Umbuzo: Ndingayimisa njani Umntwana Ukudlala Nezikhundla Zakhe?
Umnikezeli wenkathalo yabantwana uye wabuza indlela yokujongana nemeko yenkwenkwe efana nayo ethanda ukuphazamisa nokudlala kunye nabangasese. Uthi intsalela ayinakuqonda ukuba isenzo singenakulungelekanga, kwaye uyabhoxa xa kufuneka ukuba ugqoke kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi eyahlukileyo. Ubuza: "Ukudlala 'ngasese' kungagcinwa njani loo nto?"
Impendulo: Ininzi abantwana kwiqela elithile lokuphuhlisa lifumene ipeni okanye isondo, ngaphandle koko kuthiwa "yimfihlo." Ngoxa ukufunyanwa kwezinto ezizimeleyo kungumgangatho wendalo kwaye ungalinganiswa nokudlala ngeminwe nangezwane, ukuziphatha akukavunyelwanga xa kusekwe umntwana. Kungenza iimeko ezihlazo kumniki-nkonzo womntwana, umzali, okanye nabanye abantwana. Iingcali ezininzi zezilumkiso ziyabalumkisa ukuba kukho ukulinganisela phakathi kokufumanisa okungekho nto kunye nokwenza into ebangela ukungabikho nantoni na. Ukudlala okanye ukuphonononga iindawo ezizimeleyo yinto emele idibaneke ngendlela ephantsi, ngaphandle kokugweba okanye ukwenza umntwana ukuba abe nantoni na into enjalo okanye engalunganga. Abazali banokuvavanya nayiphi na ingxoxo yokuziphatha / yokukhulisa abazali; Abanikezeli bokunakekela abantwana bayeke ukuziphatha ngenxa yokuba akufanelekanga kwabanye. Isiphakamiso esilungileyo kunye nesinyaniso ukucacisa ngokucacileyo imigaqo yokugqoka efunekayo kwaye uphinde uqondise NOKUBA ukuziphatha okubandakanya ukususwa kwayo nayiphi na impahla, kubandakanywa amasokisi kunye nezihlangu xa kungavunyelwe.
Kakade ke, abazali kufuneka baziswe kwi-loop ukwenzela ukuba umanyano-ntsebenziswano nomzali onokusetyenziswa ukuba ayeke ukuziphatha. (Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba iimbono zabazali kwidlala lokuzibuza i-private, abayi kufuna ukuba umntwana enze umsebenzi onjalo kwindawo yoluntu.)
Ukongezelela, indlela efanayo inokusetyenziswa xa abantwana bephatha abanye ngendlela engafanelekanga, kwaye akufuneki ukuba yinto ethile yohlobo lwezesondo okanye oluzimeleyo uhlobo lokuthinta.
Izingane ziyakwazi ukuguqula omnye umva okanye zikhawuleze ngaphantsi kweengalo okanye nangamathanga angaphakathi ngokusekelwe kulokho umntu akwenzile kubo. Nangona isenzo singenasisulu, umgaqo obalulekileyo wokukhumbula ukuba kukuba kunokukwenza umntu angakhathazeki ngoko akufanelekanga kuyo nayiphi na imeko engenzeka ngayo.
Ngaloo mqondiso, iingxoxo malunga nokuchukumisa okufanelekileyo nokungafanelekanga kwakhona kufuneka ukuba nencoko kunye nabantwana beselula, nangona intetho ibhekiselwe kwizinga lokukhula kunye nezingane. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukulindela malunga nokuziphatha okuvumelekileyo kunye neemfuno zobumfihlo (ezibandakanya ukuchukumisa, ukujonga, ukuthatha imifanekiso, njl.) Ngokwabo. Kunconywa ukuba ababoneleli ngeenkonzo zokunakekela abantwana baxelele abazali ngaphambi kwengxoxo ehleliweyo kunye nezingane zabo ngokumalunga nesi sihloko kwaye bakhuthaze abazali ukuba bancokole ngakumbi kunye nezingane zabo ngaphandle kwendawo yokunakekela abantwana. Abazali banokuba neengxaki malunga nokuya kuxoxwa kunye neendlela eziza kwenziwa ngayo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo banelungelo lokucela ukuba umntwana angabandakanywa kwingxoxo.