Ubunini bentsapho bungafanelekanga nini? Kukho impendulo enyanisekileyo kulo mbuzo, kwaye akukho minyaka emiselweyo. Isibalulekileyo kukuthatha iingongoma kumntwana wakho. Xa eyeka ukhululekile kunye nobunqunu bomndeni, kufuneka ukuba ayeke. Ukuba uqala ukuvala umnyango xa egqoke okanye esebenzisa indlu yangasese okanye abuze ukuba unokuhlamba ngaphandle kokuncediswa, oko kungaba yinto enhle ukuqala ukuqwalasela umgaqo-nkqubo wemfihlo.
UkuFunda Ngomzimba
Ininzi yabantwana abancinci bayakujabulela ukuhamba bejikeleza indlu ngaphandle kwengubo. Ngoko ukuba abazali babo benza okufanayo, mhlawumbi abakwaziyo. Kwaye ukuba bayakwenza, kukubonisa ukungafani - "Mama, kutheni ungenayo ipenisi (okanye nawaphi na amagama asetyenziswa ngumntwana ukuchaza iingcambu zakhe zangasese )?" Njengoko abantwana bekhulile, bathi 6 okanye 7, banokuqonda ngakumbi ubuze, ngokukodwa njengoko bebenzisana nabangontanga kwaye bavelele ngakumbi kumabonwakude. Ukuba umntwana wakho unemibuzo, phendula ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ukhuthaze intetho evulekile. Ufuna umntwana wakho athole ulwazi kuwe, kungekhona nabani na.
Ngokukhululekile Ukuthetha Nomntwana Wakho
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuthetha nomntwana wakho, njengokuba unabantwana abathathu, malunga neengcambu ezichaphazelekayo kunye nezangasese.
Ngokuphathelele ixesha lokuhlamba, abantakwabo bahlambe kunye, unokucinga, ngeenkulungwane. Kwakhona, xa nje bobabini abantwana bekhululekile, kulungile.
Kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa umntu eqala ukubonakalisa ukungathandeki okanye ukuhlazeka, ngoko kuya kuba yithuba lokuhlamba okuhlukeneyo.
Okwangoku, ukuba unomlingane ongenakukhathazeka nentsapho yobunqunu, khuluma nabo ngawo. Khangela ukuba yiyiphi into eyenza ukuba bangakhululeki. Ingaba ulinganisa ubunqunu ngesondo?
Kubonakala ukuba ukubona uhamba kukubangela iingcamango zesondo kwiqabane lakho (ngokusemgangathweni ngokwemvelo), kwaye banokuziva bazive bengenangqondo ngale ndlela phambi kwabantwana bakho. Basenokukhathazeka ukuba umntwana wakho unengcamango efana (ayikho). Chaza ezininzi iingcali zikholelwa ukuba abantwana ababona abazali babo behamba bekhula bekhululekile kwaye banokuzithemba emzimbeni wabo.
I-compromise ingaba yindlela. Buza ukuba banike abantwana bakho ibhindi ndawonye ukuze iqabane lakho libone indlela engenamacala (kunye nokuzonwabisa). Okanye ukuba ngaba bengenasiphelo ukuba uzisa umntwana wakho ekuhlaleni nawe, yenza kuphela xa iqabane lakho lingekho ekhaya (ngolwazi lwabo).
Ekugqibeleni, esi sisigqibo omele uyenze njengentsapho.