Iindlela zokwenza udliwano-ndlebe nabaxhasi kunye namaxhoba
Ingaba uxoxisana nomxhaphazi okanye ixhoba, ukuba ubuza njani le mibuzo kubalulekile ekumiseni ingxelo kunye nokufikelela enyanisweni. Ukuba uyabuza umxhaphazi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubuze imibuzo efanelekileyo ngenxa yokuziphatha okucwangcisayo. Okwangoku, amaxhoba afuna inkxaso eninzi kunye novelwano lokuvula. Okwenje, akufanele uphize umbuzo kwixhoba kunye nomxhaphazi ngexesha elinye.
Iimpawu zeemibuzo ephumelelayo
Imibuzo ephumelelayo inamandla kwaye ichukumisa ingcamango. Ziye zavuleka kwaye azikhokeli. Imibuzo esebenzayo ibuza "yintoni" kunye "nendlela" kunokuthi "kutheni." Nangona "kutheni" imibuzo efanelekileyo ekucebiseni ulwazi okanye ekufumaneni iinjongo zabanye, nazo zenza abantu bazikhusele. Ngenxa yoko, kulungile ukuphepha ukubuza "kutheni."
Xa ucela ixhoba "kutheni" kubonisa ukuba benza into engalunganga. Ukusebenzisa nokuba kutheni imibuzo ibuye ibe yindlela efihlakeleyo yokugxeka ixhoba ngaphandle kokumisela. Okwangoku, kubuza umxhaphazi ukuba aphendule "kutheni" umbuzo ungabangela ukuba bavale. Ngokomzekelo, musa ukubuza: "Kutheni unxinekile?" Endaweni, cela: "Uza kwenza ntoni ukuze uhlale ungasenakwenzeka kwakhona?" Oku kufuna ukuba umxhaphazi acinge ngendlela aceba ngayo ukutshintsha kunokunciphisa izenzo zakhe okanye ukwenqaba ukuthatha uxanduva .
Enye into ebalulekileyo yombuzo ophumelelayo ukuphulaphula impendulo nokumisa isigwebo.
Gxininisa ukuvumela ukuhamba kweengcamango zakho kwaye ugxininise ekuqondeni. Oku kuthetha ukuba unomnqophiso wokuqonda oko umntu uthethayo kwaye ufumanisa oko kusemva kwamagama akhe. Kwakhona, bhala ingqalelo emathunjini uze ucele ulwazi olongezelelweyo nanini na into into engenzi kakuhle.
Gwema ukucinga kunye nokufumanisa ukuba umntu othetha naye uyazi ngxaki.
Kwakhona, khumbula ukulinda impendulo. Unganikeli ngeziphakamiso okanye iingcamango. Ngokuqinisekileyo akufanele uxelele umxhaphazi ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Bafuna ukuzitholela ngokwabo. Unokubanceda benze oku ngokubuza imibuzo eyenza bacinge ngezenzo zabo kunye nefuthe layo.
Iinkqubo zokufumana iLwazi oluNinzi
Gwema ukubuza ewe okanye akukho mibuzo. Ukubuza ukuba yebo okanye akukho mibuzo ikhokelela ekungaphelelweni kolwazi. Kunoko, cela umbuzo ovulekile. Ngokusebenzisa imibuzo evulekile, uya kufumana ulwazi malunga neemeko ongazange wazi ukuba zikhona. Nawe uza kufumana ulwazi oluninzi ngale ndlela. Imibuzo evulekile iqulethe, ngubani, phi, nini kwaye njani. Bakudinga ukuba umntu uphendule ukubeka ingcamango zabo iimpendulo. Uya kufumana ulwazi olungakumbi ngale ndlela. Okwangoku, imibuzo equlethe "iya kuthi," "fanele," "," "kunye" kwaye "ucinga," zonke zikhokelela ku-ewe okanye akukho mpendulo. Uyakufumana kukho inamba yeengqungquthela kwingxoxo xa ubuza imibuzo equle la magama.
Buza imibuzo yokulandela . Ngaphandle kokuba ukhangele ngokungqongqo malunga neengqinisiso, uya kufumana ulwazi oluthe xa ufuna ukumbamba ingqalelo kunokumvumela ukuba impendulo ibe yedwa. Eminye imizekelo yokulandelelana imibuzo iquka: "Yintoni eyenza ukuba uthethe?" Kwaye "Kwenzeke njani loo nto?"
Ngokomzekelo, masithi emva kokuba ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa lichaza isiganeko esithile sokuxhaphaza , uthi, "Uhlala esenza okuthile." Esikhundleni sokuthatha nje loo gqabaza ngokubaluleka ubuso kunye nokuqhubela phambili, bamba ubuncinane. Ungathi: "Uthetha ukuthini ukuba uhlala wenza into ethile?" Yintoni ongayifumana kukuba kukho ukuxhatshazwa okwedlula kwesi siganeko esithile kwaye kukho umzekelo kwindlela yokuxhaphaza. Ukongeza, unokufumanisa ukuba umxhasi ujolise kubafundi ixesha elide. Imibuzo elandelayo ikunika ingqiqo eyongezelelweyo kunye nolwazi. Baye bakuvumela ukuba wenze izigqibo ezinolwazi malunga nendlela yokuqeqesha umxhaphazi .
Sebenzisa amandla okuthulisa . Kufuneka ukhululeke ngokubuza umbuzo ulinde impendulo. Musa ukungena okanye uzame ukunceda umntu. Kunoko, hlala ngomonde uze ulindele impendulo. Emva koko, zama ukulinda ixesha elide ngaphambi kokubuza omnye umbuzo. Umgaqo omhle wesithupha unokubalisa ngokwengqondo ukuya kwishumi ngaphambi kokuhamba. Amaninzi amaninzi umntu obuzayo unolwazi olungaphezulu kwaye uya kukhupha xa ulinda.
Khumbula, kufuneka ukhululeke ngelo xesha elithe cwaka. Kwaye akulula. Kodwa ukuba ulinde, idama lingaphula kwaye uza kufumana iinkcukacha ezininzi. Amapolisa kunye nempi bayasebenza xa bethetha ukuthula ekubuzeni kwabo. Abantu ngokwemvelo banomuva wokufuna ukuzalisa imingxube kwingxoxo. Ngenxa yoko, baya kukhupha izinto ezibalulekileyo zolwazi ukuba uthe cwaka kwaye ulindele.
Dlala umdlali . USocrates wasebenzisa le ndlela yokubuza imibuzo. Wazenza ukungazi kakuhle ukuze akhuthaze abanye ukuba bavakalise ngokupheleleyo izimvo zabo. Emva koko unako ukwenza izigqibo ezinolwazi ngokusekelwe kwingcaciso abanikezile. Ngaphezu koko, wayengenakhathazeka ngokubonakala engenalumfama okanye wayenenjongo yokubonisa ukuba wayehlakaniphile kangakanani. Kwakunjalo nangabasebenzi bezakhono eziphumelelayo.
Ukudlala isidumbu kunye nokucela abantu ukuba bachaze izimvo zabo ngezihlandlo eziliqela yindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana ulwazi olungakumbi. Kukunceda ukuba ungacingi nto kwaye ucele imibuzo eninzi, nokuba nemibuzo ocinga ukuba uyazi impendulo. Ingakumbi, qiniseka ukuba ufuna ukucaciswa ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyaziqonda ngokupheleleyo. Xa uzixhobile zonke iinkcukacha, uza kulungelelanisa ukufumana umxhaphazi ukuba ayeke ukutshintsha ityala kwaye uthathe uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe.
Qaphela ukuba ungaphazamisi . Xa uphazamisa abanye abantu, iyakuthetha ukuba awuxabisi oko bathethayo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula xa uthetha kwixhoba lokuxhatshazwa. Ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba uyazi ukuba unomdla malunga noko akuthethileyo kwaye awuzami ukumkhawulela ukuba aphume ibali lakhe. Ukuphazamisa kwakhona kumisa uqeqesho lomntu womntu othethayo kwaye lukhokela incoko ngendlela oyifunayo, kungekhona ngendlela eyoqhubeka ngayo.
Buza umbuzo wakho, ke makhe umntu aphendule ngokupheleleyo, nokuba ucinga ukuba awufumani impendulo oyifunayo. Kwakhona, linda ade baqedele ukucacisa oko kwathethwa okanye ukubuza imibuzo eyongeziweyo. Unokuhlala uqondisa umntu kwisihloko esilandelayo ngombuzo olandelayo.
Ukuba ulinganiselwe ngexesha kunye nomntu uzama ukunqanda ingqwalasela kwingxaki ekhoyo, ngoko ke kufuneka uphazamise. Qiniseka ukuba uxolo kwaye uhlonipha xa wenza. Nangona kungalunganga ukuba umxhaphazi atshintshe isityholo, ufuna ukumgcina ekhuluma. Ungathi into enjenge: "Ndixolele, ndifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba ndikuqonda. Into endikuvileyo ithi ... "Bese ububuyisele kwisihloko oxoxwa ngaso.
Khumbula ukuphuhlisa izakhono zokubuza umbuzo kuthatha ixesha kunye nomonde. Kodwa ukuba ufuna iimpendulo ezilungileyo, ngoko kufuneka uqale ngemibandela emihle. Ngoko kufanelekile umzamo.