Mhlawumbi kwakuyixesha elinye iimama kwinkwenkwe yakho yenkwenkwezi enikezelwe yinkwenkwe yakho ikunike ' inkwenkwe yam isebenze kakhulu kunokuba intsana yakho yinkwenkwe . Mhlawumbi kwakuloo mzuzu ekamelweni lokulinda xa ungakhange usebenze ngentshiseko kumanqaku omnye onomdla kwaye uvakalelwa ukushisa kweqondo lokushisa. Mhlawumbi uhleli eqela lenkxaso kwaye waqonda ukuba iinjongo zakho kumntwana wakho zahluke ngokupheleleyo kuneenjongo abanye abazali abazilwela.
Mhlawumbi kwenzekayo xa umzali wengane eneemfuno ezizodwa esesigxina somgcini wesango kwaye wagcina umntwana wakho eneemfuno ezizodwa ekungenisweni nasekuhlaleni. Njani oko? Ngaba asikho sonke kule nto kunye?
Ngeendlela ezininzi, sinjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo siyiyo. Siphila kwilizwe eliqhelekileyo, silwa nabani na ogcina abantwana bethu bangafumana uncedo kunye nokunakekelwa nemfundo abayidingayo. Ingxaki ivela xa iimbono zethu zihluke kwizinto ezinceda kunye nokunyamekela nemfundo kufuneka ibonakale ngathi-kwaye xa, ngokwaneleyo, ukwahlukana kwezingane zethu kwenza ezo zinto zihluke. Ngelo xesha lihamba ukusuka ekudibaniseni iingalo kunye nokucula "iKumbaya" ukunikela ngokulwa. Kwaye kunokuba buhlungu xa utitshala okanye ugqirha wezobugqirha ebambelela ukukhuthaza , kubaluleke kakhulu xa loo mntu ungumntu omele abe ngumhlobo wakho omkhulu.
Nangona kuhlale kunokwenzeka ukumangaliswa ngumzali ongekho ngokukhawuleza kwi-viewview yakho yehlabathi, kukho imeko ezithile apho unokuthi uzive umela emhlane wakho kunabanye.
Qaphela ezi zintlanu imeko apho abazali bezingane abaneemfuno ezizodwa banokuthi babe ziintshaba ezibi kakhulu
Xa beba nama-Agendas
Siyayiqonda xa oomama kwinqanaba lokuqala lokuzibandakanya lonyana lonyana, abafuna ukuba abantwana babo bathuthele ukuba babe nabafundi abadala, babengenwavuyo nomnqweno wam wokuba umntwana wam omncinci angene kwiklasi lezingane zabo.
Sekunjalo, sasimangalisa ngesantya kunye nokugqithisa apho baphosa khona inkwenkwe yethu kunye nathi ngaphantsi kwebhasi kwaye bathi, "Umntwana wam ungekho kwiklasi kunye nomntwana wakho ." Xa unomama wabamama bakho, kulula ukugxila kuphela kuloo nto ukholelwa ukuba ibaluleke kakhulu kubomi bakho bomntwana kwaye ukhuphe ngaphandle kwezinto ezixhalabisa ngaphandle koko, kunye nenhlalakahle yabanye abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa kunye neentsapho zabo.
Yintoni ongayenza: Ukuba omnye umzali uvulekile ukuthetha, qhathanisa amanqaku kwii-ajenda zakho kwaye ubone ukuba kukho nayiphi na indawo apho iminqweno yakho ephikisanayo ihamba khona. Ngaba kukho isisombululo esiya kuvunywa ngokuvumelanayo? Ukulwela kunye kunye kuya kusebenza ngakumbi kunokulwa.
Xa Baya Kuye "Umntwana Wanga Akakwazi Ukukwenza" "Aba bantwana Abakwazanga Ukukwenza"
Nangona abantwana bethu basala ngaphandle kwezinto eziqhelekileyo, singathanda ukucinga ukuba bafanelekile phakathi kwabo ontanga abaneziphene ezifanayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oko kuthetha ukucinga kunye nokugxininisa ukuba ngamnye umntwana kufuneka abe nezakhono ezifanayo okanye ukungahambi kwawo kwaye izigqibo zingathathwa ngokubanzi ngokubhekisele kwiimbono zethu. Siya kuphuhlisa iinjongo kunye nezicwangciso kunye nokulindela kwangaphambili ngokusekelwe kuloo nto, kwaye oko kwaqala njengokwazisa kwamakhono ethu umntwana kuba yiNdlela Kubo Bonke Aba bantwana.
Ngoko senzani nabazali abonakala bevakalelwa kukuba abantwana bangakwazi ukwenza okungaphezulu, okanye banokukwazi ukwenza okuncinane? Batshengise njengento ethembekileyo okanye engalunganga kwaye ugxininise ukukholelwa kwakho kubonakala ngathi uyisabelo esifanayo.
Oko ungakwenza: Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe yiloo nto ufunayo kakhulu kubazali kunye nootitshala kunye noluntu ngokubanzi ukuqonda - ukuba yonke intswana iyahluke, yonke intsapho iyahluke, kwaye ukuba ubonile enye "yezi abantwana "uye wabona omnye wabantwana.
Xa Amalungelo Agqiba
I-kid yabo ayinakuyidla amanqwanqwa, kunye ne-PBJs kuphela ukutya ukutya kwasemini umntwana wakho kunye nemiba yokutya uya kunyamezela.
Ingane yakho idinga ukuzola kunye nokuzola, kunye neyifuba yabo idinga ukuhamba kwaye ikwazi. Inkwenkwe yabo inemiba enomdla eyenza iqhube kwaye idibanise, kunye neyinkwenkwe yakho inemiba enomdla eyenza ukuba yikwantywe yinto ekhange ingalindelekanga kunye neempompo. Bonke abantwana banelungelo lokufumana isikolo esikhuselekileyo kwaye sikhuselekile, kwaye abo bane-IEP okanye icebo le- 504 banamalungelo omthetho wokuba bafumane ukukhubazeka kwabo. Xa enye yenkwenkwe yokuhlala enye yecala lokuphulwa komntwana, yilapho abazali behlaselwa.
Yintoni ongayenzayo: Qaphela ukuba ingxaki apha ayiyena umntwana kwaye ayikho umzali okhuthaza umzali, kodwa isikolo okanye esinye isilungiselelo esingakhange senze indlela enobuntu yokusingatha imeko enzima. Bonke abazali mabazame ukusebenzisana ukuze babe yingxenye yesisombululo.
Xa Bengeke bakwazi Ukuzincama
Ukuba uye wajikeleza iimfuno ezizodwa zokubakholwa ngumzali ngamaxesha ambalwa, uza kufikelela kwezinye izahlulo zezombusazwe ezahlula abazali bezingane ezineemfuno ezizodwa kwimibutho emfazwe - unyango kunye nokwamkelwa, umzekelo, okanye ukubandakanywa. imfundo ekhethekileyo, okanye ukukhulisa umzali ngokumelene nokuzimela, okanye iimfuno ezizodwa njengomzali njengentsikelelo kunye nomthwalo. Abazali abaneengcamango zengqungquthela ezinokutshatyalaliswa neyakho zingenza uzive uzikhusele kwaye uzilungiselele ukuhlasela. Aba bantu bayonakalisa wonke umntu . Benza bonke abazali babonakale bebubi. Bamele bavinjelwe, okanye ubuncinane baphikisane ngokude kwi-Facebook okanye kumazwana.
Oko ungakwenza: Ukunyaniseka kuwe malunga nokuba ukuphikisana kuya kwenza nawuphi na umntu olungileyo. Ukuba oko kwenza nje omnye umzali abeke ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye akwenze ukhenkceze kwintsapho yakho yonke imini, yishiye yedwa. Fihla izikhundla ezivuthayo. Gwema iimbono. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuchazela iinkolelo zakho ngendlela engeyiyo.
Xa Bengeke Bakhulume
Kuthekani ngabazali abangayikuvimba kakhulu into okholelwayo kwaye uzama ukwenza kodwa ungenzi nto nhlobo ukuba uncede? Bangabonakala njengotshaba ngexesha xa uzama kunzima ukuya kwi-rally ngenjongo yezizathu ezikhethekileyo. Ubiza iintlanganiso zokufumana bonke abazali kwisithili sakho emva kwemizamo yakho kubantwana babo kwaye akukho mntu uza. Udala iqela lokuxhasa ngenkxaso kwaye iintlanganiso zihamba ngokukhawuleza. Uyabona abantwana esikolweni sakho esikolweni abangabasebenzi ngenxa yokuba akukho bani owenza ingxolo egameni labo, kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ngaba abazali babo basenokucinga ukwenqaba ukunyusa inkqubela yomntwana kunye nabo bonke abantwana.
Yintoni ongayenzayo: Yazisa ukuba abantu banokuba ngabazali xa bebakho konke okusemgangathweni abanako nangona ukuvakaliswa kwabo kungabonakali njengeyakho. Khumbula ukuba umonakalo msebenzi wawubonakala njani ngaphambi kokuba ufike ezinyaweni zakho phantsi kwakho kwaye waqala ukwenza. Yiba nako ukuxhasa abazali abangayazi into abayidingayo. Ukuxhasa abantwana babo, nabo.