"Kushushu kakhulu." "Andifuni ukuya kwindlu ka-Grandma." "Le ngxaki iyaluma." Ukuphulaphula izikhalazo ezivela kumntwana wakho kuya kuguquka.
Kwaye, ukukhalaza akulungile kumntwana wakho. Ukuba uhlala egxile kwizinto ezimbi, uya kuba ngumngcipheko ophezulu weengxaki zempilo yengqondo kunye neengxaki zentlalo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhononda kakhulu, okanye xa ehlamba rhoqo , kubalulekile ukujongana nale mpawu.
Ukuba awuyikuyinqanda xa esemncinci, unokukhula ukuze abe ngumdala ohlala ekhononda. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokukunceda ukulungisa ukungahambi kakuhle:
1. Yazisa imizwa yabantwana bakho
Into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza yanciphisa indlela umntwana ovakalelwa ngayo ngokuthetha into enjengaleyo, "Yeka ukukhala okanye ndiya kukunika into yokukhala." Akunakunceda.
Endaweni yoko, fumana iindlela zokubamkela ngokukhawuleza ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho uze uqhubeke. Ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kudinga ukungenelela kwangakumbi, ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha, kungekhona imvakalelo .
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayakhalaza ngenxa yokuba bafuna ukwazi ukuba bajongene nemvakalelo enzima okanye ukukhathazeka ngokwenyama. Ukuvuma nje ukuba uvavayo ngamanye amaxesha kunokwanela ukuzinqumla phantsi. Yithetha into efana nale nto, "Ndiyazi ukuba awunelisekile ngoku ngoku ngenxa yokuba sisesemotweni ixesha elide kodwa sineeyure enye ukuya."
Ukuba kukho enye imibhikisho okanye umntwana wakho uqala ukugcoba , ungayihoxisi kwaye uyicacise ukuba awuyi kubeka ingqalelo kwiimvavanyo ezingalunganga zokuqwalasela.
2. Khuthaza i-Problem-Solving
Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhononda ngento ethile, mkhuthaze ukuba asombulule ingxaki . Ukuba uthe, "Ndiyatshisa," xa edlala ngaphandle, cela, "Ucinga ukuba ufanele uyenze ntoni na?" Ukuba ufuna uncedo ekucingeni izinto ezinokukhetha, mkhumbuze ukuba ahlale emthunzini okanye acele uncedo fumana isiselo esibandayo.
Ukufundisa izakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki zobantwana kunokumnceda ukuba abone ukuza kuwe kunye nokukhalaza akunakunceda ukulungisa ingxaki. Kodwa, unokucela uncedo ekuxazululeni ingxaki okanye unokufunda indlela yokuyicombulula ngayo ingxaki yakhe xa kudala kufanelekile ukwenza njalo.
Xa abantwana bephucula izakhono zabo zokuxazulula iingxaki, basenokungabi nesikhalazo. Kwaye ukuba ungagxumi ekujongeni yonke ingxaki kubo, awuyi kudala umqondo wokufunda uncedo.
3. Phakamisa okulungileyo
Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala ekhawuleza ukubonisa ingxaki kunoma yiphina imeko, zikulungele ukubonisa okulungileyo. Oku kunokunceda umntwana wakho akhulise umbono olinganiselayo wehlabathi kunokubona kuphela okubi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhononda ukuba akakwazi ukukhwela ibhayisiki lakhe ngenxa yokuba kunetha, mkhumbuze imisebenzi emnandi engaphakathi angayenza kuyo. Ngokubonisa okulungileyo, unokukwazi ukumkhumbuza ukuba phantse zonke iimeko zinegalelo elikhanyayo.
Nini Ukufuna Uncedo Lobugcisa
Ngamanye amaxesha, isimo sengqondo esinganyaniseki singabonakalisa ingxaki yempilo yengqondo. Abantwana abanexinzelelo, ngokomzekelo, bahlala behlala kwizinto ezimbi kwaye abantwana abanenkxalabo badla ngokucinga ngeemeko ezimbi kakhulu. Ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba ukukhalaza kwengane yakho okanye isifo sengqondo kungasayine into ebalulekileyo, khuluma nomntwana wezingane.