Gcina umntwana wakho ukhusele kwi-intanethi ngaphandle kokuba abe nguJames Bond kwinkqubo
Kwabantwana banamhlanje, ubomi babo bedijithali buqala ukususela kumntwana kunye nokukhawuleza ukusuka apho. Ukususela kwi-iPads, iLeapster kunye neNintendo DS kwiimidlalo zokudlala kwi-intanethi nakwividiyo ezihlekisayo ze-YouTube, abantwana namhlanje banamathele kwi-teknoloji ukusuka ekuzalweni. Ngethuba elivisayo, ininzi yemisebenzi yabo iqhutywe ngekhompyutha ngokusebenzisa izithuba zoononophelo loluntu, i-imeyile, izicatshulwa kunye nomyalezo osheshayo.
Ngenxa yoko, akumangalisi ukuba abazali banenkxalabo malunga nemingcipheko ye- intanethi kunye nendlela yokugcina abantwana babo bekhuselekile. Ingaba kukho ukukhathazeka ngabantu abadala abavakalisa njengabaselula, ukuthumelelana nge-SMS kunye noontanga, ubusela besazisi okanye ukuxhaswa nge-cyberbullying kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo , abazali banokukhathazeka ngoku. Ngaphezu koko, yonke le mibuzo ingenzeka ngaphandle kwembono yabazali. Ngenxa yoko, abazali bajamelene neengxaki zokuqwalasela ukubhekelelwa kwimeko enempilo nokuba yintoni ukuhlola.
Akumangalisi ke ke, abazali abaninzi baxakeka xa bethetha ngokuhlola abo bantwana. Kodwa ukukhethwa kwendlela yokuyeka izandla akuphilisanga. Ngoko umzali omhle ufumana phi ukulinganisela?
Ukujongana nokuhlola
Indlela ehlakaniphe kakhulu yokujonga indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho kwi-intanethi ukuhlala idibene nenombolo. Qinisekisa ukuba ulandela umntwana wakho kwi-Twitter, Instagram kunye nayiphi na enye inkonzo yenkonzo yoluntu ayisebenzisayo. Kwakhona kufuneka ube neephasiwedi kuzo zonke ii-akhawunti kunye neefayili zomntwana wakho kwaye umxelele ukuba uya kukhangela amacebo kunye ne-akhawunti rhoqo ngoku.
Akuyihlosi ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ngaphambili ukuba uza kuhlola i-random. Kunoko, uzimisele ukuba uza kubeka iliso umsebenzi wabo ngaphandle kokubahlola ngokufihlakeleyo, benethemba lokubamba ukuba benze into engafanele babe nayo. Ngaphezu koko, abantwana banako ukubeka esweni ukuziphatha kwabo ukuba bayazi ukuba ubukele kwaye uhlolisise ngezikhathi ezithile.
Okwangoku, qha ga mshelana malunga noko kwamkelekileyo nento engavumelekanga kwi-Intanethi. Kwaye xa ubona isithuba esingalunganga ngumntwana wakho okanye umhlobo wakhe, xubusha. Zama ukugcina ithoni yakho ingathathi hlangothi kwaye incokola ukuze umntwana wakho angakucongi. Xa uthetha nomntwana wakho ngokukhuselekileyo kwi-intanethi rhoqo, kuba yinto engaphezulu kwimoya yokusebenza kunye nokungafani nokusebenza kwe-covert.
Indlela yokuseka izikhokelo zokuLawula
Ngokubanzi, kufuneka kubekho unxibelelwano oluchanekileyo phakathi kwemali yoxanduva kunye nokunyaniseka ukuba abantwana babonisa kunye nemali yobumfihlo abavunyelwe ukuba nabo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthatha uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe kwaye uthembeke ngeempazamo, kufuneka avunyelwe inkululeko engakumbi kunye nobumfihlo. Khumbula, i-adolescent years is a time when adolescents need to separate from parents and become individuals. Oko kuthetha ntoni ukuba bafuna ukuba nobunikazi obukhethekileyo kunye nobomi babo, kwaye ubuntwaneni buya kubalungiselela ukulungiselela oko.
Ngaphezu koko, xa usebenza ekuhloleni abantwana bakho kunokuba unikeze uphephile kwimisebenzi yabo, awukhuthazi ukuzimela okanye uncedise umdala omdala onokwenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo.
Kunoko, ukuhlola umntwana wakho onomthwalo othumele umyalezo: "Andikuthembi, nangona ungenzi nto into engalunganga." Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ulawulo luthi: "Ndiyathemba wena. kwaye ngumsebenzi wam ukukukhokela. "
Ngaba abazali bavumela njani ukuba abantwana abancinci banqwenele baze bahlale bekhusele abantwana babo? Ngaphandle kwezinto ezikhankanywe ngasentla, zikho ezinye izikhokelo ezongezelelweyo zokugcina ulawulo olusempilweni kwimisebenzi ye-intanethi ye-intanethi ngaphandle kokungagxininisi okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwinkqubo.
Thembela umntwana wakho, kodwa uqinisekise izenzo .
Ngekubeni kubalulekile ukuvumela umntwana wakho indawo ethile kunye nobumfihlo, usengumzali kwaye kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho uyamanyanisa imigaqo kunye nezikhokelo zakho.
Ngenxa yeso sizathu, kufuneka uxubushe kwangaphambili indlela oceba ngayo ukujonga ukuziphatha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uceba ukusebenzisa i-GPS yokulandelela, sebenzisa iinkqubo zokujonga iikhomputha, khangela umlando wesiphequluli okanye ulandele imidiya yoluntu, xelela umntwana wakho phambili. Kwakhona, qinisekisa ukuba unamagama asepasiphinde kwaye uqhuba ukuhlola okungahleliwe.
Khumbula, umahluko phakathi kokunyamekela nokujongana noxanduva oluphambili lubandakanyekayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho engazi ukuba uya kubeka iliso ekusebenziseni kwakhe kwi-intanethi uze udibana naye ngento enokuyifumanayo, unokuziva ecaphukile aze aqale ukufihla izinto ezivela kuwe. Ngenxa yoko, xa unqumle uluphi uhlobo lokubeka iliso oya kuyenza, qiniseka ukuba ucokola kunye nentombazana yakho. Ngale ndlela, akukho mangalisa xa uzisa into oyibona kwi-intanethi.
Buza imibuzo .
Ukuba unjengabazali abaninzi, ufuna ukuzithemba abantwana bakho. Kodwa nawe uyazi ukuba bayabantwana. Ukuxhomekeka kwilizwi labo lonke ixesha angeke liwanele ukuba ligcine likhuselekile. Ngenxa yoko, buza imibuzo enjengale, "Ubani othumelela i-texting?" Okanye, "Ziziphi iiwebhsayithi ozivakatheleyo namhlanje?" Zama ukugcina iingxoxo zakho zilungile kwaye zingabangqina. Ukuba uyabambana, abantwana bakho abayi kuba nzima ukuza kuwe xa bebona izinto kwi-intanethi ephazamisayo okanye edidekayo. Xa ubona iiflegi ezibomvu okanye iimpawu zokulumkisa, ncokola. Isisitshixo sokujongana nempilo kukuqhagamshelana rhoqo malunga nokusetyenziswa kweendaba zoluntu.
Fumana iindlela zokunika umntwana wakho ubumfihlo .
Ukuba unomntwana osemtsha ojongene nemithwalo yakhe, uhlonipha ixesha lokufika kwakhe, utsho ukuba uya kuba, unobungane obuhle , kwaye awunaso isizathu sokusolisa nantoni na, ngeendlela zonke ubanikeze ngasese.
Enye indlela yokwenza oko kukuhlonipha imida yegumbi labo. Unokubanxibelelana nabo. Yithi into efana nale: "Andikho isizathu sokuba ndingathembeli . Ngoko ndiya kukuhlonela ubumfihlo bakho. "Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba uhlawulelwa ngokuziphatha kakuhle-ukungabikho kokuphazamiseka kwisithuba sakho somntu kubangelwa ziphumo zakhe ezilungileyo.
Okwangoku, khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba imidiya yoluntu yindawo yoluntu kwaye akukho bucala apho. Ngenxa yoko, uya kubeka iliso kwaye ubuyekeze imisebenzi yakhe ye-intanethi ukuze akwazi ukuhlakulela idumela elihle kwi-intanethi. Emva koko qiniseka ukuba uyamkhokela ekwenzeni ukhetho olufanelekileyo kwi-intanethi.
Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlukane nawe ngokwemvelo .
Xa umntwana encinci, akukho hlukana phakathi komntwana nomzali. Kodwa njengoko abantwana bekhula kwaye bekhula, baqala ukuhlukana. Ingxenye yokwahlula kule minyaka ibandakanya ukubeka imida apho umntwana wakho ephela nalapho uqala khona. Nangona abazali kunye nentsha banokulwa neendawo ezifunekayo ezinganeni, qondanisa ukuba imfuno yomntwana wakho ukuba ahluke kuwe yinto ebalulekileyo ekuphuhliseni abantwana kwaye ikhokelela ekuhlaleni ukuzimela.
Ngokuvumela umntwana wakho inkululeko yokwenza izigqibo kwi-intanethi ngaphandle kokuvunyelwa kwakho rhoqo, unceda ukwakha umntu omdala onokuzimela yena ngokwakhe. Oku akuthethi ukuba uthathe indlela yokubamba izandla, kodwa nangakumbi unako ukunika amandla umntwana wakho ukuba enze izigqibo malunga nabahlobo kunye nokusetyenziswa kwejelo loluntu, bhetele kumntwana wakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Umsebenzi wakho kukubonelela nokulungiswa apho kuyimfuneko xa unikezela umntwana wakho ububanzi kulo mmandla ukuba abe ngumntu ohlukile.
Ngaba ukuhlola kuyamkeleka?
Akufanele kumangalise ukuba intsha ihlala ingekho izakhono zokuqiqa. Uninzi ulutsha lucinga nje ngelapha kwaye ngoku kwaye awuyi kuqwalasela nayiphi na imiphumo yesikhathi esizayo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, banokungena enkingeni kwi-intanethi. Xa oko kwenzeka, kubalulekile ukunyusa imisebenzi yakho yoqwalaselo, ingakumbi xa ukwesaba umntwana wakho unokubandakanyeka kwinto enobungozi. Nazi izikhokelo malunga nokuba kulungele ukuthini intsha yakho.
Imiba yokuxhaphaza .
Kucaciswe kakuhle ukuba abantwana abasoloko baxela abadala xa bexhatshazwa. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho uyaxhatshazwa kwaye umntwana wakho akayi kuvulwa kuwe malunga nayo, ngeendlela zonke wenze okuncinci. Kodwa emva kokuba ucele umntwana wakho ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ugxininisa yonke into efanelekileyo kodwa unesizathu sokukholelwa ukuba kukho ukuxhatshazwa, yenza ukumbamba. Nawuphi na uhlobo loxhatshazo olungashiyikanga lungabangela imiphumo emibi , kuquka ukunyusa umngcipheko we-adolescents for depress and thoughts of suicidal.
Ukuxhatshazwa kakubi.
Njengokuxhatshazwa, intsha esetyenziswa kakubi ngumlingani wokuthandana ayinakuxelela abanye izinto ezenzekayo. Enyanisweni, banokungaqondi ukuba ubuhlobo buxhaphaza. Ukuba ubona iiflegi ezibomvu zokuxhatshazwa kwintando ebomini bakho, qalisa ngokuthetha nentombazana yakho. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awufumani ndawo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba uhlole incinci.
Into enye yokuyilinda yinyani engqongqo yeetekisi okanye ukujonga rhoqo. Ezinye iimpawu zokuxhaphazwa ngokuthandana ziquka umona, ukulawula, ukuxhaphaza kunye nokuhlambalaza. Khumbula, ukuxhatshazwa kobudlelwane akufanele kuthatyathwe. Kwakungaze kube ngcono. Endaweni yoko, ikhula ngokukhawuleza. Qinisekisa ukuba uthatha amanyathelo okunceda umntwana wakho asebenze nesithandwa okanye intombi ephethe kakubi xa egcina iithebhu ezikufutshane kwizinto ezenzekayo.
Iisongelo zokuzibulala .
Ukuba umntwana wakho utsho ngokuzibulala okanye uthetha ngokufa, musa ukuwutyeshela le mpendulo okanye ucinge ukuba uyamangalisa okanye ufuna ukunyamekela. Xa abantwana bethetha ukuzibulala, kuba kuba sele becinga ngako. Yenza umntwana wakho ahlolwe ngugqirha kwaye ukuze abone umcebisi ngokukhawuleza.
Ukongezelela, ingaba yinto efanelekileyo yokugcina umlindo osondeleyo kwintsapho yakho. Ukushiya umntwana osetshenzisweni wokuzibulala yedwa ekamelweni lakhe ixesha elide lingase libe yindlela efanelekileyo yokukhusela. Xoxa nodokotela wakho okanye umcebisi ngomntwana malunga nokufunwa kwengxaki yomntwana kunye nokuba ubuninzi bokuba yimfihlo kangakanani ngexesha elibuhlungu.
Indlela Yokuqalisa Ingxoxo
Ukuba ubamba umntwana wakho uthatha inxaxheba ekukhuseleni okungazikhuselekanga, kwi-intanethi okanye ngenye indlela, thatha isikhashana ukufumana zonke iinkcukacha ngaphambi kokuba ube nengxoxo. Ukujikela kwizigqibo okanye ukuqala ingxabano kunokubangela ukuba kubekho imiba yokuthembela.
Khumbula ukuba ukuba wenze umsebenzi ofanelekileyo wokufundisa ukhuseleko lwe-intanethi kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ikhompyutha yakho yomntwana kunye nemisebenzi ye-intanethi yincwadi evulekile, kufuneka ukwazi ukubeka imisebenzi ngaphandle kokuba ube ngummeli ombini.