Umntwana onobubele obunomzwelo, uPhysical, and Intellectual Development (Pure Development) angabikho
Uphuhliso olusisiseko lubhekiselele ekuveleni kwengqondo, ukungathandabuzi ngokomzimba kunye nokukhupha. Ngokomyinge wabantwana, le miba emithathu yenkqubela phambili yophuhliso malunga nezinga elifanayo. Oko kukuthi, uphuhliso luku "sync." Umyinge oneminyaka emi-3 ubudala unamaqondo engqondo nangokwenyama kunye nokukhula komoya njengokuba baninzi abaneminyaka engama-3 ubudala.
Nangona kunjalo, kubantwana abanesakhono , ukuphuculwa kwezo ndawo kungabikho "ukuvumelanisa." Intuthuko yengqondo yomntwana ingaphumelela ngakumbi kunokuphuhliswa ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, leyo inkqubela phambili kwinqanaba elihlukileyo. Ngokomzekelo, oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala onokuzikhethela unokuxoxa ngengxaki yenkomfa yehlabathi ngomzuzu omnye kwaye umzuzu olandelayo uphonsa umsindo kuba kufuneka alale.
Kuyakhathazeka kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kudideka kubazali kuba aba bantwana abahlali besenza ixesha lokufunda ngokwengqiqo, kodwa babonisa ukuziphatha ngokomzimba, kwentlalo kunye nokuziphatha kubantwana beminyaka yabo yokulandelana kweminyaka.
Indlela Uphuhliso Lwase-Asynchronous luchaphazela ngayo Umntwana Ophucukileyo
Ukuphakama kwe- IQ yengane yikho , ngokuthe xa kunjalo ngaphandle kokuvelisa intsebenziswano yakhe. Umntwana onobubele oneminyaka engaphambi kwexesha lakhe lokuhlala naye akudala kungekudala iminyaka engqondweni okanye entlalweni. Ubunono obuphambili bengqondo abuvumeli ukuba umntwana alawulwe imvakalelo engcono kunanoma yimuphi omunye umntwana.
Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana aqhube phambili kuzo zonke iinkalo zophuhliso, alindelekile. Ekugqibeleni, uphuhliso luye lwaphuma, phantse rhoqo rhoqo ngexesha lokuqala kwentsha.
Uphuhliso olungabonakaliyo lungafani kwaye lunokubangela ezinye iingxaki zangempela kwiintsapho ezineenkomo kunye neentsapho zabo. Ezi ngxaki zibi kakhulu kubantwana xa abazali babo bengayiqondi le patheni yokuphuhlisa.
Abantwana abanikiweyo bavame ukuziva ngathi bangenzi kakuhle, ngokukodwa xa beklasini nabafundi bendabuko. Kubalulekile kungekuphela nje ukunyamekela ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo komntwana kodwa nentuthuko yakhe yentlalo kunye nomzimba ngokunjalo.
Ulawulo Lomoya
Ukulindela abantwana abanesiphiwo esinokuphuhliswa kwamanqanaba angabonakaliyo kwaye akufanelekanga. Umntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala onokwazi ukuxoxa ngeengcamango zokuqothulwa kwe-dinosaur okanye ukuceba izicwangciso zokunceda abangenamakhaya baseneminyaka eli-5 ubudala. Oko kuthetha ukuba lo mntwana unokukhuseleka ngokomzwelo njengalowo nawuphi na oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba umntwana uqhubekile, ucinga kwaye uthetha njengomntwana omdala, abanye abantu abadala bangalindela ngephutha ukuba alawulwe ngumntwana omdala.
Kubalulekile ke ngokokuba abazali baqaphele ukuba ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nentlalo yoluntu kungeke kulandelelaniswe nophuhliso lwakhe lwengqondo. Ngaphambi kokuba uphendule ngokunyuka kwengqondo yomntwana okanye ugqibezele ukuba umntwana usempilweni okanye ekhulile emoyeni, misa isikhashana ukuba ukhumbuze ngeminyaka yengxaki yomntwana. Indlela yokuziphatha inokuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kumntu okulindelwe kubantwana abaneminyaka efanayo.
Uphuhliso Lwenyama
Enye inselele yabantwana abanesakhono kukuba ukukhula kwabo ngokwenyama kungeke kwenzeke njengophuhliso lwabo lwengqondo, kodwa luya phambili njengoko kulindelwe iminyaka yabo.
Ngokomzekelo, umntwana ophakamileyo wengqondo uyakwazi ukuvavanya umsebenzi awenzayo aze awuqhathanise nomsebenzi wabantu abadala. Uyakwazi ukujonga umfanekiso ogqityiweyo engqondweni yakhe, kodwa izakhono zakhe ezifanelekileyo zezithuthi zingenakulungeleka ukuba zivumele ukuyidweba okanye ukuyipende. Uya kuthukuthela xa ebona ukuba umsebenzi wakhe awuhambelani nomsebenzi wabantu abadala. Akaqondi ukuba imbambano kukuba ukukhula kwakhe komzimba akufikelele kwizinga eliya kumvumela ukuba enze uhlobo lomsebenzi acinga ngalo.
Xa abazali bomntwana beqonda ukuphuhliswa kwe-asynchronous, banokuxhasa umntwana wabo kwaye bancede umntwana aqonde ukuba izihlunu zabo azilungele ukwenza oko iingqondo zabo zifuna ukuba zenze.
Yintoni Abazali Bangayenza?
Akukho nto enokuyenza ukuze utshintshe indlela abantwana abaphuhlisayo ngayo, ukuze uphuhliso olungapheliyo lukwazi ukulungiswa okanye luguqulwe. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi kwikhaya elinomntwana onganamathelwano kunokuba lula xa abazali beqonda ukuba uphuhliso. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezikhawulezayo:
- Qaphela ukuba ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nentlalo yoluntu kungeke kulandelelaniswe nophuhliso lwakhe lwengqondo. Ngaphambi kokuba uphendule umsindo womntwana wakho okanye uqukumbele ukuba umntwana wakho usempilweni okanye ekhulile ngokomzimba, misa isikhashana ukuba ukhumbuze ngeminyaka yengane yakho.
- Qonda ukuba ukuphuhliswa kwamanyathelo okudala kukudala iimfuno ezizodwa . Ngokomzekelo, abantwana abanomsebenzi badinga ukuxhaswa ngokomzwelo njengabo bonke abantwana, kodwa bafuna ukuvuselelwa kwengqondo. Umntu oneminyaka engama-4 ubudala onokuzibonela onokuxoxa ngezimbobo ezimnyama usafuna iimpahla eziduduzayo.
- Qaphela ukuba abantwana abanikiweyo abanako ukufumana iimfuno zabo zengqondo, ezentlalontle kunye neengqondo ezidibana neontanga ezifanayo. Oku kuthetha ukuba banako ukuhlalisana kunye nezingane zabo ubudala kodwa banokufuna amathuba okusebenzisana nabanye abantwana abanesiphiwo, abantwana abadala okanye abantu abadala. Abazali bafanele benze konke okusemandleni ukubonelela ngamathuba.
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Umntwana wakho unokufumana uphuhliso lwengqondo oluphambi koontanga lwakhe, kodwa unokuba nokuphuhliswa kwengqondo, yentlalo kunye nophuhliso lomzimba ngokuvisisana nabanye abantwana bakhe ubudala. Uya kuyidinga inkxaso yakho, ukuqonda kunye nesikhokelo njengoko oku kunokudideka nokukhungathekisa.