Iingcamango ezininzi zikhona malunga nendlela abantwana kunye nentsha abafumana ngayo kunye nokuvelisa iimvakalelo zabo kunye nokulahleka emva kokufa. Ngokuqhelekileyo kushukunyiswa ngumnqweno wokukhusela abantwana kwiziganeko ezibuhlungu, zengqondo ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali kunye nabalondolozi ngamanye amaxesha bacinga ukuba umntwana wabo usemncinci ukuba aqonde ukuba kwenzekani, okanye akhathazeke ukuba inkonzo yokungcwaba okanye yokungcwaba iya kubangela ukwesaba ngokufa nokufa emva koko.
Eli nqaku linika inyaniso emva kweentlanu eziqhelekileyo zentlungu eziphathelele abantwana kunye nentsha ekuncedeni ukuqonda iimfuno zabo kunye nentuthuzelo engcono kunye nokuxhasa umntwana osiliweyo.
Abantwana Abancinci Musa ukulila
Abantwana badabuka nangaliphi na ubudala , okungazibonakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yabantwana, isigaba sokuphuhlisa kunye / okanye amava okuphila. Ngokubanzi abantwana benza umsebenzi omhle kakhulu wokulila ngokukhawuleza ixesha kwaye emva kokuthatha ikhefu, ngokuqhelekileyo ngendlela yokudlala. Oku kunokuba ibone ukuba kutheni abazali / abadala bahlala bephosa umdlalo womntwana njengotyikityo lokuba umntwana akayi kuba lusizi okanye akahlali engazange azibandakanye / akhathazeki ngokufa.
Abantwana Ngaphantsi Kwexesha Elithile Akufanele Baye Kumngcwaba
Umntwana ngamnye ulawula iimbandezelo zakhe kunye nokulahlekelwa kwayo ngokuthe ngqo kwimiba emininzi, ngoko akukho mhlaba wonke okanye "ubukhulu obufanayo buhambisana nayo yonke" impendulo kumbuzo wokuba umntwana wakho makangayi kumngcwabo, inkonzo yesikhumbuzo okanye isistim esisekelwe kuphela ngexesha lakhe.
Iminyaka yengane yakho ingakwazi ukudlala inxaxheba, kodwa kunjalo nenqanaba lokukhula kwakhe; yintoni kwaye umzali okanye umgcini umxelele umntwana okanye umfana malunga nokufa; kwaye nokuba abantu abadala njani ebomini bakhe bahlangabezana nokulahlekelwa.
Abantwana ngokukhawuleza bafumane ngaphezu kokulahlekelwa
Inyaniso kukuba akukho mntu ufumana ukulahleka okukhulu ngenxa yokufa .
Nangona ubuhlungu obunzima bubangelwa xa umntu esimthandayo efa, kwaye isilonda senza ezintliziyweni zethu nasemiphefumlweni, sifunde kuphela indlela yokuphila kunye nenyaniso yokuba ukulahleka ngonaphakade kunye nokungabi nalutho kudala. Ngokufanayo, abantwana nabaselula bangase babuyeke ngokomoya / ngokwengqondo ukuhlaziya ilahleko zabo kwisigaba esilandelayo ekuphuhlisweni kwabo kwaye, njengoko ukuqonda kwabo ngokusisigxina kokufa kushintsho, intlungu yabo ingavela kwiindawo ezahlukahlukeneyo emva koko.
Ukulahleka Okubalulekileyo Kwimiqolo Yomntwana
Abantwana, njengabantu abaninzi, bahlala bexhaswa. Nangona ilahleko ephawulekayo inokuchaphazela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuphuhliswa komntwana okanye umntwana osemtsha ngokusekelwe kwimibandela eyahlukeneyo, abazali abanothando, abagcini kunye / okanye nabanye abantu abadala abadala indawo yenkxaso kunye nokunyamekela ngokuqhelekileyo bancedisa abantwana kunye nentsha ngokujongana neentlungu zabo ngendlela ephilileyo . Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kuqalisa indlela othetha ngayo nomntwana ngokufa kunye nomzekelo onika wona, njengomzekelo oyimpawu ebomini bomntwana wakho.
Abazali Abafanele Baxoxe Ngokufa / Ukuxhalaba Kwabantwana
Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza ukukhulumisana okuvulekileyo, ngokunyanisekileyo kunye nabantwana kunye nentsha ngokuphathelele usizi lwabo kunye / okanye ukuqonda kwabo ngokufa nokulahleka . Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokunceda umntwana wakho abonise intlungu, kodwa kuxhomekeka kwinqanaba lomntwana okanye ukukhula kwakhe, iindlela ezingenakucingayo ezikhuthaza ukubonakalisa ukuba kungaphumelela, njengeprojekthi yezobugcisa, ukufunda incwadi, ukudlala umdlalo , umculo okanye umdaniso.
Abantwana kunye / okanye abakwishumi elivisayo banokufumana ezi ndlela zisebenze ngakumbi ekubancedeni ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo, ezikhokelela kwimiphumo emihle kuwe nakumntwana wakho.
> Imithombo:
> "Ukuqaphela iimfuno zabantwana abasweleyo kwiNkathazo yokuPhatha" nguDarrell Owens. Umbhalo we-Hospice & Palliative Nursing , ngoJanuwari-Februwari 2008.