Zama ezi ngcebiso ukuze ufundise abantwana ukuba uvelwano kwaye ukhulise ingqondo yabo yengqondo
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni abazali bafanele baqikelele ukufundisa uvelwano nokukhuthazwa kwengqondo kwiintsapho zabo. Ngokwemigaqo eyisiseko, uvelwano lukwazi ukukwazi ukuzibeka kwisicathu somnye umntu kwaye uqonde iimvakalelo zomntu kunye neemvakalelo zakhe.
Kutheni Ubulumko boMoya novelwano Kubalulekile
Izifundo zibonise ukuba uvelwano luyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yobomi.
Ingqondo engqondweni okanye i-emotion emotion (EQ) -kunokukwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zabanye kunye nokukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo kunye nokuzilawula-kucingelwa ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu empumelelweni ebomini kunokuba i-IQ , okanye i-intelligence quotient.
Uphando lubonise ukuba uvelwano lubalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nolonwabo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo kunye nokwenza kakuhle emsebenzini (kunye nezingane, esikolweni). Yenza ingqiqo-emva koko, ukuba unokhetho phakathi kokusebenza nomntu onomusa , onomdla, kwaye ohloniphekileyo okanye umntu ongenakuzicingela iingcinga okanye iimvakalelo zakho, ngubani oya kukhetha?
Uvelwano lunokubaluleka ekufundiseni abantwana ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kukuphi na ukungazibandakanyeki nokuziphatha kakubi. Ukufundisa uvelwano ngoko ke kuyisiseko esibalulekileyo ekukhuseleni ukuxhatshazwa esikolweni .
Indlela Abazali abanokuyenza ngayo Ukukhuthaza Intliziyo Yengqondo Nevelwano Kubantwana Babo
Nangona abanye abantu bakholelwa ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba uvelwano luyinto esizalelwe ngayo kwaye ngenxa yoko ngokuqhelekileyo sinayo okanye ayinayo, inyaniso kukuba isakhono esinokufundiswa.
Nazi ezinye iindlela abazali abanokuzama ngazo ukufundisa uvelwano nokukhuthaza ukuqonda kwengqondo yomntwana.
- Qinisekisa ukuba iimfuno zakho zomzwelo zidibeneyo. Ukuze umntwana akwazi ukuvakalelwa nokubonakalisa uvelwano ngomnye umntu, zakhe iimfuno zomzwelo maziqale zidibane. Kumele akwazi ukubala kubazali bakhe kunye nabanakekeli ukuba banike inkxaso ngenkxaso ngaphambi kokuba anikezele omnye umntu.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokujamelana neemvakalelo ezimbi. Kungokwemvelo ukuba abantwana kunye nabantu abadala bavelele iimvakalelo ezimbi ezifana nomsindo nomona. Kodwa umntwana ofundiswa indlela yokusingatha le mvakalelo ngendlela efanelekileyo, yokuxazulula iingxaki ngabazali abanesihawu kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nolwazi olunzulu kunye novelwano.
- Buza, "Uza kuziva njani?" Izingane zenzelwe uvelwano. Nangona umntwana omdala obona umntu ephazamiseka kwengqondo ebonakalayo unokubonakalisa uvelwano, kwaye angase azame ukuthuthuzela loo mntu. Ngelo xesha, abantwana abancinci bezinto ezizimeleyo. Xa umfundi osemaqenjini ahlasela umntwana okanye umhlobo okanye ethatha umdlalo odlala nawo, umzekelo, umzali kufuneka achaze ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kunokulimaza omnye umntu ngokomzimba okanye ngokomzwelo. Zama ukuthetha into enjengaleyo, "Ungayivakalelwa njani ukuba umntu uthathe ithoyizi yakho kude?" okanye "Ungayivakalelwa njani xa umntu ekubetha?"
- Qamba loo nto. Ukunceda umntwana wakho aqonde iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, zichonge uze ubhale itekisi ngokungangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba umntwana wakho uziphatha kakuhle ngomntu, njengokuzama ukuthuthuzela umntwana okhalayo okanye umhlobo, uthi, "Kwakumnandi kuwe ukuba ukhathazeke kakhulu ngomhlobo wakho; ndiqinisekile ukuba yenze ukuba azive kakuhle xa ukuba nomusa kuye. " Ukuba umntwana wakho uziphatha ngendlela engafanelekiyo okanye engalunganga, tshela, "Ndiyazi ukuba unokuba uzive utyhafile kodwa wenza ukuba umhlobo wakho abuhlungu xa uthatha umdlalo wakhe."
- Thetha malunga nokuziphatha okulungileyo kunye nokungalunganga okukufutshane nawe. Sisoloko sibonakaliswe kwimimiselo yokuziphatha okuhle nokubi ebomini bobomi nakwiincwadi, iTV, kunye nama-movie. Xoxa nomntwana wakho malunga nokuziphatha ozibonayo, njengomntu okwenza umntu onobuhlungu okanye asebenze njengoxhatshazo okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, umntu onceda abanye kunye nokwenza abantu bazive bebhetele ngokwabo. Xoxa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha kunye nemiphumo yazo.
- Beka umzekelo omhle. Umntwana wakho ufunda malunga nendlela yokusebenzisana nabantu ngokubukela wena nabanye abantu abadala ebomini bakhe. Mbonise oko kuthetha ukuthini umntu onobubele okanye indlela yokuba nomusa nothando. Ngokunceda amalungu omndeni nabamelwane okanye abahlobo abancedisayo nabanye abadinga okanye abanzima, uya kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abe ngumntu onesihawu.