Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho azi ukuba ukungaphumeleli kokuvavanywa kwesayensi okanye ukubetha emdlalweni akumenzi ixhoba. Ukungaphumeleli, ukuchaswa kunye nokudumala kukuyinxalenye yobomi.
Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba athathe uxanduva lwakhe ngendlela acinga ngayo, azive, kwaye aziphathe ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuze akwazi ukuhamba ebomini egxininisa ukuba lixhoba labantu abanentsingiselo kunye neemeko ezibuhlungu.
Nangona xa ebhekene nobunzima, xhobisa umntwana wakho ukuba azibone njengomntu onamandla ngengqondo onokunyamezela ubunzima.
Ingaba sele ubona izibonakaliso ezilumkiso zesimo sengqondo sexhoba , okanye unethemba lokuthintela isimo sengqondo 'sokumpofu' ngaphambi kokuba siqale, nasi amanyathelo asixhenxe ongayithatha ukunika amandla umntanakho:
1. Yenza iRatural Rituals
Ukubulela kuyazigcina zibuhlungu. Sebenzisa ixesha lokuthetha malunga nento oyibonga ngayo yonke imihla. Nangona uhlangabezana neemeko ezinzima, umzekelo oyisibonelo sokubulela.
Yenza imihla ngemihla eya kunceda umntwana wakho aqaphele zonke izizathu azinombulelo. Nazi iimbono ezimbalwa:
- Ngokuhlwa, cela umntwana wakho ngengxenye efanelekileyo yosuku lwakhe.
- Ngexesha lokulala, mcele ukuba abize izinto ezintathu ezilungileyo ezenzeke.
- Yakha ibhokhwe yokubonga i-bulletin ibhodi kunye neenkcukacha zokubhala kuyo into oyithethayo ukuba uyayibonga namhlanje.
2. Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Ukuthulisa Ukucinga Kwakhe Okungafanelekanga
Abanye abantwana bavame ukuba nombono ongathembekanga kunabanye.
Kodwa ngoncedo oluncinci, banokuqonda ukuba ukucinga kwabo okungalunganga akunako ukuchaneka.
Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukucima ukucinga kwakhe kakubi ngokufuna izinto ezingekho kumgaqo. Ukuba uthi, "Andiyi kuyenza into ejabulisayo," umkhumbuze ngemisebenzi emnandi esandul 'inxaxheba kuyo. Ukuba uthi, "Akukho mntu uyandithanda," bonisa abantu abenzayo.
3. Fundisa Umntwana Wakho Indlela Yokujongana Neemvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka
Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka , njengokwesaba, uxhalaba, umsindo kunye nokudabuka. Abantwana abanezakhono zokunyamekela ngokusemgangathweni abanako ukunyanzelisa imicimbi encinci kuyingozi.
Umntwana onokuzithemba ekuphatheni kwakhe ukudideka, umzekelo, akayi kufuna ukuba impilo ayilungile xa kuphuma ixesha lokudlala.
Ukulungiswa komntwana wakho, kodwa kungekhona imvakalelo . Mxelele ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zilungile, kodwa kubalulekile ukusingatha loo mvakalelo ngendlela efanelekileyo yoluntu. Mfundise iindlela eziphilileyo zokubonakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye umthintele ukuba athathe inceba yakhe yeqela xa ebuhlungu.
4. Fundisa izakhono zokuSombulula iingxaki
Abantwana abangenazo iingxaki zokuxazulula iingxaki banokuthatha indlela engabonakaliyo ebomini. Umntwana ongazi indlela yokwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo angaziyeka phantsi ebangeni elingaphumeleli ngaphandle kokuzama ukufumana isisombululo. Okanye, umntwana ongenakwenza iqela lebhola liyakwenza isigqibo sokuba ngumdlali obalaseleyo.
Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokulungisa ingxaki . Umntwana othabathayo xa ebhekene nobunzima, akanakwenzeka kakhulu ukuba azibonele njengexhoba elingenakunceda. Abantwana abanezakhono ezintle zokulungisa iingxaki banokuthintela izithintelo ezincinci ekuphendukeni zibe yimingcipheko emikhulu.
5. Nceda Abanye abantu
Kulula ukuba abantwana bacinge ukuba baneengxaki ezinkulu kwihlabathi. Ukubonisa ukuba baninzi abanye abantu abaneengxaki ezinkulu kunokubanceda babone ukuba wonke umntu ubhekene nobunzima.
Ukunceda abanye abantu bangabonisa umntwana wakho ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba usemncinane kangakanani, okanye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi ingxaki ayenayo, unokukwazi ukunceda omnye umntu.
Ivolontiya ekhitshini lesobho, ncedisa ummelwane osekhulile kunye nomsebenzi wendawo okanye uthathe inxaxheba kwiprojekthi yokuxhasa imali. Yenza umntwana wakho abandakanyeke kwimisebenzi yenkonzo yoluntu rhoqo ukuze aqonde amathuba okwenza ihlabathi libe yindawo engcono.
6. Fundisa izakhono zokuQinisekisa
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba akayi kuba yintlanzi. Ukuba omnye umntwana uthatha ithoyizi esandleni sakhe, ncedise ukuba abuyisele. Okanye, ukuba uthathwa ngabanye abantwana esikolweni, thetha malunga nendlela yokubuza uthisha uncedo.
Abantwana abanezakhono zokuqinisekisa bangathetha bathi, "Musa ukwenza loo nto," okanye "Andiyithandi xa wenza njalo." Mxhobisa umntwana wakho ukusebenzisa amagama akhe kwaye uya kunciphisa amathuba okuba uya kuba lixhoba.
7. Udlala indima Indlela yokusingatha izimo ezinzima
Ukudlala indima kusebenza njengethuluzi elimangalisayo lokufundisa kuba abantwana bafunda kakuhle xa benethuba lokusebenzisa izakhono zabo kuqala. Nceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuphepha ukucinga ngengqondo ngokumbonisa indlela yokujongana neemeko ezinzima.
Ukuba uthe akukho mntu odlala naye ekuphumeni, ncedise ukuba ayenze ukuba afune ukudlala nawe. Xa eqonda ukhetho lwakhe ekuphenduleni iimeko ezinzima, uya kuba nako ukuthatha inyathelo elifanelekileyo.
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