Abantwana banokudangalisa ngokwemvelo. Imvakalelo yabo ibonakala ingenangqiqo kwaye ingalingani ngokupheleleyo nale meko. Kodwa, kulungile.
Bavunyelwe ukuba bazive nantoni na bayifunayo-nangona uvakalelwa ngendlela efanayo. Ewe, loo nto ayithethi ukuba bayakwazi ukuziphatha kodwa bafuna.
Ukulungisa umntwana wakho ngokuphula imithetho, ukulimaza abanye abantu, okanye ukuziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga.
Ngexesha elifanayo, mxelele ukuba kulungile ukuvakalelwa, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, ukuvuyela, okanye nayiphi na enye imvakalelo evezwayo.
Gwema ukunciphisa okanye ukukhanyela iimvakalelo zabantwana bakho
Abantwana abakholwayo, "Andifanele ndive ndibuhlungu," kuya kuhamba ubude obukhulu ukuphepha intlungu. Kodwa loo nto ayimpilo. Intlungu yinkqubo yokuphilisa.
Ngokufanayo, abantwana abacinga ukuba, "Ukuhlamba akulungile," unamathele kwaye unqabise ukuthetha. Ngokwenene, umsindo awubi. Yiyo indlela abantwana abakhetha ngayo ukujongana nomsindo ongakhokelela ekukhethweni okunempilo okanye okungenampilo.
Injongo akufanele iguqule iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinje:
- Yeka ukuba ngumdaka.
- Musa ukuhlutha kakhulu into into encinane.
- Yeka ukukhala okanye ndiya kukunika into yokukhala.
- Ukhululeka ngaphandle kwento.
- Musa ukuba usana.
- Yeka ukukhathazeka malunga nento ephosakeleyo.
Ukwahlula uMvakalelo ukusuka kuMoya
Ukwahlula phakathi kwento eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho nendlela azivakalelwa ngayo.
Ingqumbo inzwa kwaye ukubetha kukuziphatha. Usizi kukuba ukuziva nokukrakra kukuziphatha.
Kunokuba uqinisekise umntwana wakho ukuba angaziveleli izinto ezithile, mfundise indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezingakhawulezileyo . Ngokomzekelo, qhelanisa ukufundisa ubuchule bokulawula umsindo . Bonisa umntakwabo ukuba ukuvutha ngumsindo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa ukuphoxisa umsindo akuphephile .
Yakha Ingqiqo Yomntwana Wakho Ngokujongana Nokuxhatshazwa
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bacinga ukuba ukukhulisa umntwana okhuseleyo ngengqondo ngokuphathelele ukukhulisa umntwana ongenamonde. Kodwa oko akunjalo. Izingane ezinamandla ziyabona iimvakalelo zabo kwaye, khetha iindlela eziphilileyo zokuhlangabezana nale miva.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angakwazi ukusingatha iimvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka , njengokukhathazeka. Xa esaba ukunyuka phambi kwesikolo sonke kwizinyosi zeepelisi, uya kukulungela ukuzama ukuba unikwe izakhono zokujongana nokoyika.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uthumela umyalezo wokuthi ukukhathazeka kakubi, unokuphepha ukuyenza izinto ezenza azive exhalabile.
Ngokufanayo, bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba iimvakalelo ezingenakuthathekayo ziyinxalenye yobomi. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka uziphatha ngokuchasene nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo.
Ngokomzekelo, thetha malunga nendlela oqhubeka uphatha ngayo abanye ngomusa, nangemihla apho uvakalelwa khona. Bonisa umntanakho ukuba kwiintsuku apho uziva uhlungu, usaya emsebenzini. Yenza kucacile ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka wenze izinto, nangona ungazivumi.
Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Ukulawula Iimvakalelo Zakhe
Xa ufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zilungile kwaye unokufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zoluntu zokujongana naloo mvakalelo, uya kubona ukuphucula okukhulu ekuziphatheni kwakhe.
Nazi ezinye iindlela zokunceda umntwana aqonde ingqondo yakhe:
- Bhala uphawu lomntwana wakho. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukubiza iimvakalelo zakhe ukuze aqale ukuhlakulela ukuqonda kangcono iimvakalelo zakhe. Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Kubonakala ngathi uziva udidekile ukuba asiyi epaki namhlanje."
- Fundisa izakhono zokuphikisana. Mfundisa ngokucacileyo umntwana wakho indlela yokujamelana nokuphazamiseka ngendlela efanelekileyo. Mbonise ukuba unako ukubala umbala xa edidekile okanye ukuba angadlala ngaphandle xa ecaphukile.
- Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba unokukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba unesimo sengqondo esibi, uthetha malunga nokukhetha kwakhe oko kuya kumenza ahlale ephosakeleyo-efana nokukrazula egumbini lakhe-okanye ukhetho olunokukunceda ukuphucula isimo sakhe-njengokudlala umdlalo.
- Mcebisa umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha okungalunganga. Ukuba umntwana wakho ephula ithoyizi yomntakwabo xa ecaphukile, mnike umphumo. Yenza kucace ukuba akayi kuhlwaywa ngenxa yeemvakalelo zakhe, kodwa uya kunikwa imiphumo yokuphula imithetho.
- Musa ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba asebenzise iimvakalelo njengesizathu. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthe akakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo ngenxa yokuba udabukile, ungamvumeli ukuba aphume ekwenzeni umsebenzi. Ngaphandle kwezinto ezingaqhelekanga, mbeke uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakhe. Izinto eziqhelekileyo zingabandakanya izinto ezifana nokufa kwintsapho okanye enye intsapho yokuxakeka.
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