Indlela yokusingatha imeko enzima kwaye uncede umntwana wakho alungise ukuziphatha kwakhe
Ubuthakathaka bubukeka njani? Ingaba ngumntwana omkhulu, inkunzi enesibindi kwibala lokudlala elithintela ubunzima bakhe kunye nokukhetha abantwana abancinci? Ingaba ngumntwana onenkathazo ekhaya othabatha ingxaki yakhe ngokuklolokra nokujolisa abantwana abasengozini abangenakuba yinxalenye yezihlwele ezidumile?
Inyani kukuba, akusoloko kulula ukubona ukuba ubani onokuba ngumxhaphazi.
Okubaluleke ngakumbi - kwaye le nto ibaluleke kakhulu kubazali ukuba baqonde - nabani na onokuzenza njengomxhaphazi kwiimeko ezithile, kwanomntwana wabo.
Nangona kukho izixhobo ezininzi kunye nolwazi lwabazali kunye nabantwana abaye baxhoba ukuxhatshazwa, ngaba yiyiphi iimeko ezingabhekiswanga ngayo indlela abazali abangakwazi ngayo ukujongana neemeko apho umntwana wabo ekunyelisa umntu. Ingaba uthumele umntu uthetha imilayezo nge-text, i-imeyile, okanye kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi okanye ukuhlekisa okanye ukuhlambalaza umntwana ngomnye umntu, ukuxhatshazwa kunokuba kwenziwe nantoni nayiphi na umntwana, enikwe iimeko ezifanelekileyo kunye nethuba.
Nantsi into onokuyenza xa ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho usebenze njengomntu onokuxhaphaza:
- Qonda ngaphambi kokuba wenze okuthile. Yintoni eyabangela ukuziphatha komntwana wakho? Ngaba wayesabela kumntu onjengomxhaphazi kuye? Ingaba ukuziphatha kwakhe kwakushukunyiswa yiqela elinamandla (apho, bathi, abahlobo bakhe baqhubela phambili ekujoliseni omnye umntwana)? Xoxa nomntwana wakho, nabanye abazali, nabani na onokwazi ukukhawuleza oko kwenzekayo kunye nokuqokelela ulwazi malunga nale meko ngaphambi kokuba usebenze.
- Ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kukuphi. Le ntsuku, ukuxhatshazwa ngumxholo odla ukuxoxwa rhoqo. Kodwa ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba yiyiphi impawu eyenza ukuxhaphaza okanye ukuqonda imiphumo yokuziphatha okunjalo. Okokuqala, fumana ukuqonda okucacileyo malunga nokuxhatshazwa kwakho kwaye ube nengxoxo nomntwana wakho malunga neenyaniso malunga nokuxhatshazwa.
- Yenza uvelwano kumntwana wakho. Enye yezona ndlela ezifanelekileyo zokunceda ukukhusela ukuziphatha kakubi kumntwana kukukhuthaza uvelwano kunye nengqiqo yengqondo . Umntwana onokuzifaka ezinqabeni zomnye aze aqonde oko kunokuvakalelwa ukuba angabandakanywa, ahlaziye okanye aphumele emzimbeni kunye / okanye ngokomzwelo akanakwenzeka ukuba angene kwizenzo ezinobundlobongela okanye ezilimazayo.
- Qiniseka ukuba umntwana uthatha uxanduva olupheleleyo kwizenzo zakhe. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba wenza njengobundlululo ngenxa yokuba wayeziva ecinezelekile ukuba ahambe kunye nabahlobo bakhe okanye ngenxa yokuba wayefuna ukuzivelela. Okanye mhlawumbi uye waziva efanelekileyo kwizenzo zakhe kuba iinjongo zokuxhatshazwa kwakhe kwakungumntu owayengxhatshaza abanye abantwana.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba izizathu zakhe, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana aqonde ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kuyabangela ubuhlungu kwabanye, kwaye kufuneka ukuba aziphathe kakuhle kwaye enze izilungiso kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba uzama ukulungelelanisa okanye ukukhusela izenzo zakhe, cacisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa - kungakhathaliseki ukuba isizathu-siyiphutha, icacile kwaye ilula. Mcele ukuba enze ukuziphatha kwakhe ngokuchaza ngokucacileyo oko wakwenzayo nokuba kutheni kungalunganga kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, uxolise kwixhoba. - Mncede enze umsebenzi ngxaki. Ngaba izenzo zakhe zibangelwa ukuxhatshazwa? Ukuxelela nje umntwana wakho ukuba angayinaki umxhaphazi mhlawumbi akunakunceda. Kunoko, mncedise ukuba athole iindlela ezakhayo zokusingatha umxhaphazi onjengokukuxwayisa okanye utitshala xa ebona okanye ehlangabezana nokuziphatha kakubi.
- Beka umzekelo omhle. Cinga indlela izenzo zakho ezinokufundisa ngayo umntwana wakho ukuba aziphathe njani. Ngaba uyabakhathalela abanye, nangona ungavumelani nabo? Ingaba umntwana wakho ubona uvuyisile kwabanye xa uziva uphosakele? Ngaba wenze inhlebo okanye ukuziphatha kakubi kwabanye xa uziva ukuba izenzo zakho zilungile?
Indlela ophatha ngayo abanye ibeka umgangatho wendlela umntwana wakho eya kuziphatha ngayo kwiimeko zoluntu. Ukuba uzama okusemandleni akho ukuba ube novelwano kunye nokuqonda kwaye ubalekele ekuziphatheni okubi, umntwana wakho uya kuba nokukhulula ukuxhatshazwa nokuphatha abanye ngobubele nangentlonelo.
- Cinga ngokufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho unenkinga yokulawula umsindo wakhe okanye ulaka lwakhe kwabanye, qhagamshelana nabacebisi besikolo sakho somntwana okanye ezinye iingcali zezempilo yengqondo. Ziyakunceda ekucebiseni iindlela onokukunceda umntwana wakho akhethe iindlela ezintle nezomnatha zokusebenzisana nabanye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko.