Kuthetha i-Girl Syndrome intsha
Intsha ikulindeleke ukuba iqalise okanye ibe yixhoba lokubuyela emuva. Kuthetha amantombazana, i-movie, yayingeyona nto. Ukubetha, ukunyundela, kunye nokungcatsha, baqhelana nabo bonke abatsha, kodwa ukubuyela emva okanye nayiphi na indlela yokuxhatshazwa , njengokuxhatshazwa ngokwemvelo okanye ukunyeliswa ngamagama, kunokuba nefuthe lexesha elide kunye nexesha elifutshane kumaxhoba. Ulwalamano olusondeleyo, olubuhlungu kubantu abaqhelekileyo kuwe, njengomhlobo osondeleyo, okanye ilungu lentsapho linempembelelo ethile kwixhoba.
Ukungcatsha kwenzeka xa umntu ebonakalisa ubuhlobo nomnye kodwa eziphatha ngendlela engaphantsi okanye engathandeki emva kwawo. Ingaba i-kati yakho ibonisa iimpawu zokumomotheka ebusweni babantu, kuphela ukuthetha emva kwawo? Ukuba kunjalo, gcina ixhoba engqondweni njengoko ufundisa umntanakho indlela yokulawula ukuziphatha kwabo.
Amaxhoba okubuyiselwa kwakhona anempilo yengqondo ehluphekileyo
Amaxhoba okuhlaselwa kwakhona kunye nezinye iintlobo zobudlova obuhlobene namava aphezulu amaqondo empilo yengqondo. Enye, banokuziva becinezelekile kunontanga yabo. Ama-tweens ahlaselweyo afumana amanqanaba aphezulu okuxhalabisa . Thetha phakathi kwakho malunga nokuba ukungathembeki kuthinta njani umntu. Cacisa imiba yokuxinezeleka kunye nokuxhalaba kwaye xa kuthe kwavela iingxaki, esikolweni, ekhaya, okanye kwindawo eyahlukileyo yentlalo, kubalulekile ukubonisa indlela engafanelekanga ngayo. Ngaphandle koko, abantu baya kusetshenziselwa ukuziphatha kwaye kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuthetha izinto ezintle kunye nezilimazayo.
Ukuba ubona ubungqina bokubamba, okanye ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga kokubini phakathi kwakho ukuya kubahlobo babo abasenyongweni, bambize ngasese kwaye uzame ukuya ngasezantsi ukuba kutheni kwenzeka.
I-Ostracism Inokubangela Ubungani
Olunye uhlobo lolwalamano olusondeleyo luxhomekeke kuluntu . Olu buchule luvaliwe phakathi kweontanga zakhe, kubangela ingqondo eyongeziweyo yedwa.
Ezi zihlandlo zodwa zihlala zihlala emva kweminyaka emva kokuba ulwaphulo luye lwayeka. Ukuqhubeka ukwahlukana kunokudala ukuphazamiseka kwimicimbi yentlalo kunye nezicwangciso zoluntu ezikhuthaza ubuhlobo. Ukuba ngaba phakathi kwabo baye bafumana ukuhlaselwa, bangakwazi ukuhlala kude nabanye abantu, kodwa eqinisweni, ukuhlala kude kubekho ixesha elinzima kumaxhoba kwixesha elide ngenxa yokuhlala yedwa rhoqo, okwenza kube nzima ukufumana nokuhlakulela ukudala ubudlelwane obutsha .
Amaxhoba okubuyiselwa kwakhona azinokuzimela
Ulwalamano olusondeleyo, olubandakanya ukubuyela emva, lunokuchaphazela ukuzithemba. Amaxhoba acinga ukuba abancinci kakhulu, aziphathe kakubi, kwaye awanakuthandabuzo kunothando kunontanga yabo. Ezi ziphumo zikhankanywe ngokukodwa kumantombazana .
Ulwalamano olusondeleyo lunokubangela ekuziphatheni kakubi
Ngokwengxenye ngenxa yokuzithoba kwabo, amaxhoba olwalamano olusondelene nabo ahlala esetyenziselwa ukuziphatha kakubi nokuziphatha okubi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Ngokukodwa, abantu abaye bajoliswe kulwalamano lobuhlobo banamazinga aphezulu okutshaya kuneentanga zabo. Kananjalo nabo banokuba banokuzibulala, ngakumbi ukuba baxhoba lokungabikho kwentlalo. Ukuba isangqa sakho sabahlobo siphume ngokukhawuleza, okanye esusa kwiqela labahlobo, bathethe malunga nokuba kutheni kwaye izinto zingaphathwa njani.
Ukuba i-kati yakho ayinalo iforamu yokuzivakalisa kwaye ivezwe, inokuzilimaza ngokwabo ukuze ingqalelo.
Ukuxhatshazwa kweNtlalo kungabangela iingxaki zeNtlalo zexesha elizayo
Ukujoliswa kwintlonelo yobudlelwane kunye nobudlelwane kungabangela iingxaki zexesha elide loluntu. Ngenxa yobuhle babo obudlulileyo, amaxhoba angenokuba nzima ukuthemba abanye. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumantombazana, abavame ukuziva benokulimala ngokuhlaselwa kweentlalo kunokuba amakhwenkwe akwenze. Ukuphephelwa kwengxaki, nangona kunjalo, kuya kwenza kube nzima. Sebenzela ukugcina i-pakati yakho isebenzisana nentlalo ukuze bangabi nantoni yoluntu xa bekhula baba ngabantu abadala.
Umthombo:
Umculi, uJohn noCoyne, uSara. Ukuhlaziywa okuhlangeneyo kolwaphulo olungqalileyo, loluntu kunye nolwalamano. 2005. Ukuhlaziywa koBuntu kunye nokuHlola kweNtlalo. 9, 3: 212-230.