Ukuhloliswa kweengxelo zonyaka kubantwana bavame ukuzaliswa ngengxoxo malunga nempilo yomntwana. Abanye ootitshala bezilwanyana bandisa ingxoxo ngaphaya kokuphakama komntwana kunye nobunzima kwaye babuze imibuzo malunga nomoya kunye nokuziphatha. Kodwa akubona bonke oogqirha ababuza loo mibuzo.
Kungenxa yokuba ugqirha akaceli malunga nokuziphatha komntwana, akuthethi ukuba akufanele ukhulume.
Enyanisweni, oogqirha banikela ubuninzi beenkcukacha malunga nempilo yengqondo kunye nemiba yokuziphatha kwaye banokubonelela ngokudluliselwa kwezixhobo ezifanelekileyo zoluntu. Ukuba unenkxalabo, unganqikazi ukubuza imibuzo okanye ukuzisa imiba kwingqalelo ugqirha.
Uphando lubonisa abazali abakhulumi
Ingxelo ka-2015 eyapapashwa yi-CS Mott yeZibhedlele zeSizwe kwiSizwe seMpilo ibonisa ukuba abazali abaninzi abavelisi imiba yeemvakalelo kunye neendlela zokuziphatha nezingane. Nazi izicatshulwa ezimbalwa ezivela kwisaveyi esekelwe kwizimpendulo ezivela kubazali abayi-1,300 abantwana abaneminyaka emi-5 ukuya kwe-17:
- I-51% yabazali babeya kuxela ugqirha ukuba umntwana wabo ubandezeleke kakhulu kunabanye abantwana abafanayo.
- I-50% yabazali babeya kuxela ugqirha ukuba umntwana wabo ubonakala egxininisekile okanye akhathazeke kunokuba eqhelekileyo.
- I-37% yabazali babeya kuxela ugqirha ukuba umntwana wabo unenkathazo yokuzilungiselela ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo.
- Abazali abangama-61% baza kuxela ugqirha ukuba umntwana wabo ubonakala ebuhlungu kakhulu ngaphezu kwenyanga
Nazi izizathu ezenziwa abazali ukuba bangaxubushe ngemiba yemoya kunye neyokuziphatha kunye nogqirha:
- I-45% yabazali bathi abazange bacinge ukuba iingxaki zokuziphatha ziyimicimbi yonyango, ngoko abazange babone nayiphi na into ekuphakamiseni ngayo ugqirha.
- 29% bathi bakhetha ukujongana nemiba yokuziphatha okanye imizwelo ngasese.
- I-29% yabazali banokukhetha ukunxibelelana nomntu ngaphandle kogqirha malunga neengxaki zabo.
- I-6% yabazali bathi akukho xesha elaneleyo lokuxoxa ngeengxaki zabo ngexesha lokutyelela ugqirha
- 8% baziva ukuba ugqirha akayikwazi ukuba yintoni eyenzayo
Isizathu sokuba abazali baxoxe noDokotela
Iingxaki ezibalulekileyo zengqondo kunye nokuziphatha ziyimfuneko ebalulekileyo ekufuneka iphakanyiswe kugqirha. Kunyaka nawuphi na unyaka, ukuya kuma-20% kubo bonke abantwana bafumana ingxaki echaphazela ukuziphatha, ukufunda, okanye impilo yengqondo.
Oogqirha kufuneka bazi ukuba uyintoni ubungqina ngaphandle kweofisi yegqirha. Uvavanyo olunokukhawuleza alukwazi ukubonakalisa iingxaki, njenge- ADHD okanye ukudandatheka. Ukucacisa ukukhathazeka kwakho nokubuza imibuzo malunga nokuphuhliswa komntwana wakho kunokunika ugqirha ukuba aqonde ingozi kunye nezibonakaliso zezinye iingxaki.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkinga engundoqo, njenge-ADHD okanye ixhala, udokotela angenza ukuhanjiswa kweenkonzo ezifanelekileyo. Umntwana unokuncedwa nantoni na evela kwiprogram yomsebenzi ukuvavanya kwengqondo. Ukuphonononga kwakhona kunye novavanyo kungadingeka ukulawula iingxaki okanye ukuseka isicwangciso sonyango esicacileyo.
Iingcali zeeNkcazo zijongene neendlela zokuziphatha
Ngamanye amaxesha kunxibelelwano olucacileyo phakathi kwemiba yempilo kunye nemicimbi yokuziphatha.
Umzekelo, umntwana othukuthela ngexesha lokulala unokuba nobunzima bokulala. Ngokufanayo, umntwana ofumana ama-aches esiswini rhoqo unokuba noxhala.
Ukuba ugqirha wabantwana bacinga ukuba umntwana unengxaki yempilo yengqondo okanye ingxaki yokuziphatha , ukuthunyelwa kwabanye ababoneleli ngonyango kaninzi kwenziwa. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiimfuno ezithile zomntwana, ukuthunyelwa kunokwenziwa kumntu ovela kwi-psychologist.
Ugqirha ungagqiba ukunika imithi ye-ADHD, kodwa unokufuna ukukwenza oko emva kokuthetha nomgulana wengane. Okanye ugqirha unokufuna ukuthumela umntwana ngokuvavanya kwengqondo ngaphambi kokuba enze iingcebiso malunga nengxaki yengqondo yomntwana.
Ootitshala bezilwanyana kufuneka babe yinxalenye yecandelo elonyango elinonyango elijongene neengxaki zempilo okanye izimo zokuziphatha.