Kukho ininzi yooyise ngaphandle apho abathi bafuna ukuhlala ekhaya, kodwa ngaba bayayikhathaza xa benikwe ithuba lokunyamekela abantwana bexesha elipheleleyo? Kunokwenzeka ukuba, kodwa akusiyo inzathelo ekufuneka ithathwe ngokulula kwaye kukho ukulungiswa ukwenza.
Emva koko, ulonwabo lwababini kunye nezingane lusemngciphekweni.
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Kodwa yintoni eyona nto ikhuthazayo?
Ukuhlala ekhaya akuvuki xa ufuna okanye unenkululeko yokwenza njengoko uthandayo ngemini. Iintshana zihlala zifuna ukuba ishedyuli.
Uyazi njani ukuba ulungele ukujoyina i-father-home-father? Kukho imiba embalwa ebalulekileyo yokuqwalasela.
Ngaba Ukulungele Ukuguqulwa Kwendoda?
Le ngenye yeyona ndlela ehamba phambili ehamba phambili nobaba oza kuyenza. Uya kuhamba ukusuka kwinqanaba le-rat ukuya kwi-chaos yasekhaya.
Ukusebenzisana kwabantu abadala kuya kunqunyulwa kwaye ubawo uya kuba kwiifowuni ezingama-24 ngosuku. Esikhundleni sokukhupha kwiikhompyutheni iiyure ezisibhozo okanye ngaphezulu, uya kutshitshiswa kwihlabathi lemihla yokudlala, amamenyu okudliwayo kunye nemisebenzi yasendlini.
Kucacile ukuba, iifowuni ziquka ukufumana uvuyo ngosuku kunye nabantwana. Uhambo lweentsimi luyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ii cububle ziya kutshabalala.
Kodwa imihla iya kuzaliswa ngethuba elincinane lokuphuka. Ukuba awufuni ukutshintsha i-child's fourth poopy yentsasa, akukho mntu usebenza kunye naye.
Kukho konke kuwe.
Nangona ukunyuka kunokuvuyisa kakhulu, ukuba usebenze kwaye uvelise into yonke imihla kukukuzalisekisa, cinga ngokukodwa malunga nezinto ezakukwenza unomxholo. Iintsana aziyi kuzuza ezininzi kumzali ongenamdla.
Ngaba Intsapho Yakho Inokuxhasa Ukufuduka?
Xa uba uhlala ekhaya, uchaphazela wonke umntu osapho.
Nangona kubonakala ngathi iqabane lakho kunye nezingane kufuneka zixhamle ithuba lokuthi "ewe," banokuba neengxakini ongakhange uziqwalasele. Kubalulekile ukuba uxoxe ngokuba ngumntu ohlala ekhaya kunye nomlingane wakho, kunye nabantwana bakho ukuba baneminyaka eyaneleyo yokuncedisa le ngcamango. Ukuba awunayo inkxaso yabadlali abalulekileyo, akukho ndawo yokuhamba phambili.
Iqabane lakho livakalelwa njani ngokuba ngumnakekeli oyintloko wabantwana? Ngaba wena nomfazi wakho nilungile kunye naye ukuba ngumntu onondla? Uza kuthatha njani iindima ezahlukeneyo zomzali kunye naziphi na ukungavumelani ezingabangela? Kuthiwani ngomsebenzi wendlu?
Ukubonisa ukuba zeziphi iimpendulo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba intsapho ikhululekile kunye nabo ngaphambi kokufika kwisigqibo esiphezulu sokuba ngubaba-ekhaya.
Ngaba unokuyithintela?
Kukho iinzuzo ezininzi zemali ukungasebenzi. Iindleko zokusebenza kakhulu xa unika inkxaso ekunakekeleni abantwana, iindleko zeemoto, izambatho, izondlo zoshishino kunye nokutya okutyunayo kwiofisi. Kodwa abaninzi abantu basebenzela isizathu: bafuna imali.
Intsapho kufuneka ihlolisise imeko yazo yezemali kwaye iqinisekise ukuba ukulahlekelwa yimali engenayo iyamkeleka kwaye ingaba i-paycheck eseleyo ayinayo ngokwaneleyo ukuze igcine indlu. Nangona impendulo inguyewe, kuya kubakho ukulungelelanisa ukuhlala kwimali engenayo.
Oku kungabokuqala kwintsapho ekufuneka ijongane nayo.
Imali yenye yeengcinezelo eziphambili kwiintsapho. Qinisekisa ukuba uphezulu kwiimali ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo se-SAHD.
Ngaba Ulungeleleneyo?
Kubalulekile ukuba ube nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwaye ube neengcamango ezilungileyo eziza kuphoswa kuwe yonke imihla. Ngaloo malungiselelo, uya kusadingeka ulungelelanise nakwii-curveballs ezininzi kunye neminye imijelo ongayilindeleyo nhlobo.
Uhlala-ekhaya utata uya kuba nomuva wokutshatyalaliswa kunye nokuzikhethela. Kwakhona uya kufuneka abhekane neengcamango, ezininzi zazo ezimbi. Ukwazi ukuba le mingeni ikhona apho, kwaye ukulungele ukujongana nabo, kubalulekile ukuba unelisekile kwendima.
Ungakulibali ukuba ukuhlala ekhaya kuthetha ukulawula yonke into ukusuka ekuthengiseni ukuya ekucoceni ukutshisa iifana. Oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kuba nokutya ukucwangcisa nokulungiselela, imirhumo yokusebenza kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukunyamekela abantwana ukuba benze konke ngexesha elinye. Iyakhathaza kakhulu. Ulungelelaniso olungcono kakhulu uluvo olungileyo.
Ngoko utata kufuneka aqinisekise ukuba uya kulucelomngeni, oko kunokuthetha lula kunokuba kwenziwe. Kodwa xa utshintshiweyo, imivuzo ingapheliyo.