Kubazali, akukho nto inokuba nzima kunokuba ufumane ukuba umntwana wakho ungumxhaphazi . Akukona nje ukukrakra, kodwa kunokuba yinkqubo egxininisayo ngakumbi ukuba uvakalelwa ukuba akenzanga nto ephosakeleyo. Kodwa ngokungenelela okufanelekileyo kunye nekhono elifanelekileyo elisekwe , abaxhatshazwayo banako ukwenza utshintsho. Isibalulekileyo kukuphendula ukuziphatha komntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza nangokufanelekileyo.
Oku kungenelela kwangethuba akubandakanyi nje ukuyala nje umntu otyhafisayo ngenxa yokukhetha kwakhe okungafanelekanga kodwa nokumnika amandla okuthatha ubunini. Nazi iindlela ezisixhenxe zokufumana umntwana wakho athathe uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe aze aphelise ukuziphatha kakubi.
Musa ukwenza izizathu kunye nokugxeka abanye
Xa abazali befumanisa umntwana wabo ngumxhaphazi okanye ukuba umntwana wabo u-cyberbully, bahlala befuna ukuzithethelela okanye banikezele iinkcazo zokuziphatha. Kodwa ukugxeka abanye akuncedi umntwana wakho afunde iimpawu ezibalulekileyo ezifana nokuzithiba nokulawula umsindo. I-Blame ikukhusela ukuba ungaboni kakuhle umntwana wakho. Khumbula, umntwana wakho uya kufuneka asebenze kwihlabathi elidala ngelinye ilanga. Kungcono ukuba ufunde indlela yokuziphatha ngendlela eyamkelekileyo kuluntu ngoku kunokuba ihambe emva koko. Njengoko kunzima, kufuneka uvume ukuba umntwana wakho uxhaphaza abanye abantu.
Musa ukuvumela ukuxhatshazwa kwabantu
Ukuxhatshazwa kwengcinezelo kuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba akholelwe ukuba izenzo zakhe zilungelelaniswa ngenye indlela ngenxa yokuba wahlushwa ngandlela-thile.
Kwakhona ithetha ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba akayena uxanduva lokukhetha kwakhe. Ukuvumela ukucinga kwexhoba kuvimbela abantwana ukuba baqhubeke bekhula kwaye beguquka. Kwakhona kwakha ingqiqo yokungenakunceda. Kwaye abantwana abavunyelwe ukuzibona njengamaxhoba banenkcitho enzima kakhulu yokuphila ubomi obuphilileyo novelisayo.
Nangona umntwana wakho ehluphekileyo ezandleni zenye, ukuxhatshazwa akusiyo impendulo efanele. Melana nomnqweno wokuzikhethela izigqibo ezimbi ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho waxhatshazwa. Kunoko, mkhuthaze ukuba enze ukhetho oluphilileyo, nesibindi ekukhanyeni kwamava akhe.
Khumbuza Ukunyelisa Kona Kukhethiweyo
Ukuxhatshazwa akubangelwa yinto echazwe yintlanzi okanye yenzayo. Kwaye abantu abaxhatshazwayo kufuneka bafunde ukuthatha ubunini bezi zigqibo. Kwakhona kufuneka bakwazi ukuqonda ukuba oko benzayo kwakungalunganga kunye nendlela eyenza ukuba ixhoba live. Ukugxininisa ukuba akukho mntu "owenze" ukuba benze. Kumaemeko ezinxulumene neengcinezelo zontanga , ukuxhatshazwa kweqela okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwezilwanyana , umxhatshazo nguye ojongene nokukhetha kwakhe. Nangona kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokufumana umxhaphazi ukuba athathe ubunini, intloko kukuba unokutshilozela into ayenzileyo kwaye uthathe uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe.
Yenza Ukunyaniseka Kulula
Ukuba ufuna ukufikelela phantsi kwezinto zakho zomntwana ukunyelisa abanye, kufuneka uhlale uxolo xa ubonisa ukunganeliseki ngokukhetha kwakhe okungalunganga. Ngaphezu koko, ukuzola kwenza kube lula kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kwamkela iimpazamo zakhe kwaye ube nencoko ethembekileyo nawe. Kwakhona, uxinzelelo lokuba usamthandayo ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kodwa ukuba udaniwe ekukhethweni kwakhe.
Oku kwenza ingxoxo elula ngemiphumo ezayo, ukulungiswa nokwenza izinto ezahlukeneyo ngexesha elizayo ukuba uyazi ukuba uyathandwa naphezu kweempazamo zakhe.
Ukunyanzelisa iziphumo ezifanelekileyo
Xa ugqiba indlela yokuqeqesha umntwana wakho ngokuxhatshazwa, kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba iziphumo zihambelane nobunzima becala. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ubanjwe nge-cyberbullying ngomnye umntu, i-course yezenzo ezona zilungileyo zingamthabatha ufikelelo kwimidiya yoluntu ngexesha elimiselweyo. Ukongezelela, kufuneka uxhase naluphi na ulwalathiso lwezenzo zesikolo esinikezelweyo.
Bonisa iindlela zokulungisa
Enye indlela yokwenza umntwana wakho athathe ubunini bakhe ukhetho lokuxhatshazwa kukubonisa indlela ezo zigqibo ezichaphazela ngayo amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa. Ukwenza oko kuya kunceda umntwana wakho abe novelwano kwaye abone ukuba ezi zigqibo ezimbi zibuhlungu abanye abantu. Nangona abaninzi abantu bacinga ukuba ukuxolisa yindlela efanelekileyo yokulungisa, oku akusoloko kunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha ixhoba libuhlungu kakhulu ngenxa yokuxhaphaza ukuba nayiphi na intsebenziswano nomenzi owonayo kuya kuba yinto engabonakaliyo. Ukuba ufuna umntakwabo ukuba axolise, incwadi ebhaliweyo enokuthi inokuba luncedo. Ungakhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba azithobele ixesha lakhe kwintlangano echasayo. Ezinye iindlela zibandakanya ukuba aphakamise iimali zokunceda ngolwazi lokuxhaphaza, ukwenza uphando malunga nokuxhatshazwa kunye neziphumo okanye ukukhonza njengomcebisi kubantwana abancinci.
Ukuphala iMithetho
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka xa abazali bevumile okanye bengenamthetho. Nika umntwana wakho isethi yezikhokelo malunga nomsebenzi wesikolo kunye nemisebenzi engekho ngaphandle ukuhlonipha, i- etiquette ye-digital kunye nexesha elichithwe kwi-intanethi . Kwakhona qiniseka ukuba uyazi oko kuza kwenzeka xa engayithobeli imithetho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba i-cyberbullies nezinye izingane, uya kulahlekelwa ngamalungelo akhetheknoloji. Okanye, ukuba uhlala ebantwini, uya kuhlaselwa. Emva koko, qiniseka ukuba ulandele ukuba umyalelo uphukile. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuhambelana kwakho kuya kubangela ukutshintsha kwindlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho uxhaphaza abanye, musa ukutshatyalaliswa nokudumala ozivelayo. Endaweni yoko, gxininisa ukuhlala uzinzile kwaye usebenzisa imeko ukuba ufundise umntwana wakho kuphela indlela yokwenza ukhetho olungcono, kodwa nendlela yokuphatha abantu ngobubele. Khumbula, abantwana bafunda kwaye bekhula. Khangela le meko njengethuba lokunceda umntwana wakho akhule kwaye atshintshe.