Ngaba ukukhathazeka kungabonakaliswa kwangaphambili kwesipho?
Ukungaqondi kakuhle malunga nabantwana abanesakhono kukuba izipho zabo azibonakali emva kokuba baqale isikolo. Iimpawu eziphathekayo, ngokwenene, ziyaqatshelwa kwiintsana kunye neentsana ukuba uyazi iimpawu. Zingaquka:
- Ukuqapha okukhulu okanye ukuhlala ujikeleze
- Isidingo sokulala ngaphantsi kunezinye iintsana
- Imfuno yokuvuselela rhoqo xa ivukile
- Ukukwazi ukulinganisa izandi ngaphambili kunezinye iintsana
- Ukukhathazeka okungaqhelekanga kwizandi, ukuthunga, imibala, kunye nezinto ezinqwenelekayo kunye nokuphendula ngokungaqhelekanga kwimimiselo engathandekiyo (umpawu we- Dabrowski's supersensitivity )
Ngelixa umntwana engadingeki ukuba abe nazo zonke izicwangciso, abantwana abaninzi abanomvuzo baya kubonisa ngaphezulu kweyodwa.
Kudinga Ukukhuthazwa Kwengqondo
Uphawu olubalulekileyo lwezakhono kwiintsana luyimfuneko yokuvuselela ingqondo. Enyanisweni, akuqhelekanga ukuba iintsana eziphathekayo zifikelele kwaye zize ziqale ukukhala xa zingenakunikezelwa rhoqo.
Abazali banokudandatheka xa umntwana wabo wayesondliwe kwaye utshintshile kodwa akayi kuyeka ukukhala okanye angaboni. Nangona abanye abantu bengayibona le nto njengobuntu, bememezela ukuba umntwana "uyamkhathaza" okanye "ufuna," kuya kuba kuhle ukuba umntwana usuke ekhungathekile ngokungabikho kokukhuthaza.
Khangela ngale ndlela: iintsana azikwazi ukuhamba zodwa kwaye ziyakwazi ukubona okokukhawuleza phambi kwazo.
Kwezinye iimeko, kunokuthi kube khona ilitye elingenanto. Nangona ufaka ifowuni phezu kwesibhedlele, ukungahlawuli komfanekiso kungaboneleli okwaneleyo kumntwana onobuchule onqwenela ukutsha kunye nokufumanisa.
Indlela Yokuxelela Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Uphethwe
Nangona kungekho mithetho ekhuni kwaye ekhawulezayo ekufumaneni izipho kwiintsana, zikhona iimpawu ezithile zokuziqwalasela.
Unako ukuxelela ukuba umntwana usuphethwe xa isandi esitsha okanye ingoma inomphumo wokuthoba ngokukhawuleza. Ngexesha elithile, nangona kunjalo, ingoma enye okanye isandi sinokusebenza kangangoko okanye ukuyeka ukusebenza ngokupheleleyo. Ijubane apho oku kwenzekayo kubonisa ukuba luncedo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana uya kuhlala ezolile xa ephendulelwa ukuba abhekane nezikhokelo ezahlukeneyo okanye unikezelwa into entsha yokujonga. Abazali abanabantwana abanesakhono baya kuqaphela ukuba, xa abantwana babo beyingane, babeza kuhamba nabo rhoqo ngemizuzu engama-20 ukuze bahlale bekhala.
Uphando loPhando
Izifundo ezininzi ziye zazama ukucacisa ukuba iimpawu ezithile zentsana zibonisa izipho. Abaninzi baye bagxininisa kwiingcamango zesimo, apho umntwana engaphenduli kangako kwisicatshulwa esiqhelekileyo, kunye nokukhethwa kwintshukumo, apho umntwana usabela ngakumbi kwisimo esitsha.
Olunye uphando olunjalo, olucatshangelwe ukusekwa kobuchule bokuphanda, olufunyenwe kukuba kukuba ezinye iintsana zaziqhelanisa nokuvuselela ngokukhawuleza kunabanye, zibonisa ukuba zibambe kwaye zigcinwe ngolwazi oluthile ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Iintsana nazo zabonisa ukhetho olubanzi lokuvuselela okungaqhelekanga ngokuchasene nalabo abathandana nabo.
Kwiphepha le-flip, iintsana ezifanayo zazijonga ivuselelo elitsha kunye neliveli ixesha elide kunabanye abaye batshintsha ingqalelo yabo okanye bengabalulekanga kwimpendulo yabo. Oku kuqhubeka kubonisa ukuba iintsana zinamandla amakhulu okuguqulela ukuvakalelwa ekuqondeni (inkqubo yengqondo yokufumana ulwazi nokuqonda ngokucinga, amava kunye neengqondo).
Ekuphononongweni kwabo kokugqibela, abaphandi babike ukuba, ngeli xesha aba bantwana babesibhozo, bavavanywa njengezakhono kwiimvavanyo eziqhelekileyo ze-IQ.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Nangona akukho nanye yale nto ifanele iphakamise ukuba ukutshatyalaliswa kwezingane kuyisimboli esinesibonakaliso sobubungqina, sinokuphinda sifunde indlela esibheka ngayo iintsana ezizincancisayo okanye ngaphezulu "ezinzima" kunabanye.
Ekugqibeleni, isipho sinokuba malunga nokuhlala kwimo engqongileyo; kusenokuba sisistim esilungele ukuzalwa esilungele ukufumana, ukunyusa, kunye nenkxaso.
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