Isiseko sokuba ngumzali okhulayo
Ezi zilandelayo zi-6 zichaza isiseko esisisiseko solwazi lwabazali abaphumelelayo. Ewe, kukho okungakumbi ukuba ngumzali okhuselekileyo, kodwa ezi ngongoma ezi-6 zindawo enkulu ukuqala.
I-Skster Care Skill # 1 - Yazi ikhaya lakho nosapho.
Ngaphambi kokungena kwiinkathalo zokunyamekela, iintsapho ezininzi zichitha iminyaka emibini okanye emithathu nje ukucinga ngayo. Nazi izimbalwa ezimbalwa zokuqwalasela ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokugqibela malunga nokuba ungekho ukunakekelwa kwabantwana.
Kukho imingcipheko embalwa kumntu onokuba ngumzali okhulayo kunye nelizwe ngalinye linakho izikhokelo zokulandela.
Kukho izakhono eziliqela abazali abaphumelelayo abafuna ukuyiqonda, njengomonde kunye nokukwazi ukuthetha kakuhle.
Kubalulekile ukulungiselela abantwana bakho ngokunyamekela abantwana. Onke amalungu osapho lwakho olusondeleyo, nokuba ngabayeni abatshitshisiweyo, kufuneka babe ebhodini kunye nesigqibo ngokungongeza kwintsapho, nokuba ngaba yesikhashana nje, iyatshintsha ukuhamba kwemvelo ekhaya lakho.
Yazi ukuba akusiyo yonke intsapho kunye nabahlobo bakho abaya kuxhasa isigqibo sakho sokuba ngumntwana osapho.
Qonda ukuba ukukhuthazwa kunakho kwaye kuya kuba nefuthe kumtshato wakho, kodwa umthamo ophilileyo wehlazi unokunciphisa naziphi na iingxaki.
Ukuqonda ukuba ukubonelela ngononophelo kubantwana bakho kuya kuba nefuthe kubantwana bakho, kodwa ukulungiselela abantwana bakho kunye nokukhetha kwiintlobo zokuziphatha ozikhuselayo kuya kunceda.
Ukuba emva kophando oluthile unquma ukuba ukunakekelwa kwabantwana akusikho kuwe, kukho ezinye iindlela zokufumana inkxaso yoonyana abangabantwana okanye abo bazali abakhulayo abakhulayo.
Mhlawumbi ufuna ukukhuthaza, kodwa uvakalelwe kukuba oku akusixesha elifanelekileyo. Kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ngoku ukuze uzilungiselele wena kunye nosapho lwakho ukuze ube ngabazali abangenabantwana emva koko.
Ikhono loNakekelo loLondolozo lwe-Foster # 2 - Yazi indlela yokuthetha.
Uya kuba nokuthetha nabantu abaninzi abahlukeneyo njengomzali okhulayo. Olu luhlu lungabandakanya:
- intsapho yo kuzalwa
- ootitshala kunye namanye amagosa esikolweni
- mayeza
- abasebenzi bezentlalo kunye nabanye abasebenzi baseburhulumenteni
- abagwebi nabanye abasebenzi benkundla, njengesiGAL okanye umsebenzi weCASA
- abanye abazali abangabantwana
- intsapho yakho kunye nabahlobo, abasenokungayiqondi indima yakho njengomzali okhulayo.
- umntwana
Ikhono loNakekelo loLondolozo lwe-Foster # 3 - Yazi ukuba ukusebenza nabantwana abancinci kunye neenkqubo zokunyamekela abantwana kunokuba nzima.
Abantwana ekunyamekelweni kwabantwana baye bahlala bexhatshazwa kakubi kunye nokunyanzeliswa. Indlela yokuthetha yomntwana idla ngokuziphatha. Inkqubo yokunakekelwa kwabantwana ihlala yinkampani entsha kubazali abaninzi abancinci.
Cinga ngeminyaka, ubulili, kunye neendlela zokuziphatha zabantwana kwikhaya lakho nakwiintsapho ziya kulungeleka.
Yazi ukuba imingeni yokusebenza nomntwana okhulayo iquka nemingeni yokusebenza kunye nenkqubo yokunakekelwa kwabantwana abakhathazekile.
Cinga indlela usuku lokuqala kunye nomntwana wakho okhulayo ekhaya lakho kuya kuhamba kunye nendlela oza kubeka ngayo indima entsha njengomzali okhulayo.
Ikhono loNakekelo loLondolozo lwe-Foster # 4 - Yazi indlela yokuphatha kakuhle iimpawu zokuziphatha zabantwana abacelomngeni.
Ngenxa yobundlobongela kunye nokunyanzelwa kwexesha elidlulileyo, isijeziso sonyango asivumelekanga ukuba sisetyenziswe kubantwana abakwinkathalo yabantwana.
Ukuba indlela yokuziphatha ibangela ukungathandeki ngokwenyama, akulungile. Umzekelo: ukungena ngaphandle kokutya, ukugodla ikhefu lokuhlambela, ukunyuka, okanye ukuma ekhoneni kwiinzwane ezisezantsi.
- Ukuqonda ukuba ukulawula indlela yokuziphatha komntwana, kubalulekile ukuba uqondisise ukuba kutheni ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana kunye nemingcipheko edlala indima.
Khumbula ukuba umsebenzi wakho njengomzali okhuselekileyo kukuba ukwakha isiqhotyoshelweyo kunye nomntwana okhulayo kunye nokuqeqeshwa ngokomzimba kunokutshabalalisa ubhondi ozama ukuwenza.
- Kwakhona kubalulekile ukugcina upholile njengomzali okhulayo. Oku kunokuba nzima kuba ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abasondezayo banqanda umda. Kubalulekile ukwenza konke esinakho ukuphepha ukuxhaphaza kubantwana ngexesha loxinzelelo.
I-Skster Care Skill # 5 - Yazi indlela yokulawula ilahleko zomntwana kwakunye neyakho.
Amaxesha amaninzi intlungu kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumntwana (ukulilalisa ukulahlekelwa kwekhaya kunye nentsapho kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kwexesha elidlulileyo) kunokubangela iimpendulo kumzali okhulayo.
- Ubuhlungu bubuqu kunye nomntwana ngamnye uya kuhamba nosizi kwixesha lakhe. Kubalulekile ukuqonda inkqubo yosizi nelahleko kubantwana ukuze sikwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zabo.
- Kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokuchaphazela intlungu yomntwana. Ubungakanani okanye ubunzulu beentlungu zingabandakanyeka kuhlobo loxinzelelo okanye kwimeko yokukhula komntwana.
- Ingxenye yokuba ngumzali okhuselekileyo unceda umntwana ukuba abulawe ilahleko zakhe ngendlela ephilileyo.
- Yazi ukuba awukwazi ukugqiba ukunyamekelwa kwengane yomntwana onokukhuthaza. Uninzi lwamazwe luza kujolisa ekubekeni umntwana kunye nezihlobo xa umntwana engakwazi ukubuyela ekhaya kubazali bakhe bokuzalwa. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amawaka wabantwana abangenasemthethweni kwaye balungele ukuthotyelwa kwinkathalo yabantwana.
I-Skster Care Skill # 6 - Yazi indlela yokusebenza nabanye.
Njengomzali okhuselekileyo, uya kusebenza kunye neengcali ezahlukeneyo. Oku kuya kuhamba kunye noqhagamshelwano, kodwa kuninzi ukuba ilungu elifanelekileyo leqela.
Njengomzali okhulayo, uya kucelwa ukuba ube khona kwiintlanganiso kunye neqela labantu. Kubalulekile ukuba ulungele ukuthatha inxaxheba. Unengqiqo ebalulekileyo kwimfuno yomntwana kwaye iqela lifuna ukuva oko utsho.
- Abazali abaninzi abatsha banomdla xa behlangabezana nokuzalwa komntwana, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha unokufumanisa ukuba ukhuthaza okanye ucebisa yonke intsapho. Oku kubalulekile kuba abazali abangabantwana abayingxenye enkulu yenkqubo yokuhlanganiswa kwentsapho.