Ukufumanisa ukuba ungumzali womntwana onobuchule kunokukhokelela kwihlabathi elitsha lokumangalisa nokudideka. Akunakuze ukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho unelungelo lokubeka unyawo kweli hlabathi elitsha. Abaninzi, ukuba akuninzi, abazali abanabantwana abanesiphiwo sokuqala baqala ukuqonda ukuba umntwana wabo akafani nakwezinye iifana zexesha elifanayo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuqonda kuhamba ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokuba siqhathanisa abantwana bethu nabanye abantwana esibaziyo kwaye abo bantwana bavame ukuba ngamalungu osapho lwethu olusondeleyo okanye olwandisiweyo.
Kwaye abo malungu entsapho nabo banokuba nekhono kwaye baza kubonisa iimpawu ezifanayo. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuziphatha "okuhlukileyo" kubonakala ngokuqhelekileyo "okuqhelekileyo."
Ngexesha elithile, nangona kunjalo, abazali abanabantwana abanomdla bahlala becinga ukuba yiyiphi ingcambu yezo ziphatha ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, oko kwenzeka xa umntwana wabo eqala isikolo kwaye ukungafani kokukwazi nokuziphatha kuyacaca ngakumbi. Ingaba uqala ukuzibuza ngomntwana wakho ngaphambi okanye emva kokuba eqala isikolo, uya kufuna iimpendulo. Abanye abantu bathi akukhathaleki ukuba umntwana wakho unikwe izipho okanye ayikho. Iilebhile azibalulekanga. Kodwa ke, akunjalo. Kukho izizathu ezininzi kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho unikwe izipho okanye akunjalo. Esinye isizathu kukuba ukwazi indlela yokujongana neziphathamandla ezinokukuphazamisa. Esinye isizathu siza kukukhuthaza ngokubanzi imfuno zomntwana esikolweni.
Ukuba ufuna iimpendulo, qalisa apha. Izimpendulo azilula ukuza, nangona kunjalo. Yilungiselele ukufunda ezininzi!
Ukuqonda ukuBala kunye nokuQaphela abantwana abanezipho
Xa abazali beqala ukuqaphela oko umntwana wabo abakwaziyo ukukwenza kwaye bayaqonda ukuba umntwana akafani njengabalingani bakhe bomdala, bangase baqale ukuzibuza ukuba umntwana wabo unesipho.
Akuyona umbuzo olula ukuphendula. Isiqalo esihle, nangona kunjalo, kukufunda okuninzi malunga nokuba yeyiphi isipho kwaye uyakwazi ukubona iimpawu zobungakanani. La manqaku ayisiqalo esihle.
- Uvavanyo olukhawulezayo lwezipho
- Iimpawu zabantwana abanesipho
- Iimpawu zabantwana abatsha abanesiphiwo
- Yintoni umntwana onobuchule?
- Indlela yokufumana umntwana onobuchule
- Unokwazi njani ukuba umntwana wakho unesipho?
- Kutheni kulukhuni ukuba uchaze?
Isiseko sovavanyo
Kwiimeko ezininzi, abazali abanabantwana abanomdla bayaqonda ukuba abantwana babo bahluke kakhulu kwabantwana babo bomtshato. Kodwa kusekho ilizwi eligxekayo ezintloko zethu: "Ngokwenene? Uqinisekile malunga naloo nto?" Esinye isizathu kuba kunzima ukwazi okanye ukwamukelwa ukuba umntwana wethu unikwe izibonelelo kukuba akukho nto enjengomntwana onobuchule. Abantwana abanikiweyo bahluke omnye komnye njengabantwana abangenabanikezi bavela kwabanye abantwana abangenabaniki. Ukuze uxolo lwengqondo, abanye abazali baya kukhetha ukuvavanya umntwana wabo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ujabule kwaye uyabhekene nesikolo esikolweni, akusenokuba nesizathu sokuvavanya, kodwa ukuvavanya kunokusinceda sikhuthaze abantwana bethu esikolweni. Akukho siqinisekiso sokuba iziphumo zovavanyo ziya kusifumana naphi na, kodwa kula maxesha, abanako ukulimaza.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ufanele uvavanywe ngumntwana wakho, okanye ukuba unqume ukuvavanya, kodwa ungaqinisekanga ukuba ungaqhubeka njani, eli nqaku liya kunceda.
- Ubuncinci kufuneka uyazi malunga nokuvavanya umntwana wakho onobuchule
- Iindlela ezine zokufumana umntu ukuvavanya umntwana wakho
- Iyintoni intsingiselo yovavanyo lwe-IQ?
- Ngaba uyazi ukuba yintoni na loo migaqo yokuhlola ithetha ntoni?
Ukukhulisa Abantwana abaPhezulu
Xa abazali befunda ukuba umntwana wabo unesipho - nokuba ngaba baye bahlola umkhondo okanye hayi-baphantse baqale bacinge malunga nendlela yokunyusa "izipho" zomntwana. Basenokungxininiswa ngengqiqo yemfanelo kwaye abanokuziva 'befikelela kumngeni.
Into yokuqala endifuna ukuyixininisa kukuba abantwana abanesakhono ngabantwana. Awudingi ukwenza nantoni na eyahlukileyo kunokuba ungayenza nawuphi na omnye umntwana-ngomgaqo. Okokuthi, sifuna ukubona ukuba abantwana bethu bafunda, banomngeni kwaye bayonwabile. Oko kwathiwa, kuba abantwana abanesipho esinomdla bahlala benomdla omkhulu kwaye bafunde ngokukhawuleza, kuya kufuneka uthabathe isantya esithile ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufunda kwaye ucelomngeni. Into yesibili endifuna ukuyixininisa kukuba abanye abantu baqala ukwesaba ukuba baxoshe abantwana babo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba wenza ntoni kubantwana kunokugxiliswa nguwe kunye ne-ajenda yakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba ungasichukumisi.
- Yintoni ongayenza ukuze ukhulise umntwana wakho onobuchule?
- Ukukhulisa izipho kubantwana abancinci
- Izindlela ezi-5 eziphezulu zokukhusela abantwana abanesipho
- Uthini umahluko phakathi kokunyusa nokunyusa?
- Kuphi ixesha lokunyusa umntwana onobuchule ukuba uphumelele?
Qhubeka Uhlola
Kukho okuninzi ukufunda malunga nezingane ezinezipho kunye neemfuno zabo ezizodwa. Abazali banokuziva becinezelekile kwaye bangaqinisekanga, ngakumbi xa bajamelana nemibono echasene nayo "bonke abantwana banesipho." Kodwa ezo ngcamango zisekelwe kwiingcali. Kungcono kakhulu ukufunda okusemandleni akho - kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, thanda umntwana omhle onalo!