Iingcali zinika isiluleko sazo somzali
Kukho iiwebhusayithi ezininzi, iincwadi kunye nemveliso enika iingcamango ezahlukeneyo malunga nokuqeqeshwa okungazinyantsi. Xa uzama ukujongana neengxaki zokuziphatha komntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukufumana ulwazi oluchanekileyo olusekelwe kwiindlela ezifanelekileyo zokubazali.
Ukukunceda ukuba ufumane iimpendulo malunga nokuba izicwangciso zoqeqesho zisebenza kakuhle kangakanani, iingcali ezi-10 zabazali zinike iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo zomzali.
Nantsi into abayithethayo:
1. Kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho abe nguMdaka kuwe
"Yiba ngumzali, kungekhona umhlobo. Oku kuthetha ukuba awukwazi ukwesaba ukuba ngumntu omubi. Umntwana wakho unokuthukuthela ngamanye amaxesha. Jongane ne. Olunye uhlobo lunezinyane elikhukhulayo. Makhe aphelelwe ngamanye amaxesha. Ukuba awunjalo, ulindele ntoni ukuba afunde indlela yokuhlangabezana nemigangatho yokuphila kunye nokuhla? Akukho mntu uphumelele kuyo yonke into. Ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka uphumelele ukuze uphumelele. "
- uLori Freson, Umtshato oLayiselweyo kunye neNtsapho yoLwazi
2. Phatha umntwana wakho ngenhlonipho
"Musa ukubiza umnxeba okanye ukubetha: Izingane zifunda kuwe, zixhaphaza okanye zibetha nje zibafundise ukujongana neengxabano kunye nobutyebi. Ukuba uziva unomsindo mzuzwana, thatha ixesha kwaye uhambe, ubuye emva koko wenze isicwangciso sokuqeqeshwa. Ukuba ulahlekelwa ukupholisa kwakho, cacisa ukuba wenze kwaye ucacise ukuba ufuna ukuba ungekho. Uqinileyo kwaye unomsindo kodwa ukulinganiswa kwetoni kusebenza ngakumbi kunokuba uphuphe ngaphandle kokulawula nokukhusela. "
- UDkt. Gail Saltz, isifo sengqondo, i-Psychoanalyst, i-Bestselling uMbhali weNcwadi kunye neTV
3. Khangela kwi-Big Picture
"Xa umntwana wakho ehlawula umntwana osemva, musa ukulahleka kwiinkcukacha ngokugxininisa kakhulu kwimini yokuziphatha kunye nemimoya yomntwana wakho. Ngeli nqanaba, qho khumbuza ukuba umntwana wakho oza kutshatyalaliswa ngokukhawuleza uza kushiya indlu kwaye uya kuba negunya lokugqiba indlela udibene ngayo ngokomzwelo yena ufuna ukuhlala nawe ubomi bakho bonke.
Xa ugxininisa ngakumbi ekwakheni ubudlelwane bezentando yesininzi phakathi neminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, umntwana wakho okhulile uza kukuthanda kwaye uyakuxabisa iminyaka ezayo. "
- uSeeth Meyers, isazi sengqondo
4. Nika imiyalelo ephumelelayo
"Ukuba ufanele uxelele umntwana wakho into efanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngaphambi kokuba aphendule, ngoko uyabaqeqesha ukuba bakugxeke."
-David Johnson, Umtshato oLayiselweyo kunye nosapho
5. Sebenzisa iziphumo zendalo
"Basebenzisa imiphumo yemvelo xa kunokwenzeka." Abazali banokuvakalelwa kukuba bafanele bajezise abantwana ngenxa yeempazamo okanye ukuziphatha kakubi kunokuba bavumele ubomi bokwenene bathathe inkambo yabo.Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukubeka ingubo yakhe, makabande. , vumela ukuba imathoyizi yakhe ilahleke. Kuzama ukwenza injini enye imiphumo, njengokuthatha imidlalo yevidiyo okanye ixesha leTV, kuba asiyilo lonke ithemba lokuba imiphumo yemvelo iya kusebenza kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha banendlela yokuziphatha. "
- UHeidi Smith Luedtke, Ubuntu beengqondo kunye noMlobi we-"Detachment Parenting: 33 Izindlela zokugcina ucolile xa abantwana behlamba"
6. Ingxaki -Sombulula kunye
" Ingxaki yokuxazulula ingxaki kufuneka ithathe indawo yesohlwayo ukuze kuphuculwe ukuziphatha okuxanduva, nokuhlonipha kubantwana nakubantu abadala. Isijeziso sisicaciso sokunyanzelisa esisetyenziselwa ukuba abantwana benze oko sifuna.
Akenzanga nto ukuhlakulela umgangatho kunye novelwano. Enyanisweni yinto eyinxalenye yokudala abaxhasi. Abantwana abafundanga ngokutya kunye nokunyanzela. Indlela yabo engamkelekiyo ithetha ukuxelela ukuba banenkinga, ingabi yingxaki. "
- UBonnie Harris, uMfundisi wabazali kunye noMlawuli we-Connective Parenting
7. Sebenzise Isiyalo Ukuze Ufundise, Ungabijezisi
"Ukuqonda intsingiselo yegama lokuziphatha. Konke malunga nokufundisa kunye nemfundo, kungekhona isohlwayo , isisongelo kunye noqeqesho. Cinga wena njengomfundisi uze ubonise umntwana wakho ukuba uyabahlonela ngokuchaza isizathu sokuba imida ifunekayo. kukuhle kwabo kunye neenzuzo kubo.
Inhlonipho yindlela yokubambisana komntwana wakho! "
- UTom Limbert, uMqeqeshi wabazali kunye noMlobi we "Dad's Playbook: Ubulumko boBawo abavela kwiiNgcaciso eziPhambili kunazo zonke"
8. Ukunikezela Udumo ngokuziphatha okuhle
"Kubonakala kunzima ukukholelwa xa unzima nezingane zakho, kodwa abantwana banqwenela ukukholisa abazali babo." Akukho nto eyenza umntwana abe nolonwabo ngaphezu kokuzikhukhumeza xa efumana indumiso evela kunina okanye uyise. Abazali banamandla kangangokuthi ihlala ikhulile. "
-Dana Obleman, Umbhali we "Kids: Incwadi"
9. Yibani Ngokuhambelana Nesiyalo
"Qiniseka. Ukungahambisani nokuziphatha kunokunyanzela ukuziphatha kakubi kuba umntwana wakho uya kuqhubeka ezama ngelo xesha akayi kungena enkingeni."
- USusan Bartell, isazi sezengqondo kunye noMlobi we "Top 50 Questions Kids Ask"
10. Jonga ukuziphatha kakubi njengeSayina Umntwana wakho unenkinga
Ingxaki yomntwana ikhona into ayifunayo kwaye ifuna kwaye ayiyazi ukuba enye ingayifumana njani ngaphandle kokungahambi kakuhle .Umzali uhlala enenkinga ngokuziphatha komntwana. Ngelishwa umzali uqala ngokuzama ukulungisa ingxaki yakhe kwaye ujikeleza ukuxazulula ingxaki yomntwana. "
- Nancy Buck, uPhysical Psychologist noMdali we-Peaceful Parenting Inc.