Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ivelise ukwanda okuphawulekayo kwinani leentsapho ezibangelwa oomama abangatshatanga. Ngokungafani nemifanekiso emidala yeentlupheko, ezingakhange zifundiswe kunye nabasetyhini abasweleyo okanye abafazi abajongene nobuzali bodwa, baphumelele kakhulu, bafunde kakuhle, abasetyhini abangabhinqileyo bafikelele kumama ngokuzikhethela nangokwamkelwa.
Ukwamkelwa koMhlaba
Abameli baqaphele ukuba inani lamabhinqa asekhaya nakwamanye amazwe landa ngokunyuka. Xa kuthelekiswa nabalingani babo abatshatileyo, abasetyhini abangatshatanga bathi inkqubo yokuthotyelwa kwamanye amazwe yinto encinane kwaye amathuba okufumana umntwana omncinane kakhulu. Abasetyhini abangashadile banokuphinda bafumane ukuthotyelwa kwamanye amazwe ngaphezu kwamkelwa kwamakhaya. Oomama abanokuzalwa banokukhetha izibini ezithandwayo kubantwana abangabantwana abasemakhaya, kunye nobudala bubaluleke kakhulu kwiinkampani ezininzi.
Kufuneka Uphuculwe
Abafazi abangatshatanga bavame ukulandela umama ngezizathu ezifanayo zokutshata kwabasetyhini. Bachaza imfuno efanayo kunye nomnqweno wokuthanda nokukhulisa umntwana wabo. Kodwa ngokungafani nabasetyhini abasetyhini, elinye iqela lijongene neenkqubo ezinzima kunye neendleko zokwamkelwa yedwa kunye neyinyaniso yokuba unokuphelisa umntwana wakhe ngaphandle koyise okanye iqabane.
Oomama abaninzi abangatshatanga abazithobelayo baya kubelana ngokucacileyo ukuba abayena mnye ngokukhetha. Ba nethemba lokuba ekugqibeleni umzali wabo ngumzali kunye naye. Abanye bahlala bekhululekile ukuba bengatshatanga kodwa bakhetha ukuhlala bengatshatanga njengoko bekhulisa abantwana baze babe ngabantu abadala. Ejongene namaxesha e-biological, amaqela amaninzi abafazi abaphumelelanga ngokugqithisa i-intrauterine insemination kunye nabanikeli bamabindi kunye / okanye amaqanda abanikiweyo ngaphambi kokulandela ukutholwa komntwana njengendlela eya kubazali.
UMbutho
Abahlobo, intsapho kunye noluntu banokugcoba umzali otshatileyo ohlangulayo okanye owamkela umntwana, kodwa oomama abangatshatanga bahlale bengabongwe ngokucwangcisa izicwangciso zabo zokuqhuba umama. Abacebisi kunye nabagxeki banokumangalela oomama abangabantwana abangenabunyani ngenxa yokuba bengamniki umntwana kunye noyise kunye nekhaya elungileyo. Abanye baya kuphazamisa ngokukhawuleza amanqaku adibanisa umama ongatshatanga kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuhlaselwa ngabantwana babo. Ibhinqa elingatshatanga lingafuneka ukuba lihlakulele isibindi esitsha sokunqoba iidemon zayo zangaphakathi kunye nokunciphisa iingcinga kunye neenkolelo zakhe zangaphambili malunga nokwamkelwa.
Ukuthotywa
Emva kokutshala imali eninzi kunye nokunyangwa kwabantwana okanye ukuhamba ngehlabathi ukugqibezela umthetho wokuthotyelwa kwamanye amazwe, bobabini abatshatileyo nabazali abangatshatanga banokujamelana nokulindela okuphezulu kunye nokuguqulwa kokubelana ngobomi babo nomntwana. Oomama abangatshatanga banokuziva benetyala kunye neentloni xa befuna ixesha elide kunye nokuzimela kwabo babesakuba ngabanye.
Iinkqubo zoNkxaso
Ngethamsanqa, i-intanethi, ithelevishini, kunye nabezindaba baye baphakamisa ukuqaphela ngemicimbi engabhinqileyo abangabantwana abajongene nayo kwinkqubo yokwamukelwa, kunye nemingeni engayisingatha emva kokubekwa.
Imvelo ye-24/7 ye-intanethi kunye nokufumaneka kwexabiso elininzi lweenkcukacha kunye nezibonelelo kwiwebhu kuye kwabangela ukuba abanamama abancinci nabanobuchule abalungiselelwe ngokufanelekileyo. Umama ongenamzali onokuphumelelayo uyaqonda ukuba akuyena uphawu lobuthathaka okanye umqondiso wokungaphumeleli ukuba ufuna ukufumana inkxaso kunye nenkxaso. Enoba wenza njalo ngeqela leenkxaso kwiintsapho ezithobelayo, umeluleki wakhe okanye umhlaba we-cyber, uncedo lunokufumaneka kuye nakumntwana wakhe osandul 'umntwana. Njengoko esenza utshintsho kwiqela lakhe elitsha njengomama, isikhokelo kunye nolwazi oluqokelelwe kwabanye abaye bahamba le ndlela bodwa banokukunceda ekubukeni kwaye baqale baqaphele izibonda kunye nezithintelo ezaziwayo.
Akunengqiqo ukucinga ukuba zonke izibini ezitshatileyo ziya kuhlala zitshatileyo, kwaye akufanele kucatshangelwe ukuba bonke abafazi abangatshatanga baya kuhlala bengahlali. Kunoko, ukukhuthaza ukuthotyelwa ngabasetyhini abangatshatanga bakholelwa ukuba umlingiswa womntu, amandla kunye nobuchule bokuba ngumzali kubhekwe ngokubhekiselele ekunikezeni umntwana ngekhaya lokumkela.
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