Qinisekisa ukuba ukufakela ukugcinwa kwe-cust se pro kulungile kuwe
Sivame ukuthetha nabazali malunga nokuba bafake isicelo sokugcina umntwana, kwaye igama elibizwa ngokuba yi-'immeli '. Ngokubanzi, sincoma ukuba abazali baqhubeke beqaphele xa kuziwa ekufakeni ukugcinwa kwabantwana okanye inkxaso yokuxhasa abantwana. Imibuzo elandelayo kunye neengcebiso zingakunceda ukuba ufumane inkqubela phambili yezona zinto ezihambelana necala lakho.
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Qala ngokuzibuza imibuzo elandelayo:
- Ingaba i-ex yangu inommeli wokugcina umntwana? Nangona inkqubo yobulungisa ivumela abazali ukuba bazimele ngokwabo, sivame ukucebisa abazali ukuba baphinde bacinge ngokuzimela ukuba omnye umzali uya kumelwa ngcebiso. Abazali abamele isiluleko bangaba kwindawo efanelekileyo. Igqwetha eliqondayo umthetho weentsapho liya kuba nolwazi oluthile lokuba umntu ongeyena ongenakho.
- Ngaba ndinako ukufumana igqwetha lokugcinwa kwabantwana ngasese? Umzali ngamnye uyazi ukuba wakhe, isikhundla esithile sezimali kunye nezibonelelo. Abanye abazali baboleka imali kummeli, ngelixa abanye banokulondoloza imali eninzi. Abazali abahlukanisile bahlala benelungelo lokufumana iindleko zomthetho ezigqitywa ngumntu owayengumlingane, obhaliweyo ngqo kumyalelo wokuqhawula umtshato. Ukuba ngaba ngabazali banokuthobeka, ukubonakaliswa kwepro ye-pro ingaba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuqeshelwa ngummeli wecala lokugcina umntwana, kodwa indleko akufanele ibe yedwa.
- Ngaba ndinokuqonda okuyisiseko kwindlela iinkqubo zenkundla zisebenza ngayo? Iindlebe zee-Custody, kunye neenkqubo zenkundla ngokubanzi, zidibanisa kakhulu kwixesha lokuqala. Abazali becinga ngokumelwa kweendlela eziqhelekileyo banokuzuza ngokuya kwiinkqubo ezimbalwa zokuvalelwa kweenkundla kwangaphambili, ukuze baqhelane nento enokuyilindela enkundleni kwaye yintoni ebonakalayo efanelekileyo inkundla. (Nceda ukhumbule: nayiphi na imibuzo enayo malunga neenkqubo ezifanelekileyo zeenkundla inokuthi ihlale ibhekiswa kumabhalana wenkundla. Ngoko mfunela lowo mntu kwaye ukhulise ubudlelwane obusondeleyo naye.)
- Ngaba ndinokuqonda okuyisiseko kwamaphepha enkundla efunekayo? Izigulana zamaphepha zingasongela abantu abaninzi, izikhulu zomthetho zibandakanya. Abazali baqwalasela ukubonakaliswa kweempawu zabo kufuneka baqhelane neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zomthetho weentsapho. Kwakhona, ube nobungane kunye nomabhalana wenkundla uze ucele uncedo lwakhe oluchonga iifom ezichanekileyo, apho ziza kubafumana khona, xa zifanelekile, kwaye zifanele zithunyelwe njani.
- Ngaba ndinayo ixesha kunye nezibonelelo ezikhoyo ukuze ndimelele ngokwabo? Njengoko ubona, kuninzi ukufunda phambi kokuba uzimelele ekuvaleleni kwengane. Abazali baqwalasela ukubonakaliswa kweempawu kufuneka baqwalasele ngokukodwa ukuba banayo ixesha, ukuzimisela, kunye nengqwalasela engabalulekanga ukuba bazinikezele kulo msebenzi ngaphambi kokuba benze isigqibo sokuba bahambe bodwa enkundleni.
Iingcebiso zeP Pro
Ukuba uceba ukuzimela enkundleni yentsapho, landela la macebiso okugcina:
- Thatha amanqaku aqaphele ngexesha leenkqubo
- Mamela ngokucophelela
- Phendula ngokuhlonipha ijaji kunye negosa lakho
- Ukuqonda imithetho yengingqi yomntwana
- Bomnye ubonisana kunye negqwetha lokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko yakho ukuze ubone indlela engcono yokuqhubeka ngayo
- Ngaphandle koko, yiya kwiklinikhi yomthetho ekhululekile kwindawo yakho
- Hlala ubuncinane inkundla enye inokuqhubeka ngaphambi kokuba uzive oko kwenzekayo ngexesha lokuvalelwa kwenkundla
- Ngena kuzo zonke izivumelwano ngokukhululekile okanye ngokuzithandela
Ukugqiba ukuba Kufuneka ufake ifayile ye-Pro
Kungaba nzima ukugqiba ukuba ngaba uzimela kwindawo yokugcinwa kwengane okanye ukuvalelwa kwenkxaso yabantwana. Thatha ixesha lokuqwalasela ngenyameko kwizinto ezikhankanywe ngasentla. Ukongezelela, kufuneka uthethe kummeli onemvume onamava kwimeko yokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko yakho. Unokukunceda ukuba wenze isigqibo sokuba ngaba ukugcinwa kwesigqibo sokugcina isisigqibo esifanelekileyo, ngokusekelwe kwinyani kwimeko yakho kunye neemfuno zakho.
Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.