Ukuva malunga nemiphumo emibi yobazali abangabodwa abangabantwana, ukususela kwiingxaki zezoqoqosho ukuya kwiinkalo zentembeko enxulumene nokulahlwa. Kodwa kuthekani ngemiphumo emihle yokukhuliswa ngumzali omnye? Phakathi kokukhulisa abantwana bakho ngokwakho, usenokungacingi ngeemeko zakho njengebhonasi, kodwa kukho iziphumo ezintle ezibangelwa ngumzali ongatshatanga. Abantwana abakhuliswa ngabazali abangabodwa bavame ukuba:
Ukuphuhlisa iibhanki ezinamandla
Ukuchitha umgangatho ngexesha ngalinye kunye nezingane zakho kukuvumela ukuba uhlakulele isibophelelo esisodwa esinokuba namandla kunokuba bekungekho umzali omnye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kuyinyaniso kubazali abaninzi abaxhamlileyo, kodwa kunjalo nenani labantwana abangenalo ukugweba abafumana ithuba lokudlala indima ekhethekileyo kwimpilo yabantwana babo.
- Ungaze unciphise ukubaluleka kwendima yakho.
- Qaphela ukuba umtshato wakho awukho apho ufuna ukuba ube namhlanje, unokusebenza ukuwuqinisa.
- Uqhagamshelwano lwakho nabantwana bakho aluyi kuphela xa behamba nge-18; Ubhonkco buya kuqhubeka nokuguquka kwiminyaka yabantu abadala.
Ukufumana uLuntu oluQinisekileyo
Sonke siyazi kakuhle ibinzana elithi "Kuthatha idolophana ukuba ikhulise umntwana." Abantwana abakhuliswa kwiintsapho zabazali abangabodwa bahlala bejikeleze idolophini yabalandeli, ngokoqobo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, amalungu omndeni osondeleyo aya kunyuka aze adlale indima ebalulekileyo ebomini babantwana. Kwaye abazali abangabodwa abangasondeli kufuphi nentsapho banokukhetha ukuthatha inxaxheba kumaqela oluntu-kuquka amaqela axhaswa ngumzali, iicawa kunye nezesikhungu-ezixhasa lonke intsapho.
- Joyina iqela elixhasa abazali.
- Khangela amaqela asekuhlaleni aya kukunceda ukuba ungene kwiindawo zakho zasekuhlaleni.
- Bandakanyeka esikolweni somntwana wakho.
Yabelana noxanduva
Abantwana abakhuliswayo kwiintsapho zabazali abangabodwa abanakho nje "imisebenzi" yokuyenza ukuze bafumane isibonelelo. Kunoko, igalelo labo kwinkqubo yentsapho iyimfuneko. Uncedo lokwenene loncedo lwabo lunceda abantwana bakho baqonde ukubaluleka kwegalelo labo kwaye baqhayisa ngomsebenzi wabo.
- Dumisani abantwana bakho ngokunceda ngeenxa zonke ekhaya.
- Baxelele ukuba uyayibona imizamo yabo.
- Balindele ukuba bafake isandla baze bathethe xa becela ukuba bancede.
Funda indlela yokujongana neengxaki
Abantwana kwimibutho yabazali abangabodwa bayabona ubungqina bokungqubuzana kwezakhono zokusebenzisana. Baya kubona abazali babo bebenza nzima-nangona bahluke-ukusebenzisana kunye nokusebenza kunye ngokufanelekileyo. Ukongezelela, abantwana banyanzelekile ukuba bajongane nokudumala kwabo ekuqaleni kwentsapho.
- Phendula ngeentlungu zezingane zakho ngenkxaso, isikhuthazo novelwano.
- Jonga la mava njengamathuba okukhula okuxabisekileyo, ubancede babe ngabantu abanentlonelo, abanomonde, nabakhathalelayo.
- Awukwazi ukukhusela ukuba abantwana bakho bazive bebuhlungu okanye badidekile, kodwa unokubanceda ukuba baveze baze bajamelane neemvakalelo zabo.
Funda indlela yokujongana nokuPhambili kweNkcazo
Abantwana abakhuliswayo kwimindeni yabazali abangatshatanga bodwa bayayazi ukuba yiyona nto ephambili ebomini babazali babo, kodwa ayenziwa njengokuba yimbindi yendalo yonke. Le ndlela ephilileyo inceda ukulungiselela abantwana "ihlabathi lenene."
- Nceda abantwana bakho balinganise iimfuno zabo kunye neentswelo zabo ngeemfuno zeli qela leentsapho.
- Qaphela ukuba kulungile kuwe njengomzali ukuphinda ufune iimfuno zakho, ezifana nesidingo sexesha elilodwa okanye ingxoxo yabantu abadala.
- Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bachaze iimfuno zabo ngelixa beqwalasela iimfuno zabanye.