Ukufundisa abantwana ukuba bathethe inyaniso kuthatha ukuqonda nokuqinisekiswa
Ngokungathi sifuna ukucinga ukuba abantwana bethu baya kuthi bathethe inyaniso rhoqo, into yokuba ukuxoka into eninzi abantwana abazama ngayo ngenye indlela. Abazali bafanele bahlale bekhumbula ukuba ukuthetha ubuxoki inxalenye yendalo yophuhliso lwabantwana kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, abantwana baphuma kulo mkhuba.
Kutheni abantwana baxoki
Xa ekujonganeni nale ngxaki eqhelekileyo, abazali kufuneka baqwalasele ubudala bomntwana, iimeko kunye nezizathu zokuxoka, kunye nendlela ahlala ngayo kule ndlela.
Umzekelo, abantwana abaninzi abancinci-ngokuqhelekileyo bancinci kuneminyaka engama-6-abakwazi ukucacisa ngokucacileyo phakathi kwefantasy kunye neyinyaniso, kwaye "ubuxoki" babo bokuba ngokwenene bangabonakalisa ukucinga kwabo. Oko kwathiwa, umntwana oseneminyaka engama-4 uyakwazi ukuthetha ngobuxoki ngamabomu ukuphepha ukungena enkingeni okanye ukufumana into ayifunayo. Ezinye izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqamba amanga ebantwaneni abaneminyaka esikolweni ziquka:
- Umdlalo othakazelisayo
- Uloyika isohlwayo
- Umnqweno wokuzibonga ngabahlobo / ofunda naye eklasini ukukhulisa imeko kunye nokuyivakalisa
- Ukuphepha into ayifuni ukuyenza (njengokuhlambulula amathoyizi)
- Umnqweno wokuba ungadumise abazali xa ulindelwe kakhulu
- Ukungonwabanga ngento ethile ebomini babo
- Inzame yokuqwalasela
Oko Ukwenza Xa Abantwana Baxoki
Nazi ezinye izicwangciso eziwusizo zokugcina engqondweni xa uxhathisa ubuxoki:
- Fumana kwingcinezelo yamanga. Ingaba umntanakho uvele etshela iindaba ezide njengenxalenye yokudlala imbali? Ngaba uzama ngokuzikhethela ukukukhohlisa ngenxa yokuba akafuni ukuhlwaywa? Ukuba umntwana wakho usebenzisa nje ingcamango, mcedise ukuba ahlule phakathi kweqiniso kunye neengcamango ngaphandle kokuphazamisa ubuchule bakhe (ngoko ukuba uyafuna ukuba ahambe enyangeni kunye nabahlobo bakhe bacinga, uze uchaze ukuba kuyafana nokuzonwabisa kakhulu onokuthanda ukujoyina nanjalo).
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba unokuba ngumntu ocinga ukuba unqabile into engafanele ayithinte, qiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba akayi kungena enkingeni ukuba unokuxelela oko kwenzeka ngokwenene. Emva koko cacisa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ngezinye iinkhathi kube lula ukukholelwa ukuba omnye umntu wayenokwenza into ayifuni ukuyivuma ukwenza, ukuthetha inyaniso kusoloko kukunceda ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono.
- Musa ukwenza abantwana bazive bengenakuza kuwe. Ukuba umntwana unenkxalabo yokuba uya kuba nomsindo, unokuzama ukuphepha ukuxelela inyaniso kuzo zonke iindleko. Into ebalulekileyo kukunceda umntwana wakho azive ekhuselekile, ekhuselekile, kwaye exhaswa ukuze azi ukuba unokuthetha nawe ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa uthando lwakho nothando. Enyanisweni, uphando lubonisa ukuba xa usongela abantwana ngokujeziswa ngokuqamba amanga, abanako ukuthetha inyaniso.
Cacisa umntwana wakho ukuba xa ekuxelela inyaniso, awuyi kuba nomsindo kwaye ukuba inyaniso ibaluleke kunayo yonke into. Emva koko phulaphula uthobile kwaye udibanise nantoni na ukuziphatha kakubi; kugxininise kuloo nto, kunye nemiphumo yezenzo zakhe, kunokuba athole ityala. Ukuba uzame uxoka, mdumise ngokunyaniseka nawe kwaye uvume ukuba ukuthetha inyaniso kuye kwakunzima kuye.
- Nika imiphumo yomntwana wakho, kunokugwetywa. Uphi umehluko? Isijeziso sivela kwindawo yentlungu ngelixa iziphumo zijoliswe ekulungiseni ukuziphatha kakubi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ulala malunga nokwenza imisebenzi yakhe, xubusha naye ukubaluleka kokujongana nezenzo zakhe; sebenze naye ukuba afike nomsebenzi ofanelekileyo ukwenzela ukuba enze iphutha lakhe, njengokwenza imisebenzi eyongezelelekileyo yeminyaka engaphezulu kwendlu.
- Musa ukubiza umntwana wakho ungumqambimanga. Amabhanki akakwazi ukulimaza kuphela, anokufumana impembelelo engapheliyo kwindlela umntwana azijonga ngayo. Ukuba ubizwa ngokuba ngumqambimanga, unokuzikholelwa ukuba abe munye kwaye enze ngokufanelekileyo.
- Cacile malunga nokulindela kwakho. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba ukulala into ongayifunayo ekhaya lakho. Mxelele ukuba ukuxelela inyaniso kubaluleke njengenye indlela yokuziphatha enhle okulindele kuye njengokuba uthetha nawe ngendlela ehloniphekileyo kwaye engathethi emva okanye uzame ukulwa nabantakwabo .
- Hlola indlela oziphatha ngayo xa kuziwa kukuxelela inyaniso. Ngaba udla ngokuqamba amanga xa ufuna ukuphepha imeko okanye ukufumana into oyifunayo? Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ekuva uxelele ummelwane ukuba awukwazi ukuyondla ikati lakhe ngelixa ehamba eluhambeni ngenxa yokuba unesihlobo esilugulayo xa inyaniso ukuba awuyithandi loo nto ikati, umntwana uya kufumana umyalezo Abantu balala xa bekulungele.
- Thetha ngefuthe lobuxoki elinokuthi lube nolwalamano. Chaza ukuba ubuxoki bungonakalisa ukuthembela okukhoyo phakathi kwabantu abathandanayo. Buza umntwana wakho ukuba acinge ukuba uvakalelwa njani ukuba uthe waqamba amanga ngaye. Ingaba uza kukungabaza ngexesha elizayo? Ingayichaphazela indlela ayethembe ngayo?
Ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba xa umntwana elala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo, nokuba emva kwemiphumo kunye nokuqinisekiswa okuvela kuwe, kusenokuba ixesha lokuthetha nodokotela wezilwanyana okanye enye ingcali yokuziphatha kwengqondo yomntwana ukuvavanya indlela yokuziphatha nokufumana iingcebiso ezininzi.