliso lwaMazwe amaninzi ka-1994 kunye nokuhlaziywa okwenziwe ngawo ngo-1996, kukuchasene nomthetho ukunqanda ukumkelwa okanye ukulibaziseka ukuphunyezwa ngokusekelwe kuphela kumncintiswano wabazali okanye umntwana.
Ngoku i sigqibo sisekelwe ikakhulu kwiintsapho, abasebenzi bezentlalo, kunye nearhente ezibandakanyekayo. Yiyiphi imicimbi omele uyiqwalasele ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokugqibela sokwamkela ngokuthe ngqo? Nazi ezinye iimbuzo ozibuzeyo.
Uya kuthatha njani Ubundlobongela Banye?
Nangona kukho utshintsho olukhulu kwihlabathi lethu, ubundlululo lusekho. Ngaba ulungele ukuphendula imibuzo ebantwini, ngamanye amaxesha angaziwayo, malunga nefa lakho lomntwana okanye umzali? Kuthiwani ngemibono yentsapho yakho eyongezelelweyo? Ngokungafani nabangamazi apho amazwana aya kuba amatsha, umntu ngokubanzi uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kwintsapho. Ngaba kuya kukukhathaza ukuba umalume usebenzisa i-racial slurs? Ubona kancinane kangakanani lo mntu? Kanye ngonyaka? Ngaba oko kudla ngokwaneleyo ukuhambisa isigqibo sakho ngenye indlela? Qaphela ukuba unokwenza isigqibo sokunciphisa umnxibelelwano namanye amalungu osapho lwakho ukukhusela umntwana wakho.
Imibuzo Ngomphakathi Wakho
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho akwazi ukuxhuma nabanye bohlanga olufanayo, ngoko unokuqwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Kuphi ukuhlukana kohlanga lwasekuhlaleni?
- Ngaba izikolo ziyahluka?
- Ngaba unayo abahlobo beentlanga ezahlukeneyo?
- Ngaba kukho ubuhlanga phakathi kwecawa yakho?
- Ngaba uyazi abantu abaye bamkela okanye batshata ngaphandle kohlanga lwabo?
Inkcubeko yabantwana
Abanye baye bathi xa ufumana amazwe ngamazwe uyamkela umntwana kunye nenkcubeko yakhe.
Akudingeki uguqule ubomi bakho bonke ukulungiselela oku. Izinguqu ezincinci zingenza impembelelo enkulu. Unokukunceda ekufundiseni umntwana ngokuzikhukhumeza kwenkcubeko kunye nelifa lakhe?
Impilo, i-Skin kunye neNwele yeNtloko
Iqela ngalinye linokukwazi ukufumana iingxaki ezahlukeneyo zonyango. Ngaba uzifundele kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zezokwelapha kunye nelekhanda ezinokuthi zivelise abantwana bombala? Ngaba uyayiqonda iimfuno zokunakekelwa kweekhumba kunye neenwele zabantu abanamathoni eluhlaza kunye neentlobo zeenwele?
Ukubhiyozela ukungafani kunye nokufana
Abantwana baqala ukubona ukuba umntu ngamnye unempawu ezahlukahlukeneyo zomzimba ezineminyaka engama-3 okanye-4. Enye yezinto zokuqala abazibona ngumbala wesikhumba. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana babone abantu abakujikelezayo ababukeka befana nabo.