Indlela yokufundisa abantwana ukuba baqonde kwaye baveze iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela ephilileyo.
Njengomzali, unembopheleleko yokukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuphuhlisa ubulumko bakhe. Oku kuthetha ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuhlakani bezemfundo-kodwa akuyena kuphela uhlobo lobunkokheli olubalulekileyo.
Intelligent intelligence ichazwa njengomntu okwazi ukuveza nokulawula iimvakalelo ngokufanelekileyo ngelixa ehlonipha iimvakalelo zabanye. Yisetyenzana sezakhono abantwana abanokuqala ukufunda nangaliphi na ubudala.
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Kule minyaka emininzi edluleyo, uphando lufumene ukuqonda komoya lubonelela ngezibonelelo ezahlukahlukeneyo eziza kumnceda umntwana wakho ubomi bonke ubomi bakhe. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zeengqondo ezibonakalayo:
- I-EQ ephezulu idibene ne-IQ ephakamileyo. Abantwana abanamaqondo aphakamileyo obulumko bemoya benza ngcono kwiimvavanyo eziqhelekileyo. Kwakhona banamathuba amanqanaba aphezulu.
- Ulwalamano olungcono. Izakhono zobulumko zengqondo zinceda abantwana bakwazi ukulawula iingxabano kunye nokuhlakulela ubuhlobo obunzulu. Abantu abadala abanamaqondo aphakamileyo okhuseleko lwengqondo bavakalisa uxhulumano olungcono kwimpilo yabo yobuntu kunye nobugcisa.
- I-EQ yabantwana ixhunyaniswe nempumelelo ephezulu ngexesha lokudala. Uphando lweminyaka engama-19 olupapashwe kwi- American Journal of Health (Health Journal) lufumene ukuba izakhono zentlalo nezengqondo zengqondo zengqondo zengqondo zingabonisa ukuba yimpumelelo yokuphila. Abantwana abakwazi ukwabelana, abambisana kunye nokulandela izikhokelo ezineminyaka engama-5 babekho amathuba okufumana iikole zekholeji baze baqale ukusebenza ngexesha elipheleleyo ngama-25 ubudala.
- Ukuphucula impilo yengqondo. Abantu abanamaqondo aphakamileyo okhuseleko lwengqondo abavumi ukuba banokudandatheka kunye nezinye izifo zengqondo.
Iingeniso zengqondo zengqondo ziqiqa. Umntwana onokuzinqabisa xa uvakalelwa ngumsindo unokwenza kakuhle kwiimeko ezinzima. Kwaye umntwana okwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo zakhe ngendlela enempilo unokuthi ahlale enobudlelwane obunempilo kunomntwana okhwaza okanye uthetha izinto xa ethukuthele.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, zonke izingane zinamandla okufunda izakhono zengqondo zengqondo. Bafuna nje abantu abadala ukuba bafundise indlela.
1. Bhala ngeengxaki zabantwana bakho
Abantwana kufuneka baqonde indlela yokuqonda indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Unokukunceda umntwana wakho ngokubeka igama kwiimvakalelo zakhe-ubuncinane umvakalelo ocinga ukuba umntwana wakho uziva.
Xa umntwana wakho ecaphukile ulahlekelwe ngumdlalo, usenokuthi, "Kubonakala ngathi uziva unomsindo okwangoku. Ngaba kunjalo? "Ukuba ubheka buhlungu, usenokuthi," Ngaba udimazekile kukuba asiyi kutyelela uTogo nomkhulu namhlanje? "
Amazwi anemvakalelo anjenge "ukuthukuthela," "ukuthukuthela," "unamahloni" kunye "nobuhlungu" bonke bangakha isigama sokuvakalisa iimvakalelo. Ungakhohlwa ukwabelana ngamazwi enemvakalelo emihle, nayo, "injabulo," "ujabule," "ujabule" kunye "nethemba."
2. Bonisa uvelwano
Xa umntwana wakho ecaphukile-ngakumbi xa iimvakalelo zakhe zibonakala zibonakala kwicala elimangalisayo-kunokuzama ukunciphisa indlela aziva ngayo. Kodwa ukuphazamiseka kwezifundo kuya kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba indlela aziva ngayo ayiphutha.
Indlela engcono yokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye ubonise uvelwano-nokuba ungaziqondi isizathu sokuba uphelelwe ngumsindo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala ngenxa yokuba umxelele ukuba akakwazi ukuya epakini ade ahlambulule igumbi lakhe, tshela into enjengaleyo, "Ndiyathukuthela xa ndingenakukwenza oko ndikufunayo.
Kunzima ngamanye amaxesha ukuqhubeka ndisebenza xa andifuni. "
Xa umntwana wakho ebona ukuba uyayiqonda indlela avakalelwa ngayo ngaphakathi, uya kuziva engaphantsi kunyanzelekile ukuba akubonise indlela aziva ngayo ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngoko kunokumemeza nokukhala ukuze akubonise ukuba unomsindo, uya kuziva ngcono xa ukwenze kucacise ukuba uvele uqonde ukuba uphazamisekile.
3. Iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokubonisa iimvakalelo
Abantwana kufuneka baqonde indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela efanelekileyo yoluntu. Ngoko xa uthe, "Imizwa yam ibuhlungu," okanye ukudweba umfanekiso wesifo esidabukisayo kunokuba luncedo, ukumemeza nokuphonsa izinto akulungile.
Indlela eyona ndlela yokufundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo kukuba ngokuzithethelela ezo zakhono. Sebenzisa ukuvakalelwa amagama kwingxoxo yakho yansuku zonke kwaye usebenzise ukuthetha ngabo. Yithi izinto ezinje, "Ndiyathukuthela xa ndibona abantwana bengenangqondo kwindawo yokudlala," okanye "Ndivuyiswa xa siba nabahlobo bethu beza kudla."
Izifundo zibonisa abazali abanengqiqo abanokwenene banokuba nabantwana abanengqondo. Ngoko yenza umkhuba wokugxila ngokucacileyo ekwakheni izakhono zakho ukwenzela ukuba ube ngumzekelo osebenzayo kumntwana wakho.
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Xa abantwana beqonda iimvakalelo zabo, kufuneka bafunde indlela yokujongana nale mvakalelo ngendlela ephilileyo. Ukwazi indlela yokuzinqabisa, ukuzibhokoza, okanye ukujamelana noyiko kunokuba nzima kunabantwana.
Ukufundisa izakhono ezithile. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana wakho unokufumana inzuzo yokufunda indlela yokuthatha umoya omncinci xa ethukuthele ukuhlalisa umzimba wakhe. Indlela yokunceda abantwana ukuba bafundise oku kubandakanya ukumxelela ukuba athathe "umoya ophefumulayo" apho ephefumula khona ngeempumlo zakhe aze aphumele emlonyeni wakhe njengokungathi uyabetha nge-bubble wand.
Unokukunceda umntwana wakho enze ikiti eyamnceda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. Incwadi enemibala, incwadi endiyintandokazi yomculo, umculo ocolileyo, kunye nezinto ezivumbayo ezintle zizinto ezimbalwa ezinokukunceda ukubandakanya iingqondo zakhe nokuzola. Beka izinto kwibhokisi ekhethekileyo ayilungisayo. Emva koko, xa ecaphukile, mkhumbuze ukuba uhambe uzuze itekiti phantsi kwaye usebenzise izixhobo zakhe ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe.
5. Ukuphuhlisa izakhono zokuSombulula iingxaki
Ingxenye yokwakha ingqiqo yengqondo iquka ukufunda indlela yokusombulula iingxaki. Emva kokuba iimvakalelo zibhalwe kwaye ziqwalaselwe, lixesha lokusebenza ngendlela yokulungisa ingxaki ngokwayo.
Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho utyhafile kukuba udade wakhe uyamphazamisa xa edlala umdlalo wevidiyo. Mncede ambone ubuncinane iindlela ezinhlanu zokusombulula le ngxaki. Isisombululo akumele sibe neengcinga ezilungileyo. Ekuqaleni, injongo kukucinga nje ngeengcamango.
Xa sele ebone ubuncinane izisombululo ezinhlanu, mcedise ukuba ahlole iimpawu kunye neengxaki zomntu ngamnye. Emva koko, mkhuthaze ukuba akhethe okukhethwa kukho.
Xa umntwana wakho enza iimpazamo, sebenzisa oko kwenzelwe ngokungafaniyo kunye noko umntwana wakho angakwenza ukuze asombulule nayiphi na imiba eqhubekayo. Zama ukwenza njengomqeqeshi, kunokuba ungenele ingxaki. Nika izikhokelo xa kuyimfuneko kodwa sebenze ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukuba akwazi ukucombulula iingxaki ngokuthula nangempumelelo.
6. Yenza Intelligence Intelligence injongo eqhubekayo
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho okhaliphekileyo uyabonakala njani, kukho ixesha lokuphucula. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba kubekho ukunyuka kunye nokuphazamiseka phakathi kobuntwaneni nobuncinci. Njengoko ekhula, unako ukujamelana nemingcipheko eya kuba umngeni kwizakhono zakhe. Ngoko yenza kube ngumnqweno wokufaka isakhono sokwakha kwimpilo yakho yemihla ngemihla. Xa umntwana wakho esemncinci, khuluma ngemvakalelo yonke imihla.
Thetha malunga neemvakalelo zemizekelo kwiincwadi okanye kwiimvumi zingase zive. Xoxa ngeendlela ezingcono ezinokuthi zixazululwe okanye izicwangciso abasebenzisi bangasebenzisa ukuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho. Njengoko umntwana wakho akhula, khuluma ngeziganeko zobomi bokuba-nokuba yizinto ahlangabezana nazo ebomini bakhe bemihla ngemihla okanye yingxaki ofunda ngayo kwiindaba. Yenza ingxoxo eqhubekayo.
Sebenzisa iimpazamo zomntwana wakho njengamathuba okukhula kangcono. Xa esenza ngenxa yokuba ecaphukile okanye ephukuza iimvakalelo zomntu, khawula ixesha lokuthetha ngendlela angenza ngcono ngayo kwikamva. Ngenkxaso yakho eqhubekayo kunye nesikhokelo, umntwana wakho unokuhlakulela ingqondo engqondweni kunye namandla angqondo afuna ukuphumelela ebomini.
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