Abanye abazali bayagxeka ngenxa yesigqibo sokuba ngaba bangavavanywanga okanye bavanyelwe yini umntwana wabo. Abaninzi ekugqibeleni banquma ukufumana uvavanyo. Ukuba ungomnye walabo bazali oye wagqiba ekubeni uhlolwe ngumntwana wakho, uya kuvela phi xa usenze eso sigqibo? Kubalulekile ukuba uvavanyo luyenziwe ngumntu oqondayo kwaye unamava asebenza nabantwana abanesiphiwo .
Ufumana njani umntu onjalo? Izindlela ezine ezisisiseko zibhalwe apha - ukuze kube lula nokuthembeka. Indlela yokuqala iyona elula kwaye inokukunceda ube ngumhloli othembekileyo. Okokugqibela kufuna umgudu ongakumbi kunye nokunyamekela.
Kutheni Kubalulekile Ukufumana umntu ofanelekileyo ukuvavanya umntwana wakho?
Umhloli oqonda kwaye usebenze nabantwana abanesiphiwo esingaphambili ngaphambi kokufumana iziphumo ezichanekileyo kwiimvavanyo. Xa uqonda ukuba uvavanyo oluninzi lwenziwa, oku kuqondakala. Umhloli uyabuza imibuzo yomntwana ade alahleke imibuzo emithathu ngokulandelana. Ngenxa yokuba abantwana abanesiphiwo esiphambili baqhubekile kwaye banciphise ulwazi olunjengeepongi ezomileyo, banokuphendula imibuzo emininzi ngokuchanekileyo kwaye kulula.
Umhloli ongaqhelekanga ngezingane ezinezipho uya kuqalisa umntwana ngemibuzo kwinqanaba eliphakanyisiweyo leminyaka yabo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana uvavanywa ubunesibhozo, umhloli uqala imibuzo kumgangatho wesibhozo oneminyaka ezisibhozo.
Ingxaki kukuba inokuthatha ixesha elide, ngoko, ukuba umntwana alahleke loo mibuzo emithathu ngokulandelelana. Kwaye oko kunokukhokelela ekukhatyweni, ekukhunjini, okanye zombini. Oko ke, kukhokelela umntwana ukuba aphendule imibuzo ngokungalungile, oko kukukhokelela kumanqaku angalunganga kunye nomfanekiso ongachanekanga wamakhono omntwana .
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umhloli ojwayelene nabantwana abanesiphiwo ngokuqhelekileyo uya kuqala ukuthetha nomntwana ixesha elide ukuze aqonde umgangatho wamakhono omntwana. Uya kuqale uvavanyo kunye nemibuzo ephakanyiswe kubantwana abadala. Oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha elincinane ukuba umntwana alahleke imibuzo emithathu ngokulandelelana, ukunciphisa amathuba okuba umntwana uya kukhathala okanye akhathazeke . Umfanekiso wamakhono omntwana ukhululeke kakhulu ukuba uchanile.
Ngoku ukuba uyazi ukuba kutheni umahluko wokufumana umhloli onokuqonda abantwana abanikiweyo, unokugxila ekufumaneni ukuba lo vavanyo!
Iindlela zokufumana i-Tester
- Xhumana neNkampani Yakho Yombutho
Abantu abakwimibutho bayakwazi kwaye banokuba nolwazi malunga nabahloli abafanelekileyo kwimeko yakho. Nangona kunjalo, abanako ukuqonda nayiphi na indawo kwindawo yakho, ngoko ke kufuneka uhambe. Kwakhona abanakho ulwazi malunga nabahloli. Nangona kunjalo, le yindawo enhle ukuqala. - Qhagamshelana ne-Ofisi yoLawulo lweSikolo kwiSixeko esikhulu esikufutshane
Ukuba unethamsanqa, uhlala okanye usondele kakhulu kwisixeko esikhulu. Iinkqubo zesikolo kwiidolophu ezinkulu zihlala zine-psychologist eyenza ukuvavanywa kwenkqubo yazo. Fumana ukuba unayo kunye nokuba kunjalo, ungamnxibelelana njani naye. Ezi zengqondo zineendlela ezizimeleyo kwaye zisoloko zixhomekeke kwinqanaba elithile kubantwana abanesakhono.
- Qhagamshelana neSebe lezeMfundo zeeNzululwazi
Amanye amanyunivesithi anika imvume yokunika inkxaso kwiSebe labo lemfundo. Ezi zikolo zinakho nokuba nabantu ngaphakathi kwisebe lezemfundo yengqondo abanokwazi ukuvavanya okanye ukwazi umntu owenzayo. Ukufumana izikolo ezinezibonelelo eziphathekayo, ungaqhagamshelana neSebe lezemfundo leSebe lakho. Ibhunga leWebhsayithi yeGosa eliPhezulu leSikolo liGunya lidibanisa nesebe lemfundo yesebe. - Biza iiNgqondo zeNgingqi
Ukuba awukwazi ukufumana uvavanyo usebenzisa enye indlela, ungabiza oogqirha beengqondo kwiindawo kwaye uthethe nabo. Ekubeni ezi zengqondo zengenakuza kunye neengcebiso ezivela kumntu owaziyo kunye nemvelaphi yazo, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe kunye nomhloli ukuba afunde oko awaziyo ngabantwana abanezipho. I-Davidson Institute ineqhosha elinoluhlu olubanzi lwemibuzo yokubuza umhloli ongenakho. (Ngaphantsi kwesiqingatha phantsi kwesi nqaku.) Andikwazi ukucetyiswa ololuhlu ngokukwaneleyo ukuba nawuphi na umzali ofuna umntu ukuba avande umntwana wakhe.
Iingcebiso
- Ukuba ufumana i-psychologist ngokusebenzisa inkqubo yesikolo, qiniseka ukuba unamava anomntwana onobuchule. Iinkqubo ezininzi zesikolo zinomsebenzi wengqondo yengqondo onoxanduva lwabo bonke uvavanyo lwabo bonke abantwana. Akunakwenzeka ukuba banamava abanesiphiwo, kodwa kunoko, banokuba namava ngokufunda abantwana abakhubazekile.
- Umhloli onokuthi unokuxelela ukuba amava anabantwana abanesiphiwo ayimfuneko ukuba agwenywe. Loo mntu akaqondi kakuhle okanye akanamava asebenza nabantwana abanesiphiwo. Enyanisweni, ukubuza malunga nezobuchule kunokudala ingqiqo kuloo mhloli ukuba ungomnye wabazali "abo" abafuna ukuba umntwana wakhe abe nekhono. Isimo sengqondo singathinta uvavanyo.