Ukuba ufumana ukhulisa abantwana kuphela emva kokulahlekelwa ngumlingane wakho, kubalulekile ukuzinyameka ngoxa ngexesha elifanayo uhola abantwana bakho ngenxa yentlungu. Ezi zinto zilandelayo zingenakunceda.
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Hlanganisa abantwana bakho kunye nabantu abadala abakuthandayoNjengoko umzali osaphila, ungumntu obaluleke kakhulu ebomini bentsapho yakho ngoku. Kodwa kukho abanye abazimisele ukukunceda nokukhuthaza abantwana bakho ngeli xesha elinzima, kunye namava abo ahlukeneyo kunye nomntu obathandayo uya kunceda abantwana bakho babone umfanekiso obanzi, ogqityiweyo ngokubanzi womntu lowo.
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Yakha UlwakhiwoUlwakhiwo lunokuba ngumthombo omkhulu wokuthuthuzela abantwana. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuzinzisa iindlela zakho, kuquka nezingane zakho zobusuku bexesha lokulala, ukuze babe nombono oqhelekileyo wento omele ulindele kwithuba elilodwa ukuya kwelinye. Ukuqhelaniswa okulula njengokufana nokutya ngexesha elifanayo ngosuku ngalunye kunokunceda ukudala umoya ozinzileyo nangona uvakalelo lwakho luhlala lukhuni.
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Yehlisa isantyaUngalingeka ukuba uziphose wena kunye nezingane zakho zibuyele "kwindlela yakho evamile," wenze izinto ezifana nokubuyela emsebenzini kunye nesikolo ngokukhawuleza. Kwinqanaba elithile, oku kuncedo. Nangona kunjalo, uzakufuna ukuthatha izinto zinyamezele kwaye unike abantwana bakho inkululeko yokuphuma kwiimbopheleleko zentlalo okanye kwimisebenzi xa befuna indawo.
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Nika Abantwana Bakho IzinkethoUninzi lwezinto eziye zenzeke sele zingaphumi kolawulo lwezingane zakho, ke qiniseka ukuba ubavumela ukuba bazikhethele ngokwabo xa kunokwenzeka. Oku kunokubandakanya izigqibo ezilula oko bathenxiweyo kunye noko bazenzayo ngexesha labo elithile, ngaphakathi kwesizathu.
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Buza into oyifunayoAbahlolokazi abaninzi abancinci banxunguphelelwe kukutsalwa kothando kunye nenkxaso, enokuthi ibonakalise ngesitya seefestile ezingaphezulu kunezo kunye nabantwana bakho abanokutya. Ungesabi ukuvumela abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ukuba bazi ukuba kukho enye into oyifunayo, okanye ukuba ukhetha ukuba basasaze ububele babo kwixesha leveki okanye kwiinyanga. Umzekelo, unokuthi, "Ndiyabuxabisa lonke uncedo lwakho." Noko ke, into endiyidingayo ngoku ngoku, ngaphezu kokutya, kukuba umntu athathe uJohnny kwi-baseball practice ngoLwesine. " Akukho nto engalunganga ngokucacileyo malunga neemfuno zakho.
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Xoxa Iingxaki zakhoUnokufumana ukuba ufikelele kwindawo apho ufuna kuphela ukuba wonke umntu abuyele kwaye akunike indawo. Oku kungokwemvelo, kwaye kulungile ukuxelela abahlobo bakho nosapho indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo. Umzekelo, unokuthi, "Ndiyayixabisa iifowuni zakho, kodwa andiyikuthanda ukuthetha ngoku ngoku. Ngaba ungayizama kwakhona ngeveki okanye kunjalo?" Baxelele ukuba awufuni ukuba babuyele ngokusisigxina, kwaye uyawuxabisa umzamo.
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Funa iNkxaso eyongezelelweyoCinga ukuthetha nomcebisi okanye ukuya kwiqela elixhasayo lomzali kubahlolokazi abancinane kwisibhedlele sendawo okanye kwindawo yoluntu. Ngamanye amaxesha nje ukuthetha nomntu ongeyenazi ukuba unesihluthulelo, kuba kukuvumela ukuba uzivakalise ngokukhululekile ngaphandle kokuxhalabisa ukuba ukunyaniseka kuya kubangela abanye ukuba bakhathazeke ngawe nangakumbi.
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Zinike Inkululeko YokuziphosaAwukho umzali ogqibeleleyo. Sonke senza iimpazamo. Ngoko vumela ukuba ungene kwindawo yokuqala uze uqaphele ukuba awuyi kuzuza yonke into ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa uya kulunge ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ekusebenziseni zonke izinto ezikuxanduva lwakho ngoku.
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Gcina Ukwenza Naluphi na izigqibo ezinkuluUsenokucinga ngokuthengisa indlu yakho, ukufudukela kumalungu entsapho, okanye ukubuyela esikolweni. Nangona izinto ozicingayo kwangokunje, ekugqibeleni zinokuthi zibe yisigqibo esona siphumelele kuwe kunye nezingane zakho, kufuneka ukhuphe ukwenza izigqibo ezinkulu kwiinyanga ezintandathu ukuya kweyeshumi elinesibini. Zinike ixesha lokulungelelanisa ukulahlekelwa kwakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba utshintsho ocinga ngalo, ngokwenene, lubonakalisa izigqibo ofuna ukuzenza.
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Musa ukusibuyisela ukuxhalaba kwakhoEkugqibeleni, abahlolokazi abaninzi abaselula bawela emgibeni wokuphepha zabo iimvakalelo. Ukuqhawula intlungu yakho yenye yezinto ezimbi kakhulu ongayenza ngoku ngoku. Intlungu yinkqubo omele uyenze ngayo . Kwaye nangona kukho iipateni - njengezigaba zokukhanyela, umsindo, ukuxoxwa, ukuxinezeleka, kunye nokwamkelwa - intlungu ikwazisa ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuzama ukulawula inkqubo kuya kuphucotha ukuqhubela phambili kwakho kwaye kubambe abantwana bakho ithuba lokuba ubone ukuba oko bahlangabezanayo akuqhelekanga okanye akunakwenzeka.