Abantu abaselula abakwenzayo ababenenkathazo yokukhangela ingqalelo kubazali nootitshala, kodwa oontanga abangena ngaphakathi, okanye ababandakanyekayo ekuziphatheni, banganakwa. Inyaniso yolu mbandela kukuba abafana nabaselula abasebenzisa iimpawu zokuziphatha ekujonganeni nemingeni ebomini bayayifuna nje ngoncedo olunjengebafana abaselula ngokuzibandakanya kwiimpawu zokuzilimaza.
Ubungcono ukuqonda kwakho ukuziphatha ngendlela yokuziphatha kunye nemiphumo emibi engalindelekanga kule ngxelo.
Ukucacisa Ukungena ngaphakathi
Ukuzibandakanya iziphathamandla zizenzo ezihambisa amandla engxaki kuye. Ngamanye amazwi, umntu obonisa ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha wenza izinto ezizilimazayo ngokuchasene nokukhupha abanye (eyaziwa ngokuba yizixhobo zokuphuma ngaphandle ). Ukuzibandakanya iziphathamandla kuquka ukutya okuninzi okanye ukuncinci, ukuziva uxinezelekile , ukusetyenziswa kakubi kunye nokusika.
Ukuzibandakanya ukuziphatha kungakhokelela umntwana ukuba aphuhlise iingxaki zempilo ezinzulu, ezifana nokutshaya iziyobisi, ukusela utywala, i-anorexia, i-bulimia okanye ukukhuluphala. Abantwana abasetyenziselwa ukujamelana neendlela zokuhlangabezana nazo banokuba nengxaki yokudala ubudlelwane obuhle nabanye. Ngenxa yokuba ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha kukunceda abantwana kunye nabantu abadala baxakeke intlungu yomzwelo abaye bajamelana nayo, banokuziva banqunyulwe kubangane babo, bathandekayo kunye nabo ngokwabo.
Iingxaki ezixinzelelekileyo zivame ukubonisa ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuziphatha kwangaphakathi kufunyenwe kwixhoba lokuxhatshazwa , ukuxhatshazwa , kunye nokugqithisa. Abantwana abaye bathetha ngomlomo, ngokwesini, ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye ngokuxhatshazwa ngokomzwelo bangabandakanyeka kwezo ziphatha. Kuyafana nabantwana abaye bafumana ezinye iintlobo zentlekele, njengokufa komntu othandekayo, ukushiywa ngumzali okanye umtshato.
Ukuzibandakanya iziphathamandla kunokwenzeka ukuba bangabonakali kwaye baninzi "kulwamkelekileyo kuluntu" kunokugqithisa ukuziphatha, okuchaphazela ngqo abanye abantu. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali benza impazamo yokugxila kuphela kumntwana wabo ngokugqithisa ukuziphatha, ukungahoywa ukukhala konyango lomntwana ophendulela intlungu yakhe ngaphakathi.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakale ekufumaneni okanye alahlekelwe ngumlinganiselo obunzima, ungayihoyi lo mqondiso wokuziphatha ngokuziphatha. Yaye ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala efihla kwiingubo ezinde lonke ixesha, oku kungabonakalisa ukuba uyayinquma.
Thetha nomntwana wakho ngendlela engafanelekanga ngayo utshintsho olushukumisayo. Musa ukuyihoxisa umntwana wakho ukuba ubonakala ebonisa iimpawu zokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, njengama-bloodshot amehlo, isicathulo, intloko, ukuphazamiseka okanye ukulukhuni. Ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho akanalo ingxaki kuba engabonakali ukuba wenza ngaphandle. Umntwana obandakanyekayo ekuziphatheni ngokuziphatha akuyona into enempilo kunomntwana obizwa ngokuba yi-ofisi yinqununu ukuphazamisa iklasi okanye ukungathobeli ootitshala.
Ukuqhawula phezulu
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubandakanyeka ekuqhubeni okanye ekuphumeni, kufuneka kubone ukuba ufumana uncedo alufunayo.
Thetha nomcebisi wesikolo sakho somntwana, isifo sengqondo okanye ezinye iingcali zempilo malunga nokunika umntwana uncedo oluyimfuneko ukuphucula iindlela ezithembekileyo zokuhlangabezana neendlela. Ukucebisa kunye neengqondo zengqondo kunokunceda umntwana wakho avule imingeni okanye intlungu ebangela ukuba akwazi ukujamelana nokuthembela ekufundiseni iziphathamandla.
Umthombo:
IiNqanaba, uVicky. Ukuqonda i-Psychology engaqhelekanga yabantwana, u-Ishicilelo lwesiBini. 2008. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Son.