Isimo sengqondo esisisisulu sisimo esingasimpilo, esizilimazayo esinokuphuhlisa izizathu ezahlukeneyo. Umntwana oxhatshazwa yiontanga angase aqale ukuzibona engenakunceda ngokupheleleyo, okanye umntwana onengqiqo enokuzifuna ukuba ufaneleke xa engayifumani indlela.
Ingqondo yexhoba ayinomgangatho okhangayo kwaye ayiyi kukhonza umntwana wakho ebomini.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhangele imiqondiso yokuba umntwana wakho uhlakulela isimo sengqondo 'sam intsizana.' Nazi izibonakaliso ezisixhenxe zokulumkisa ezingabonisa ukuba umntwana wakho unengqondo yexhoba:
1. Ukusebenza ngokungenamsebenzi
Umntwana ozibheka njengexhoba uya kuvumela izinto ezimbi ukuba zenzeke kuye. Uya kucinga ukuba akukho nto angayenza malunga nemingcipheko ayifumana nayo. Unokukholwa ukuba imizamo yakhe yokudala utshintsho ayiyi kusebenza.
Unako ukungafuni ukucela uncedo xa engazi indlela yokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo okanye xa edidekile malunga nemiyalelo yomfundisi. Kwakhona unokuhlala engathandabuzekiyo xa ontanga bamphatha kakubi. Isimo sengqondo esingenakunceda sandisa amathuba okuba umntwana ahlaselwe ngabanye.
2. Ukubamba iZizwe ezibuhlungu
Ukuzihawukela kunye nesimo sengqondo sexhoba sihamba ngesandla. Nangona omnye umntwana engathetha izinto ezinje, "Andizange ndibe nantoni na emnandi," omnye umntwana angathi, "Akukho mntu uyandithandayo."
Esikhundleni sokufuna isisombululo kwiingxaki zangempela, umntwana ovakalelwa njengexhoba unokutshala amandla akhe ukuze azame ukuvalelwa.
Uyakunqumla, aphephe, kwaye akhononde , kunokuba athathe amanyathelo okuphucula umvakalelo wakhe okanye ukuphucula imeko yakhe.
3. Ukugxila kwiNgcaciso
Ukuba izinto ezithoba zenzeke, kwaye enye into embi, umntwana onengqondo yexhoba uya kugxininisa kwizinto ezimbi. Nokuba xa kwenzeka into enhle, unokutshitshisa inhlanhla yakhe ngokuthetha into enje, "Akunakuze kwenzeke kwakhona," okanye "Wayeyinto enhle kuba ukhona."
Iinjongo zesisulu zibangela abantwana ukuba bangaziboni izinto ezilungileyo ebomini. Kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo bajolise kwizinto ezimbi, ababi ngakumbi. Umjikelezo onobuqili, wokuzihlaziya.
4. Ukuqaphela iSigwebo kunye neNgcini
Umntwana onengqondo yexhoba unokwenza izibikezelo ezimbi. Unako ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ndiza kusilela uvavanyo olusasa," okanye "Wonke umntu uya kuhleka kum inyolo yokupela."
Umntwana wakho unokwesaba ukumfumana ethemba. Nangona xa utsheliwe ukuba uya kwenza into ejabulisayo, unokuqikelela ukuba akayi kusebenza. Ukucinga kwakhe kakubi kuya kudala uxinzelelo olungadingekile kwaye kwenze kube nzima kuye ukwenza okusemandleni akhe okanye ukuzonwabisa ngexesha lakhe.
5. Ukugxeka wonke umntu
Umntwana onesimo sengqondo 'sam intsizana' uxela wonke umntu ngeemeko zakhe ezimbi. Uya kufaka ukuba wonke umntu uphume ukuze amfumane. Unokuba novusa abanye ngenjongo, ngoko unokunyusa ukuphendula okungalunganga okuya kugxininisa ingcamango yakhe yokuba wonke umntu uyathetha kuye.
Unokuba nzima ukufumana uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakhe. Esikhundleni sokuvuma indima ayidlalayo kwi-squabble, umzekelo, mhlawumbi uya kubagweba bonke abantu kwaye afune ukuba akukho nto ayenokuyenza ngayo.
6. Ukunyanisela Ubungozi
Umntwana ozibonileyo njengexhoba uya kusebenzisa amagama afana 'njalo' kwaye 'akasoze' xa echaza imeko zakhe.
Uyakuva izinto ezinje, " andizange ndibe nantoni na emnandi," okanye , "Abanye abantwana bahlala bethetha kum."
Olu hlobo lokucinga konke-okanye akukho nto luchaza ukuba umntwana uya kuba nzima ukuqonda okungekho kumgaqo. Nangona umntu ebonisa ubungqina obuchasene noko, umntwana onengqondo yintlungu unokunyanzela ukuba umbono wakhe uchanile.
Unokunceda njani umntwana onoxanduva lokuxhatshazwa
Nangona zonke iintsapho zicinga ukuba zixhoba lehlabathi elikhohlakeleyo ngezinye iimeko, abanye abantwana banengqondo yexhoba. Kwaye ngaphandle kokuncedwa ngumntu omdala, unokuthwala isimo sengqondo sakhe "samhlwempu" xa ekhulile.
Utshintsho oluthile oluncinane ngendlela ophendula ngayo kumntwana wakho lunokubambelela ngempumelelo ingqondo yomntwana wakho . Phendula ngendlela exhasayo, kodwa yenza kucace ukuba ukukhwela kumdlalo webhola okanye ukungaphumeleli ukuhlolwa kweematika akuthethi ukuba uyisisulu.
Ukuba umbono wakho ombi wehlabathi uphazamisa isikolo sakhe-esikolweni, ubuhlobo kunye nezinye izinto- zuza uncedo lochwepheshe . Ingqondo yexhoba ingaba ngumqondiso wengxaki yengqondo yengqondo , njengengcinezelo okanye uxhalaba.
> Imithombo
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