Yenza ukutshatyalaliswa kwakho ngokukrakra kwixesha elifundisekayo
"Unomhlaba uze uneminyaka engama-18!" Uninzi lwabazali lithetha into enxulumene nale mizuzu ubuncinane ngexesha elinye. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ulahlekelwa ngamazwi anengqiqo, ezo ntlobo zongongelo zingaphuma nje emlonyeni wakho ngaphandle kwengcinga eninzi.
Ingaba usisongela ukulahla zonke iimathoyizi zomntwana wakho, okanye umxelele ukuba akayi kuphinda aphume kunye nabahlobo bakhe kwakhona, indlela oya kuyifumana ngayo ngokubaluleka kwakho kubalulekile.
Phenduka ngokukrakra kwakho kwithuba lokufundisa umntwana wakho ezibalulekileyo izifundo zokuphila.
Ungayigcini into oyikhankayo
Kuyakulingalisa ukungayinaki isongelo esichukumisayo oyenzile xa uhlalise. Kodwa oko kuthumela umntwana wakho umyalezo ongafanelekanga. Uya kuqala ukukholelwa ukuba awuthethi ukuba uthetha ntoni.
Ewe, loo nto ayithethi ukuba kufuneka ulandele ngokuthethileyo. Ukuba uthe uthe uya kukhwela zonke izinto zokudlala oziphetheyo kwaye uzilahle kude - ngenxa yokuba wayecaphukile ukuba akazange athathe indawo yakhe - ungayi kuphuma ngaphandle kweebhonki.
Kodwa ukuzenza njengokuba ungatsho nto nantoni na. Ingamshiya umntwana wakho azive exhalabile njengoko elindele ukujonga ukuba uya kulungela njani ingozi yakho. Yaye uya kushiywa edidekile xa isohlwayo singabikho.
Ingxoxo Ethembekileyo
Xa ucebile, kwaye uqaphele ukuba awukwazi ukulandela ngokusongela kwakho, hlala phantsi kwaye uthethe nomntwana wakho.
Umzekelo wendlela yokwenza uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakho . Cela uxolo kwaye ubonise ngokucacileyo ukuba awuyi kulandela emva kwesijeziso esibi esasongelayo.
Qaphela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zenza ngcono kuwe. Yithi, "Ndandithukuthele ngokwenene kwaye ndathi izinto ezindifanele ndingabi nazo. Uxolo."
Ukubonelela ngeSiphumo Esingqiqweni
Shintsha isiphumo esibi esasongelayo ngesiphumo esinengqiqo . Ukuba umntwana wakho akayifumananga amathoyizi akhe, athathe amalungelo akhe ade ahlambuluke. Okanye ukuba umntwana wakho ulahlekelwe ixesha lokufika kwakhe, umxhomeke ngeveki.
Chaza umphumo omtsha kumntwana wakho kwaye wenze icace ukuba uya kulandela. Mbonise ukuba ujolise ukuba uthetha oko uthethi kwaye uthetha oko uthethayo.
Yenza isicwangciso sokukhusela ukuba senzeke kwakhona
Ngamanye amaxesha, iingxaki ezingaphezulu kwezona ziphezulu zivela kwixinzelelo oluninzi. Ukuba usuqhaqhaqhekile xa ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, okanye ujongene nobunzima obukhulu bezemali, uya kuba nokukhululeka kumntwana wakho.
Ukuba kunjalo, thabatha indlela oziphatha ngayo njengesilumkiso sokuba inqanaba lakho lokunyamezela liphezulu kakhulu. Thatha amanyathelo okulawula uxinzelelo lwakho ngendlela enempilo ukuze ube ngumzali ongcono.
Ukuba ukunyamezela kwakho kwaphazamiseka ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakuhle komntwana wakho, phuhlisa isicwangciso sokujongana nayo. Ukuchonga imiphumo emihle ongayisebenzisa namhlanje - kunye nakwixesha elizayo. Ukuzibandakanya kuya kukunceda ukuba ungasebenzi kakuhle.
Yenza inkqubo eya kuphazamisa ukuziphatha kakubi. Inkqubo yoqoqosho lweempawu okanye ityati yokuziphatha ingahamba indlela ende ekukhuthazeni umntwana wakho ukuba aziphathe.
Ukuba uphazamisekile ngenxa yokuba unesimo sokutshatyalaliswa - okanye ukwesaba - ukuqhuba ukuphefumula ophezulu ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Ingaba umntwana wakho uthe uyamthiya okanye wazama ukubalekela, wazi ukuba unokunyamezela xa uvakalelwa ngokwenene. Gcina loo nto ingqondweni yakho ukuze ukwazi ukukhumbuza ukuba ungayiphumeli nayiphi na imiphumo ekuzayo xa uvakalelwa kakhulu.
Ukulawulwa Kwempazamo Engundoqo
Ukuba ngaba izimvo zihamba ngaphezu kokusongela ingozi, kubalulekile ukwenza ulawulo olubi lomonakalo. Kukho izinto ezithile ongazifanele utsho kumntwana . Ukuba ubeka izimvo okanye ukuziphatha kwakho kwawela umgca, kunokuba nempembelelo embi kumntwana wakho.
Qiniseka kwaye uthembeke nomntwana wakho, kodwa khetha amagama akho ngokucophelela. Ukuba unenkathazo yokulawula umsindo wakho, funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Umqeqeshi oqeqeshiwe wezempilo yengqondo unokukunceda ekulawuleni iimvakalelo zakho nokuphucula izakhono zobuzali.