Abantwana babonisa ukuziphatha kwasebuntwaneni obuncinane obunqatshelwe okanye obungeniswayo. Uninzi lwabantu lukholelwa ukuba umntu ogqithiseleyo ngumntu onobungane kwaye ophumayo. Nangona oko kunokuba kuyinyani, oko akusiyo intsingiselo epheleleyo yokuxubusha.
I-extrovert ngumntu okhuthazwa ngokuba ngumnye umntu. Oku kuchasene ne-introvert ngubani okhuthazwa ngokuba yedwa.
Funda indlela umntwana onokubethwa ngayo angaziphatha ngayo.
Iimfanelo ze-Extrovert
Ukuxhamla kwiimeko zeentlalo kwaye zifuna nokuba zifuna ukuhlala zijikeleze abantu. Esikolweni, unokulindela umntwana okhutshiwe ukuba avuyise ukusebenza kwiprojekthi yeqela okanye kwiqela lokufunda kunokuba yedwa.
Ukugqithisa kuthatha "ukupheka" xa kukuphela kwaye kunokulula ukukhupha ngaphandle kwabanye abantu. Xa kufuneka basebenze umsebenzi wodwa, kunokukunceda ukuba ube kufuphi ukuze ukhuthaze kwaye ubavumele ukuba bakuxelele malunga nento abakwenzayo.
Xa kunikwe ithuba, i-extrovert iya kuthetha nomnye umntu kunokuhlala yedwa kwaye ucinge. Enyanisweni, ukuxhamla kubakho ukucinga njengoko bethetha, ngokungafani nabangenayo abanokucinga ngakumbi ngaphambi kokuba bathethe. Ixesha elide lidla ngokucinga ngokugqithiseleyo xa bethetha. Iingcamango azibonakali zinyani kubo ngaphandle kokuba zikwazi ukuthetha ngazo; ukucinga ngazo akukho ngokwaneleyo. Unokufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuthetha nabani na wonke umntu xa uphandle kuluntu.
Bangakwazi ukukhawuleza ukuqala ukuthetha nabanye abantwana kwaye babonakale benza abahlobo abatsha ngokukhawuleza.
Umntwana othakazelisayo unokukhetha ukudlala nabanye abantwana kunokudlala kuphela. Basenokwenzeka ukuba banandiphe umdlalo wezemidlalo kunye neeklabhu. Ukugqithisa kunokuchitha ixesha elongezelelweyo kwiimboniselo zentlalo kwaye ube nabahlobo nabalandeli abangakumbi kunezethulo, ukugcina uxhulumano nabanye kubanga kude.
Nangona umntwana wakho angabonisa ukuziphatha okungenakwenzeka kwezinye iimeko, uphando lubonisa ukuba indlela umntu aphendulela ngayo imeko ethile ayilindelekanga. Uxinzelelo olukhawulezayo lwemeko lunokutshintsha ukutyekela jikelele. Unokucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuthanda ukuya kwiphathi, kodwa ufumanisa ukuba akafuni ukuhamba ngenxa yeemeko ezithile.
Umlinganiselo wokuziphatha ogqithisileyo uhluka ngakumbi kumntu kunabantu, ngoko unokulindela ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuba noluntu olunzulu kwezinye iimeko kwaye ngaphantsi kwezinye iimeko.
Ngaba abantwana abanokuxhamla
Ngenxa yokuba izinto ezixhasayo ziqiniswa ngokusebenzisana nabanye abantu, abantwana abangenakudliwa banokufuna ixesha elithile lokuhlalisa emva kokuchitha ixesha bezonxulumana nabanye abantwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana odibeneyo uya kwiqela, unokubuya ekhaya esonwabile kakhulu. Unokufuna ukuthetha ngezinto ezenzeke kwiqela, ukuba akunjalo nabazali bakhe, ngoko nabahlobo bakhe. Ukuba iqela liyakusihlwa, umntwana okhungathekileyo unokufumana ubunzima bokulala ngenxa yokuba usenamandla amakhulu.
Umntwana okhungathekileyo unokuthula aze athuke lula xa echitha ixesha elide kakhulu. Emva kokuba sele ejikeleze abanye, ke, unokukhawuleza ukuphazamiseka.
Oku kuphakamisa ukuba abantwana abancinciweyo, ingakumbi abo banesipho, banokuthi bakhonze kangcono kwiimeko ezibandakanya umsebenzi weqela, intsebenziswano kunye nentsebenziswano yentlalontle. Kwezinye iimeko, izikolo ezizimeleyo zinokukhetha okungcono kunezikolo zikarhulumente apho abantwana badla ngokukhuthazwa ukuba "benze umsebenzi wabo."
Ngaba I-Extrovert ingaba neentloni?
Ziziphi abantu abaninzi abangaziqondiyo kukuba i-extrovert ingaba neentloni. Ihlazo lelinye igama lokuxhalaba kwentlalo. Oku kunokuba kunzima ngenxa yokuba inkampani inqwenela ngokwenene, kodwa ukuthotywa kunokukwenza kube nzima ukuphumelela ekusebenzisaneni nabantu abangazi.
Iintloni, abantwana abangenakunqwenelekayo yilabo bafuna kakhulu uncedo lokulwa neentloni.
Ezinye iintloni zidibanisa kakuhle kwiimeko zeqela ezihleliweyo apho zingabandakanyeka kuluntu ngaphandle kokufuna ukuza nezihloko zentetho okanye izizathu zokudibanisa. Imizekelo yalolu hlobo lomsebenzi ibandakanya imidlalo yeqela, iqela lempikiswano, okanye umdlalo woluntu.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Nangona ukukhushulwa kunye nokuqala kungakunceda ukuba uhlalutye indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho, ayiyi kuqikelela kuyo yonke imeko. Khumbula ukuba le ngongoma kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngisho nokugqithisa kakhulu kuninzi kuya kufuna ixesha elithile elithulileyo lokuba yedwa okanye unokufuna ukuphepha imeko yentlalo.
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