Iingcamango malunga nendlela yokufundisa izakhono zobungqina kubantwana bakho
Kwabanye abantwana, ukuxhaswa kuza ngokuqhelekileyo. Bakuchaza ngokucacileyo iingcamango zabo neemvakalelo kwaye abanalo ingxaki yokumelana noko bakukholelwayo. Okwangoku, abanye abantwana bazama ukuzithetha, ngakumbi ngezinto ezibakhathazayo. Kodwa kufuneka bafunde ukuba kulungile ukucela oko bafuna. Ngokufanayo, kufuneka baqonde ukuba kuyamkeleka ukuba baxelele izinto abangazithandiyo okanye ezenza bangakhululeki.
Fundisa Abantwana Ukuba Bayiqinisekise Ngokubanzi Ukukhusela Ukuxhatshazwa
Ezi zakhono zibaluleke ngakumbi xa kuziwa ekujonganeni nokuxhatshazwa , ukuxhatshazwa kwe- cyberbullying , ukuthumelelana nge- imeyile kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha okubi. Ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukukhupha izakhono zakhe zokuqinisekisa, zikho iindlela ezisixhenxe ongayenza ukuba aqalise ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Gqamisa umehluko phakathi kokuqiniswa kunye nobudlova. Chaza ukuba abantu abanobudlova bazama ukuphoqa abanye abantu ukuba benze oko bafuna. Kuthetha ukuba amantombazana ngumzekelo omnye wabantu abanobudlova. Basebenzisa kwaye basongela abantu ukuba bafumane oko bafuna. Okwangoku, abantu abaxhasayo bayakwazi ukuthetha nabo. Baya kuzikhusela okanye abanye ngokuchasene nokungalungi kwaye babuze oko bakufunayo. Bathetha ngokucacileyo iingcamango zabo neengcamango zabo besetyenzisiwe ngelizwi elihloniphekileyo nelulwimi oluhloniphekileyo. Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho bayayazi ukuba ukusebenzisa ilizwi eliqinileyo nelithembekileyo kubalulekile, kodwa ukuba akukho mfuneko yokukhwaza.
Abantu abachaphazelekayo bahlonipha iimfuno kunye nezifiso zabanye abantu.
Vumela ukuba benze ukhetho. Ukuxhobisa abantwana bakho ngokubavumela ukuba bazikhethele ngezinto abazicelwa ukuba benze. Qinisekisa umntwana wakho ukuba angatsho naluphi na isicelo esenza angakhathazeki. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba akafuni ukuya kuma-movie kunye nomhlobo, kuyamkeleka ukuba uthi: "mhlawumbi ixesha elizayo." Okanye, ukuba akafuni ukukhwela ekhaya kunye nomntu ovela kwiqela, kuyamkeleka ukuba uthi: "akukho mbulelo." Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba unenkululeko yokukhetha.
Ukuze wenze ukukhetha ekhaya, zama ukunika abantwana ithuba lokukhetha ekhaya. Ukuba uhlala ukhetha ukhetho kumntwana wakho, uya kuba nokuvumela ukuba bakhe abahlobo bakhe benze ukhetho naye.
Ukuxininisa ukuba banamalungelo. Qiniseka ukuba abantwana bakho bayazi ukuba banelungelo lokuthi "hayi." Umntwana wakho unelungelo lokuphathwa ngokuhlonela, ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe, ukuchaza iimfuno zakhe kunye nokuziqhenya ngaye. Ukuba umhlobo, umxhaphazi okanye intombi engahloniphi amalungelo akhe, ngoko kufuneka aphendule ubuhlobo bakhe naloo mntu. Abantu abaxhasayo abavumeli abanye batyathele amalungelo abo. Bafunda indlela yokumelana nokuxhatshazwa kunye nabanye abantu abangahloneliyo kwaye bayazi indlela yokuzimela xa befuna.
Ukuzithemba. Ukwakha ukuzithemba kukubaluleka kokuthintela uxhatshazo . Kwakhona kubalulekile ekuqinisekiseni. Awunakulindela ukuba umntwana wakho azimelele yena okanye oko akukholelwayo ukuba akayi kuqala ukuzimela. Ukwakha ukuzithemba kumntwana wakho, phulaphula oko akuthethileyo. Mkhuthaze ukuba acinge ngaye. Ukwenza njalo kuya kubonisa ukuba iingcamango zakhe, iimvakalelo kunye nezimvo zakhe zibalulekile. Uya kukhululeka ngokuziqinisekisa ukuba uyazithemba ukuba ngubani.
Khuthaza ukuzithetha ngokuzenzekelayo ekhaya apho kukhuselekileyo ukuba yinyani. Oku kunceda ukwakha ukuzithemba kwaye uvumele umntwana wakho enze ukunyaniseka kwenene nabanye.
Ziqhelise ukuxhomekeka ekhaya. Ukudlala indima yemihla ngemihla ebhekene nomntwana wakho esikolweni. Ngokomzekelo, zenze u titshala kwaye uncede umntwana wakho acele uncedo. Okanye uzenze umxhaphazi kwaye wenze umntwana wakho azithethelele. Ukusebenzisa ukuqinisekiswa kuya kunceda umntwana wakho asebenzise ukubonisa iimfuno zakhe kwindawo ephephile. Kwakhona kunika amava akhe ekuqinisekiseni ukuba xa ixesha liza ukuzibamba, alive likhulu okanye lingaphandle.
Qaphela indlela ophendula ngayo izicelo zabo. Njengomzali, kulula kakhulu ukuthetha ngaphandle ngaphandle kokucinga. Kodwa xa ufundisa izakhono zobungqina bakho zobuntwana, ufuna ukuphepha ukumvala. Ukuba uhlaziywa rhoqo xa wenza isicelo, okanye ukuba uphendula ngokuthi "cha," oko kukutya kwinkohlakalo yengane yakho ukuba iingcamango zakhe, iiminqweno kunye nezimvo azibalulekanga. Kunoko, zama ukunikela ngcaciso emfutshane kwimpendulo yakho, ngokukodwa xa uthi "hayi." Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana kufuneka bakhunjuzwe ukuba kwamkelekile ukubuza, nangona impendulo ngamanye amaxesha "ayikho."
Xoxa ukuba abantu abanokuthi bacele uncedo. Ekugqibeleni, vumela abantwana bakho bazi ukuba ukunyaniseka akuthethi ukuba abanakucela abanye ukuba bancede, ingakumbi ukuba bahlala kwimeko engaziwayo okanye eyoyikisayo. Qinisekisa ukuba bayazi ukuba xa kuxhamla ukuxhatshazwa , ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe- inthanethi wonke umntu ufuna uncedo oluncinci. Qinisekisa umntwana wakho ukuba ukucela uncedo akuyikuba neentloni. Kunoko, kubonisa ukuba uyayilumko ekujonganeni nomba onzima.