Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Ukufunda Kwiimpazamo
Bonke abantwana baphula imithetho kunye nemida yokuvavanya ngamanye amaxesha. Xa abantu abadala bephendula ngendlela eluncedo abantwana bafunda ukwenza ukhetho olungcono kwixesha elizayo.
Kodwa akusiyo onke amanyathelo angenelelo omdala adalwe alinganayo. Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokunika iziphumo zezingane kunye nezijeziso.
Ziyintoni Izigwebo?
Izigwebo zenza abantwana bahlupheke ngenxa yeempazamo zabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo baceba ukwenza abantwana bazive bebi.
Izigwebo zivame ukungahambelani neengxaki zokuziphatha kwaye zinokuba zinzima kwiimeko. Ngamanye amaxesha, bathetha ukuhlazeka okanye ukuhlazisa abantwana. Nazi ezinye zeempawu zokugwetywa:
- Umntwana oneminyaka emi-5 akasithathi amathoyizi akhe xa utshilo. Abazali bakhe bamgxotha.
- Iintetho ezineminyaka eli-7 ubudala zibuyela kunina. Uhlamba umlomo wakhe ngesepha.
- Uneminyaka engama-9 ubudala engalunganga esikolweni. Abazali bakhe bamnika inwele ehlazo "ukumfundisa isifundo."
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-12 akahlambululi igumbi lakhe lokulala. Abazali bakhe bathabatha imifanekiso baze bayifake kwi-media media ukuze bamhlazise.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-14 ushiya iglavu yakhe yebhola kwi-driveway. Uyise uhamba ngenjongo yokuhamba nayo ngemoto.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-16 ubanjwe elele ngobudala bakhe ukuthetha namadoda amakhulu ase-intanethi. Unina unyanzela ukuba enze ividiyo evakalisa oko akwenzileyo. Unina uthumela i-video kwi-intanethi.
Izigwebo zivame ukubangela ukuba abantwana bazive kakubi ngoobani-ngokuchasene noko bakwenzileyo.
Abantwana abafumana iimfuno ezizimeleyo banokuthi bangabonakali kwixesha elizayo.
Izigwebo nazo zingabi nzuzo ngenxa yokuba zibangela abantwana ukuba bagxininise kwingqumbo yabo kubazali babo, kunokuba bacinge ngezinto abakwenzayo kangcono ngexesha elizayo. Umzekelo, umntwana unokucinga ukuba, "Umama unentsingiselo," endaweni yoko, "ndenze iphutha."
Ziziphi iziphumo?
Iziphumo zijolise ekufundiseni abantwana indlela yokwenza ngcono ngekamva. Imiphumo ephilileyo iyakunceda abantwana baqhubeke beziva kakuhle xa bebanika ithemba lokuba bangenza ngcono ngokuzayo.
Iziganeko ezingenangqiqo
Imiphumo engqiqo yenziwa ngabantu abadala kwaye ihambelana ngqo nokuziphatha kakubi. Nazi ezinye zeemiphumo ezinengqiqo:
- Umntwana oneminyaka emi-5 akasithathi amathoyizi akhe xa utshilo. Abazali bakhe bathabatha amathoyizi akhe kuye yonke imihla.
- Iintetho ezineminyaka eli-7 ubudala zibuyela kunina. Ukwabela umsebenzi owongezelelweyo ukuba agqibe.
- Uneminyaka engama-9 ubudala engalunganga esikolweni. Abazali bakhe bathabatha i-elektronomi ngokuhlwa.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-12 akahlambululi igumbi lakhe lokulala. Akavunyelwe ukusebenzisa i-elektroniki de igumbi lakhe lihlambuluke.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-14 ushiye i-glove yakhe kwi-driveway. Abazali bakhe bathatha iiglavu zakhe iiyure ezingama-24.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-16 ubanjwe elele ngobudala bakhe ukuthetha namadoda amakhulu ase-intanethi. Unina uthatha i-electronics yeveki kwaye umise imigaqo-nkqubo emitsha equka ukubeka iliso ngokuqhubekayo kweeakhawunti zeendaba zentlalo.
Iziphumo zendalo
Imiphumo yemvelo yimiphumo ebangelwa yindlela yokuziphatha kwengane.
Abantu abadala bangavumela abantwana ukuba babhekane nemiphumo yemvelo yokhetho lwabo xa kukhuselekile ukwenza njalo kwaye xa umntwana enokufunda isifundo esibalulekileyo ebomini.
Nazi ezinye iziphumo zemvelo:
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-9 wenqaba ukuyeka ukudlala ukuze adle isidlo sasemini. Umphumo wendalo kukuba uya kulamba xa engadli.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-12 akafuni ukugqoka ibhatyi. Unina umvumela ukuba adlale ngaphandle ngaphandle kwengubo ngenxa yokuba umphumo wendalo kukuba uya kubanda.
- Umntu oneminyaka eli-15 ubudala ushiya i-baseball yakhe emitt kwindlela kwaye imvula ngaphandle. Umphumo wendalo kukuba i-mitt yakhe iya kumanzi kwaye xa ichitheka, kuya kufuneka ithenge enye.
Izihlwayo kunye neMiphumo
Izigwebo zingasebenza ngexesha elifutshane. Abantwana banokuthobela xa bekwesaba okanye xa befuna ukuba uyeke ukuphazamisa intlungu okanye ukuthotywa.
Kodwa kwixesha elide, izigwebo zibuyela emva . Balahlekelwa ngempumelelo ngexesha elide kuba abantwana abakwazi ukufunda izakhono abayidingayo ukwenza ukhetho olungcono.
Iziphumo zinceda abantwana babone ukuba benza ukhetho olubi kodwa banako ukwenza ngcono kangcono kwixesha elizayo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, iziphumo ziphumelela ngakumbi ekuphuculeni iingxaki zokuziphatha kubantwana.
Imithombo
> Afifi T, Mota N, Dasiewicz P, MacMillan H, J. J. Sareen Ukugwetyelwa kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo: Iziphumo ezivela kummeli waseMzantsi US Isampula. Pediatrics . Juni 2012.
> Webster-Stratton C. Iminyaka Engonakaliyo: Abazali, ootitshala, kunye noqeqesho lwabantwana: umxholo womxholo, iindlela, uphando kunye nokusabalalisa 1980-2011 . Seattle, WA: Iminyaka Engabonakaliyo; 2011.