Ukulungisa abantwana ngumsebenzi onzima. Kudinga ukuhlala ilindile, ukulungelelanisa, kunye nomgudu onokucinga. Ngoko ukuba unomfutho omncinci ngaloo mihla ukhathele okanye ugxininiswe, awuyedwa.
Ukungabi nokuqeqeshwa, nangona kunjalo, inokuba yingxaki enkulu. Kwaye nangona kungasilingeka ukuba wenze izizathu zokuziphatha komntwana wakho, imida kunye nemiphumo ibalulekile.
Ungazivumeli ezi zizathu 10 zokunika umntwana wakho uqeqesho oluphilileyo.
"Ndiyabuhlungu kuye. Ubeneminyaka engaphantsi kwengcinezelo enkulu. "
Ngezinye izihlandlo abazali baziva benetyala xa abantwana bebefanele banyamezele amaxesha amanqatha, njengokuqhawula umtshato okanye ukuxhatshazwa esikolweni. Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuzivakalela. Emva koko, ngubani ofuna ukumbona umntlungu wakhe?
Ukuvumela ukungaziphathi kakubi, ukuba kunjalo, akusisisombululo. Enyanisweni, abagxininisa abantwana badinga ukuqeqeshwa kunanini ngaphambili ukubanceda bazive bekhuselekile. Bonisa umntanakho ukuba uyakwazi ukumgcina ekhuselekileyo ngokubeka imida .
"Wayengathethi ukwenza oko."
Abantwana akufanele baqeqeshwe ngenxa yokuphulukana ngengozi yeglasi yobisi, kodwa banokuthatha uxanduva kwizenzo zabo ngokuncedisa ukucoca. Ukuvumela i-leeway kakhulu kuba into "yengozi" inqanda abantwana ukuba bamkele uxanduva ngokupheleleyo ngokuziphatha kwabo.
Ukuba uthetha isigqibo, "Akazange athethe ukuba atshayise umzalwana wakhe onzima," kwaye uxolele, mhlawumbi uya kufunda ukuba angathetha indlela yokuphuma kwizinto ngokusebenzisa "Ingozi".
Kodwa igosa lepolisa aliyi kuxolela "ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza" kwaye umphathi wakhe wexesha elizayo akasenakukugxotha xa uthi "akazange athethe ukuba" alahlekelwe yintengiso enkulu.
"Andichange ndichithe ixesha elininzi kunye nabo."
Ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba aziphathe kakubi ngenxa yokuba uziva unetyala akayi kwenza nantoni kuni.
Ukuba uziva ungalunganga, khangela ezinye iindlela zokulungisa isono sakho malunga nokuziphatha.
Umzekelo, ngaba kufuneka udale ixesha elide lokuchitha kunye? Okanye ngaba ufuna ukukhumbuza ukuba kuhle ukuba umntwana wakho abe nokuqeqeshwa okunempilo?
Yenza ixesha lakho ndawonye libale ngokulandela imida ecacileyo. Emva koko, unokuchitha ixesha elingakumbi xa ujongana nenkampani xa unayo ixesha lokuba kunye.
"Kwakunzima kakhulu kuye izolo."
Ukuba wenza isiyalo esinzima ngaphambili, akuthethi ukuba awufanele umqeqeshe ngoku. Kubalulekile ukuba uhambisane noqeqesho .
Ukunganyaniseki kudibanisa abantwana kwaye kukhokelela kwiingxaki zokuziphatha ezikhulayo. Ngoko ke ukuba unobungozi obuncinane kakhulu izolo, bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uya kuqhuba imigaqo namhlanje.
"Abantwana baya kuba bantwana."
Kukho into enjalo njengokuziphatha okungaqhelekanga. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kweengxaki eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha komntwana .
Ukuvumela abantwana ukuba baphambuke ngokuziphatha kakubi ngokuyikhwela "kwizinto eziqhelekileyo zentsana" kunokuyingozi xa uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe kunye nokuphulwa komthetho. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde indlela yokwenza izigqibo ezinempilo ukuze babe ngabantu abadala.
"Andifuni ukuba athukuthele."
Kungakulinganisa ngamanye amaxesha ukujonga ngenye indlela xa unomntwana ukuba nexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye uyazi ukumbeka ngexesha lokuphuma kuya kumcasula. Nangona kunjalo, ukufundisa abantwana ukujongana neemvakalelo ezimbi kukuba olunye lwezakhono ezithandathu zokuphila kufuneka ufundise .
Uya kumenza ulungelo ngokungamnceda afunde indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. Ngoko landela kunye nesiphumo uze uncede umntwana wakho afunde izakhono zomgaqo-mpawu xa ulapho.
"Ndikhathele kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nalo."
Kuza kuba neentsuku ozive ukhululekile okanye zixutywe ukuze unikeze esinye isiphumo esibi .
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuxhamla amandla ukuze unikeze uqeqesho olufanayo.
Nika ixesha elide kunye namandla kwiingxaki zokuziphatha ngoku kwaye kuya kunciphisa umzamo ofunekayo phantsi kwendlela. Cinga ngamandla owenzayo ngoku njengotyalo-mali oluya kuhlawula emva koko.
"Akayi kuphulaphula nantoni na."
Ukungabi nantembelo kubazali kunokuthintela abazali ukuba bangene. Bayesaba ukuba umntwana uya kuhamba ngexesha okanye angayi kubaphulaphula xa amalungelo athatyathwa .
Ukuba iziphumo aziphumelelanga, hlola izizathu zokuba uqeqesho lwakho alusebenzi. Ukuphepha uqeqesho kuya kwenza ukuba ingxaki ibe yimbi kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ufumane izakhono zomzali ukuqeqesha ngokufanelekileyo.
"Uya kucinga ukuba ndiyindoda."
Enye yezona mpazamo ezine eziphambili zomzali zijonge nje ngexesha elifutshane. Ngethuba elifutshane, umntwana wakho unokucinga ukuba unentsingiselo yokuthatha into yakhe yokudlala okanye ungamvumeli ukuba adlale ngaphandle.
Nangona kunjalo, kwixesha elide, yinto enhle kuye kwaye kubalulekile ukumnceda afunde. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa umntwana enomsindo wakho, kuthetha ukuba wenza umsebenzi wakho kakuhle.
"Ndimele ndibe ngumntu omubi."
Ukuba unomlingani ovumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe kunye neengxaki zokuziphatha , mhlawumbi uya kuziva ngathi ungumntu omubi xa ubeka umthetho. Funda indlela yokuqeqesha kunye neqabane lakho ukuze umntwana wakho angaboni omnye wenu "njengomntu omubi."
Ukuseka imithetho yasekhaya kunye nokusebenza kunye ukunyanzelisa le migaqo ngokufanayo. Ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kuya kuphucula xa ubonisa phambili.