Amazwi owathetha kumntwana wakho uya kuba nempembelelo engapheliyo kwindlela umntwana ovakalelwa ngayo ngawe, kunye nendlela aziva ngayo ngaye. Xa umntwana wakho ephosakeleyo, khetha amagama akho ngokucophelela. Nazi izinto ezithoba, akufanele utsho xa uyala umntwana wakho:
1. "Usebenza njengomama wakho!"
Ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuziphatha kakubi kukukhumbuza ngomnye umntu-nokuba ngumnye umzali okanye omnye umntu ongeyithandi ukuziphatha kwakhe-akunakunceda.
Kwaye ukuthelekiswa okubhekiselelwe ekubeni kulungile, njengokuthi "Kutheni ungeke uhlale etafileni ngokukhawuleza nje ngokuba udade wakho wenzayo"? Hlonipha i-spirt ekhethekileyo yengane yakho kwaye icacise ukuba uyakhe.
2. "Ungumngciphekisi onjalo!"
Ukubhalisa umntwana wakho ngokuthi "i-monster encinci" okanye "inkohlakalo yam," ingaba isiprofeto esizalisekisa. Enyanisweni, iibhile ezilungileyo, njengokubhekiselele kumntwana wakho ngokuthi "umdlalo" okanye "inkwenkwezi yeemathematika," ingaba nefuthe elibi kumntwana wakho.
3. "Yeka ukukhala okanye ndiya kukunika into yokukhala."
Ukulungiswa komntwana wakho, kodwa kungekhona imvakalelo . Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba iimvakalelo zabo zilungile, kodwa oko kukuziphatha okungavumelekanga. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala ngenxa yokuba uziva edabukisayo, musa ukumxelela ukuba kufuneka aziva ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ukuba kunjalo, ukhala kunye nokuziphatha ngendlela ephazamisayo, mnike umphumo kwaye umqeqeshe ukuba asebenzise izakhono zokuphilisa okunempilo ukuze ahlangabezane neemvakalelo ezingenakuzixhamla kwixesha elizayo.
4. "Ngaba usufunde isifundo sakho okwamanje?"
Umyalelo kufuneka ube malunga nokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba afunde kwiimpazamo, engamhlaziyiyo ngokuhlambalaza. Ukumbuza ukuba ufunde isifundo sakhe kuthetha ukuba iziphumo zenzelwe ukujezisa, kungekhona ukufundisa. Umbuzo ongcono unokuthi, "Yintoni ongayenza ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha elizayo?" Ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyayiqonda indlela angenza ngayo ukhetho olungcono kwixesha elizayo.
5. "Lindela ude ufike ekhaya!"
Musa ukuchaza ukuba omnye umzali ungumlathisi wangempela kwaye awukwazi ukuphatha kakubi. Oku kuza kuseka kuphela intsapho ephilileyo apho uthayibha wena njengenakwenzekayo kunye nomnye umzali njenge-ogre. Imiphumo emihle kakhulu inikwa ngokukhawuleza ngoko kuzama ukujongana neengxaki zokuziphatha ngexesha.
6. "Siyabonga ngokukhetha oko. Kutheni ungeke ukwazi ukwenza njalo? "
Ungaze uzame ukuguqula ukugxekwa njengendumiso. Kuhlambalaza kwaye kungasebenzi. Dumisani umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha okuhle . Yithi, "Ndivuyisiwe kakhulu ukubeka isidlo sakho kwisitya xa ndakubuza ukuba!" Nangona kukho ixesha apho kufanelekile ukunikezela umyalelo, gcina indumiso yakho yinyani kwaye ugweme ukunikezela ngokuncoma.
7. "Uyangenza ndihluthe ngoku!"
Enye yezinto abazali abaqinileyo ngokwengqondo abakwenziyo , basolula abantwana babo ngemvakalelo yabo. Thatha uxanduva lwakho malunga neengcamango zakho, ukuziphatha, kunye neemvakalelo kwaye ungaxeleli umntwana wakho ukuba yena-nanoma ubani-unamandla okwenza ukuba uzive nantoni na. Indlela engcono yokwenza uxinzelelo lwakho kukutsho into enje, "andithandi ngokwenene ukhetho olwenzayo namhlanje."
8. "Musa ukuphikisana nam."
Kuthatha abantu ababini ukuba baphikisane kwaye rhoqo xa ukhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba ayeke ukuphikisana, ugcina ukungavumelani kuhamba.
Ukunikezela isilumkiso, landela ngokulandela, okanye sebenzisa nje ukunyanzelisa ukukhetha ukuphelisa impikiswano.
9. "Andiyi kukuxelela kwakhona."
Ukuphinda ulandele indlela yakho yindlela ekhohlakeleyo, kwaye ukhumbuze umntwana wakho ukuba awuyi kuphinda uphinda ulandelele izikhokelo zakho. Ukuthungela ukuthumela umyalezo ongekho mfuneko ukuphulaphula okokuqala ngqa umntwana wakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho akayilandelanga okokuqala unikeza imiyalelo, sebenzisa ukuba ... ke isilumkiso esichazela ngokucacileyo oko kuya kwenzeka xa engayilandelayo ngeendlela zakho.