Iingcebiso zoMama abangatshatanga kunye nabaDlelane nabantwana abangenakukwenza oko Utshoyo
Njengomzali ongatshatanga, sele uyayazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukwenza konke ngokwakho. Kodwa xa abantwana bakho bengayi kubambisana, izinto ziyakwazi ukuhla. Ngoko ke unokwenza ntoni ukuze abantwana bakho bephule , balandele imiyalelo yakho, uze ulungise umgca, ngokukodwa xa ukhathazekile kakhulu? Sebenzisa izicebiso ezilandelayo-yobudala ukuze ufumane iziphumo xa abantwana bakho bengabambisani.
Yenza Umntwana Wakho Osebenzisana Naye
Khumbula ukuba abancinci banamathele ukubonisa ukuzimela kwabo. Bazimisele ukwenza konke ngokwabo, ngaphandle koncedi ... oko kukuthi, xa bengabambeleli kuwe ngokuqinisekiswa. Xa ujamelana neemeko ezilandelayo, eziqhelekileyo kumama abangatshatanga nabantwana, nantsi into enokuyenza ukuze ufumane umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze:
Xa umntwana wakho esenqabe ukulala yedwa. Kusenokuba ixesha lokuphinda ucingisise ixesha lokulala komntwana wakho. Ngaba iyahambisana, kwaye ixesha lokulala lomntwana wakho lifana njalo ukusuka ebusuku ukuya ebusuku, kwindlu yakho yangaphambili? Kwindlela ongayenza ngayo, yakha ukuvumelana ukuze umntwana wakho azi oko alindele. Yaye xa kufuneka ufune ukunyanzelisa imiphumo efanelekayo, yenza njalo
Umntwana wakho uyakhala ngelixesha lokuya endlwini yakho yangaphambili, kwaye uya kubuya kwakhona xa libuyele ekhaya. Oku kufana nabantwana abaselula batshintsho. Ukuhlala uzinzile kwaye ungagxeki kuya kunceda. Zama ukuba novelwano kunye nokunyamezela xa uphinde ubhekisele kwezinye zezinto owaziyo ukuba umntwana wakho ulindele. Kwaye njengokuba uzama ukunyuka ukutyelela xa umntwana wakho ephikisana, khumbula ukuba ukunamathela kwimimiselo oyenzile kubalulekile ekuncediseni umntwana wakho ukulungiswa.
Umntwana wakho wehla ngokukhawuleza emva kokutyelela yakho yangaphambili. Ukubuya emva nangaphandle kungakhathaza ngokomoya abantwana abancinci. Yenza oko unokukwazi ukugcina izinto zilula kwaye zilula kwiintsuku zenguqu. Unokufumanisa ukuba kulungile ukuqhuba iimpawu zakho ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho eze ekhaya. Ngokufanayo, ukwenza ukutya kwangaphambili-kungaphaya kunokukunceda ukuba ugqibe ixesha lokuba nayiphi na ingcingo engakumbi umntwana wakho ayimfuneko xa ebuya. Ukuqwalasela oko kusebenza kuya kukunceda udale imephu yakho yokufumana umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze-nangona xa ekhulelwe ngakumbi kunye ne-cranky.
Fumana umntwana wakho okhulileyo weSikolo ukuba asebenzisane
Ubuhle beli lixesha kukuba ubuntu bomntwana wakho buqala ukuphuma. Yisihlandlo sokuzama izinto ezintsha kunye nokubukela umntwana wakho ukuqhakaza, into emnandi kakhulu. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba iminyaka ekhulile yesikolo ayinayo imingeni, ngakumbi xa unomntwana wedwa. Nantsi ingqwalasela kwezinye zeengxaki onokujamelana nazo rhoqo, kunye nendlela yokujamelana nayo xa umntwana wakho engayi kusebenzisana nalo nyaka:
Xa umntwana wakho efuna u-ex ukuya kuzo zonke iziganeko. Kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elide kunye naye, kodwa kungenakwenzeka ukuba naye aye kuzo zonke iziqhelo, umdlalo kunye nomcimbi wesikolo. Ukujongana nale ngxaki, zibuze ukuba ngaba abantwana bakho bafumana ixesha elaneleyo kunye ne-ex yakho, ukuba uqalise. Ukuba akunjalo, cinga ukutshintsha ishedyuli yentsapho yakho yokufumana ixesha lokunyusa, xa kufuneka. Ukuba izinto sele zilinganayo, okanye akunakwenzeka ukwandisa ixesha kunye ne-ex yakho, cinga ukusebenzisa i-stickers stickers ukuphawula imicimbi yakho yangaphambili iya kuba khona. Le nto yenza izinto ezimbini: inceda umntwana wakho ukuba umva wakho sele sele ehambelana nemicimbi (kuba kukho isikhumbuzo esibonakalayo), kwaye iyancwina ukulindela njengendlela yezoganeko ezabelwana ngazo.
Xa umntwana wakho enqabe ukutya ukutya okuthe ngqo, ngokukodwa kwixesha lakho elide ngexesha lokutyelela kunye nezinto eziphezulu. Kungaba nzima ukujamelana nabadlayo abakhethiweyo, ngakumbi xa abantwana bakho bechitha ixesha kunye nabo bobabini kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba badle ntoni kwi-ex. Qala ngokugcina ingosi yokutya ekwabelwana ngako ukuze nibone kokubili abayidlayo kwiveki enikeziweyo. Emva koko, utshintshe umgomo wokuphela kumntu onokufezekiswa - njengokuzama ukutya okutya ezimbini ngeveki.
Xa umntwana wakho eshiya izinto ezibalulekileyo ekhaya. Umngeni apha kukuba umntwana wakho angalindela ukuba uqhubele esikolweni okanye uhambo lwakho lokuyeka izinto ezikhohliweyo. Enyanisweni, ezinye izikolo sele zivaliwe lo mkhuba ukuze zikhuthaze abantwana ukuba babe noxanduva ngakumbi kwaye bazimeleyo. Ekupheleni kwakho, unokukunceda ngokudala uluhlu lokutshekisha abantwana bakho abangayisebenzisa ukuze balungiselele phezulu.
Fumana amaTween kunye nentsha yokuBambisana
Ukuba nezingane ezingenakusebenzisana nalo nyaka zivakalelwa kakhulu njengemingeni ojamelene nayo xa bebancinane. Bafuna ukuzimela ngakumbi, kwaye bazimisele ukumbamba kwizithende zabo kumbuto omncinci, ukubonisa ukuba banako. Nazi ezinye iingxaki eziqhelekileyo abazali abangabodwa abangajongana nabantwana ukuba bahlanganyele kweli nqanaba, kwaye nantoni na enokuyenza malunga nabo:
Xa umntwana wakho wenqaba ukutyelela okanye iindawo eziphambili . Kule minyaka, abantwana bakho sele baqulunqa iinkqubo zabo kunye namaqela omhlobo. Ngoko ukungafuni ukuthatha inxaxheba ekutyelelweni kunye nakwezinye izinto kungabangela inxalenye ngokungafuni ukuphosa kwiimeko ezibalulekileyo kunye nabahlobo babo. Ukulwa nokuxhalaba, thetha nezingane zakho malunga noko bakuvakalelwa. Emva koko yenza isicwangciso kunye ukuze uqinisekise ukuba banokuthatha inxaxheba kwimicimbi ephambili ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ngexesha elifanelekileyo kunye nexesha lakho elide. Ukuvulela ukuxoxa ngolu hlobo kunye neyokude kwakho kuya kunceda. Nangona oko kungenako ukukhululeka kubantwana bakho, ubuncinci ekuqaleni, khumbula ukuba ukufunda indlela yokuxoxisana ngayo kunye nekhono lobomi obuhle abayidingayo ukuphuhlisa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ulahlekelwa ixesha lokuvala ixesha lokuvala umsebenzi. Kuyakhathazeka xa uyazi ukuba abantwana bakho banokwenza umsebenzi, kodwa bengenakwenza okanye bengakhathazeki ukuyivula. Okokuqala, khumbula ukuba abantwana bakho 'abakudala' ukuba bafikelele ootitshala babo ngegalelo malunga nendlela yokulungisa le ngxaki. Ngexesha elifanayo, fumana isicwangciso kwindawo ekufundiseni abantwana bakho indlela yokulandelela izabelo zabo. Ukuba isikolo sivumela ii-smartphones, cinga ukusebenzisa enye yeenkqubo zokusebenza zasekhaya ezifumanekayo, ezifumana inzuzo eyongezelelweyo yokuvumela ukuba ulandele inkqubela yawo kwaye ukhangele ngoku ngoku. Ukuba oko akunjalo, qiniseka ukuba baneenkqubo zokongeza izabelo kumsebenzi wesikolo kwikhalenda 'endala.'
Xa abantwana bakho bangayi kugcina amacandelo abo acocekileyo. Le yona nto ikhethiweyo 'khetha ityala lakho.' Nangona ufuna ukuba igumbi lomntwana lihlambuluke ngokwaneleyo kangangokuthi engagqithisi izinto zakhe, kunokukunceda ukuhlaziya 'ukunqoba' ofuna. Kule meko, kungenzeka ukuba ufunde ezinye izakhono zokucococa eziza kubakho kamva ebomini, nangona igumbi lakhe lokulala alihlambulukanga ngendlela onokuthanda ngayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba umntwana wakho ube yilona 'ipakethi yepakethi,' unokufuna ukumqeqeshela indlela yokuhlalutya nokunikela izinto ezingasetyenziswanga. Inokukunceda, kwakhona, ukuba ulandele oku ngokucoca i-closet okanye ezimbini ndawonye. Xa sele efumana uxhaso lokuvavanya okokugcina, ukuphosa, okanye ukunikela, uya kukwazi ukusebenzisa le nkqubo kwimpahla yakhe ngokuzimela okukhulu.