Ukugcina upholile xa umfundi wakho wokufundela usweleka ukulawula
Kwenzeka nakubantwana abahle kakhulu, ngokuqhelekileyo kumaxesha amaninzi. Kwiofisi yegqirha. Umgca kwivenkile yokutya. Phakathi kwendawo yokudlala. Ubushushu obukrakra buya kwenzeka nanini na kwaye kaninzi ngaphandle kwesixwayiso.
Ukukhathazeka kumntwana kunye nokuhlazisa umzali, ukuvutha komsindo kuyinto eqhelekileyo yokuphuhlisa umntwana. Ubushushu bokuba ngumfundi wesikolo kaninzi bubangelwa kukukhungatheka - ukungakwazi ukuzithetha kakuhle , ukungonwabi kwimeko yangoku okanye ukhathele kakhulu , ulambile okanye utyhafile.
Isihluthulelo sokusingatha ukuvutha komsindo kukuba ungadli kuwo - ukuba unako ukugcina upholile, mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uya kuhlaziya ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba udlulile kwinqanaba lokungavumeli ukudabuka ukuqala, nantsi indlela yokuyeka ukuvutha komsindo:
Kutheni Abantwaba Banobutshongo?
Nangona kunjalo ngokugqithiseleyo kwiminyaka emncinci, abaninzi abasesikolweni basenokuba nexhala, kuninzi ukuxhalaba kwabantu abadala. Ixesha eliqhelekileyo eliqhelekileyo lokudabuka linye ngenye yezine, nangona nabani na abanako ukufumana enye (nangona ikhulile!). Yaye nangona ezinye zivela kwisiganeko esibuqilileyo, ezininzi izibilini zivela ngenxa yokudakatheka kolunye uhlobo. Ukuthungela kunye nokuthukuthelela wonke umntu obandakanyekayo, (ingakumbi xa kwenzeka kuluntu) ukudabuka yindlela umntwana angayenza ngayo xa bezama ukuzimela ukuzimela, kodwa into eyenzayo. Kukho iziganeko ezininzi zokuqhuma izibungu:
- Abafundi besikolo abangekho ukuphuhlisa izakhono eziya kubavumela ukuba baziveze ngendlela abangathanda ngayo kwaye xa bengenakukwazi ukufumana umyalezo wabo ngaphaya, ukuphazamiseka kuya kwenzeka.
- Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana akanako ukuqonda into ayifunayo - unokuba ukhathele okanye ulambile okanye ucocekile.
- Ukuba umntwana uzama into yokuqala okokuqala-ukubopha izicathulo ngomzekelo kwaye akakwazi ukuyijonga.
- Wayenokuba nje nomhla obi.
Abanye abantwana abayi kuba neencama xa abanye bebenokuba namaxesha ambalwa ngosuku.
Akukho sizathu esicacileyo sokuba oko kwenzeka ntoni, kodwa iingcali zokuphuhliswa kwabantwana zisola ubuninzi bezinto ezihlukeneyo, kubandakanywa nobudala bomntwana, amanqanaba okunyamezela, imeko yakhe jikelele kunye nemiba yempilo efunyaniswayo kwaye engafumaneki.
Kufuneka uqwalasele kwakhona ukuziphatha kwakho. Ingaba uzinikela kwimfuno yengane yakho ngokulula okanye ungekho kakhulu? Ezinye iziphumo ziye zafumanisa ukuba umntwana unomsindo xa ephendula ngokubhekiselele kwindlela umzali asabela ngayo kwimeko, nokuba utsho ewe okanye cha ukuthenga i-candy kwivenkile okanye xa umntwana ecela eminye imizuzu embalwa indawo yokudlala.
Oko Ukwenza Xa Umntwana Wakho Ebenelisekile
Kukho izikolo ezimbalwa zeengcamango zokusingatha umsindo kunye nento oyikhethayo iya kuxhomekeka apho ungowona unjani uhlobo lwebhokhwe onalo.
- Ungayithobeli: Ukuba unako, zama ukuhamba kude, uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho ukhuselekile kuqala. Hlalani kufuphi, kodwa qiniseka ukuba icacile ngezenzo zakho ukuba isibonakaliso sakhe asinasiphumo kuwe. Musa ukujonga iso kwaye ungathethi naye. Xa ebona ukuba akafumene impendulo, mhlawumbi uya kumisa.
- Ukwahlula: Ukuba awunaso isisu ukuba ungagcini, kukho ezinye iindlela onokuzama ngazo. Soothe umntanakho ngokumxubha umva kwaye uthethe naye kwizandi eziphantsi, ezithule. Abanye abazali bafumana ngokuphindaphindiweyo inqaku elifanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngathi, "Ulungile," okanye "Kulungile" okanye ukucula ingoma ehlazileyo okanye isingeniso se-nursery kubonakala isebenza. Ungaphinda uzame ukujoca i-humor encinci kwimeko ngokuxelela ihlazo elingenalutho okanye ukwenza ubuso obuhle.
Oko ungakufanele ukwenze: buyela kumntwana wakho okanye uzame ukuqiqa naye. Ngethuba umntwana wakho ephakathi kokuvutha komsindo, akukho ndlela yokufikelela kuye. Umele ulinde de kube sekuphelile.
Ukuba udabuka kwindawo kawonkewonke, mthabathe uze uye naye kwindawo eyimfihlo njengemoto yakho okanye igumbi lokuhlambela. Ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukunyamezela phantsi, mbeke kwisitulo sakhe semoto uze ekhaya. Ngelishwa, kukho ezinye iimeko apho ungeke uhambe khona, njenge- moya okanye isitimela. Yenza okusemandleni akho kwaye ubekezele. Abanye basenokucaphukisa kodwa umntwana wakho uyinkxalabo yakho, kungekhona nabani na.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukuluma, ukukhaba, ukubetha okanye ukubonisa ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kakubi, kufuneka uthathe inyathelo ngokukhawuleza. Susa umntwana kwimeko aze ahlalise.
Xa ukudabuka kudlulile, ungagxini kwizinto ezenzeke ngomsindo okanye ubushushu njengokuba unakho. Ukuqhubela phambili okwenzekayo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuya kukhathaza kakhulu umntwana wakho kwaye kunokubangela ukuba baqale ukudumala kwakhona. Kunoko, mnike ukumbamba kunye nokumanga kwaye uqhubeke. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngawo, linda iiyure ezimbalwa xa unesibili.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, eli nqanaba aliyi kuhlala ngonaphakade. Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula kwaye ufunda indlela yokuziveza kakuhle ngayo, uya kufunda indlela yokusingatha iimvakalelo zakhe.