Funda indlela yokuqhaqhazela ubungqina kwiintsana kunye nabantwana
Abazali banokukhawuleza ukukhungatheka xa babhekana nomntwana omncinci okanye umncinci. Bahlala bengenakucinga malunga nendlela yokuphendula ngokumhlophe, kuncinci ukufumana umntwana ukuba ayeke . Enyanisweni, ukugcoba kungabonakala kukufutshane-rhoqo kunye nabantwana abasakhulayo.
Le yenye yezo zigaba ezinokuba nzima kumzali okanye umkhathaleli. Umntwana wakho akakathetha okwamanje, ngoko kunzima nakakhulu kunakuqala ukuba ufumanise ukuba yiyiphi into engqubana ngayo.
Njengoko kuphazamiseka njengokuba kunjalo kuwe, kunokuba kukhwankqisa ngakumbi kumntwana wakho omncinane. Icandelo lokujongana nombono ococekileyo kubandakanya umonde. Elinye inxalenye ibandakanya ukunceda umntwana wakho afunde ukuthetha kunye nokususa izinto ezibangelwa ukucoca.
UkuLawula okungalindelekanga
Xa konke kulungile nehlabathi kwaye izinto zibonakala njengokuba umntwana wakho esilindele ukuba, uyazixhamla. Xa izinto zitsha kwaye zingalindelekanga okanye zingasebenzi njengoko ucinga ukuba zifanele, ke jonga.
Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uyadlala kwaye uzama ukufumana idilesi ukuba ibuyele emlilweni wakhe, ingqondo yakhe ilindele ukuba loo nto ifanele iphume njani. Xa ekugqibeleni wenza loo ntshukumo kwaye akayi kulindeleka, uya kuphazamiseka. Unako ukuphosa umsindo , ugwebe, okanye uphonsa itekisi ngomsindo. Kule minyaka, kukho izinto ezininzi ezingayi kuhambelana nomzekelo wakho umntwana enentloko yakhe, kwaye ngoko kukho ukudideka kunye nokukhungatheka imihla ngemihla.
Ukuphelisa Impikiswano Xa Unako
Zingaphi izihlandlo ezithathayo ngaphambi kokuba ekugqibeleni ufumane idilesi ye-firetruck ukuxhuma kwakhona njengoko kufanelekile? Umbuzo ongcono unokuthi ube nguwe: Ubungakanani na ukucwina malunga nale firetruck onokuyithatha? Kukho umgca olungileyo apha phakathi kokuxhalabisa okunempilo okukhokelela ekufundeni, kunye nokukhungatheka kokugqithisa okukhokelela kokubili wena nomntwana wakho ukuphazamiseka lonke ixesha.
Ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntwana wakho usebenzisa amathoyizi ngeendlela ezintsha kwaye zonke iindlela zibonakala ziyenza zimhlophe kwaye zithukuthele, ke lixesha lokuthatha ezinye zeemathoyizi kwaye ziwashiye kude kube lula izakhono zakhe. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho osetshenziselwa ukuba umlomo wakhe ubambe iibhloko zakhe aze azenzele ngaphandle. Ngoku uzama ukwakha kunye nabo, kodwa akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokuya kwiseshoni epheleleyo. Zama ukubeka iibhloko ngaphandle kweeveki ezimbalwa kwaye unikezele amathoyizi afanayo afane nelo lwazi lwezakhono ngokuthe ngqo. Iikomityi zokuhlamba, iiplastiki ezinkulu zeplastiki okanye ezinye iibheyi ezithathayo zinikezela ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokuqhuba umbane kunye nokukhungatheka okuncinci kwaye iya kubeka umgangatho kwiibhloko ezinzima.
Enye inketho kukunikela iibhloko okanye ezinye izinto ezingaphaya kwamathoyizi rhoqo kwaye ngamaxesha apho umntwana wakho esebenza ngokusemandleni akhe. Kungenzeka ukuba kukho izakhono ezininzi kunye namava afakazela ukudideka kwakhe kunye nokuphazamiseka okwangoku. Unokwazi kwakhona, ukuba u-whiny ngakumbi xa elambile okanye ekhathele. Ngoko, khetha ukudlala nalawo maathoyilo xa evuyisiwe, atyiswa kwaye ahlaziywe ebusweni okanye ubusuku obuhle bokulala. Xa ukugubungula kuqala, ukutshintsha ngenyameko kumsebenzi othobayo njengokufunda ibali kunye okanye ukudlala ngaphandle .
Xa Ungeke Ukwazi Ukuphelisa Ukukhungatheka, Ikhonsole kunye ne-Empathize
Ngamanye amaxesha, into yokugungqulwa yinto engaphandle kolawulo lwakho. Ukuba umntanakho akafuni ukungena kwisihlalo sakhe semoto, umzekelo, akukho nto unako okanye enokuyenza ngayo. Unokuba novelwano kunye nokududuza, nangona kunjalo, njengoko ekhwela. Mxelele ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ziyasebenza: "Ndiyazi ukuba awuyithandi ukuhlala kwisihlalo semoto ngoku." Yaye wabelane ngokubandezeleka kwakhe: "Andifuni ukuba emotweni kwangoku."
Kwakhona kuya kuba namaxesha apho ungafuni ukuphelisa ukukhungatheka ngenxa yokuba uhambelana nomntwana wakho ukulungelelanisa nezinto ezenzeka ebomini.
Akakwazi ukufumana oko akufunayo, emva koko konke. Ngokude nje ukuba iimfuno zakhe zidibene, akudingeki ugobe ngaphaya kwexesha ukuze wenze yonke into ehamba phambili, ekhungathekileyo. Ukuba akafuni iipulole isidlo sakusasa ngolunye usuku kodwa wayidla ngokugqibeleleyo nje ngezolo, ungazivumi ukuba ufuna ukunikezela ngokumhlophe kwaye umnike iziqhamo ezihlukahlukeneyo de ekugqibeleni uwamkela enye. Kodwa unokwazi ukubonisa uvelwano kwaye uncede umntwana wakho afunde ukubonisa ngokufanelekileyo indlela avakalelwa ngayo ngemingeni.
Nika Iimpawu Zelwimi Lakho Oluninzi
Enye imbangela yokugubungela kukungabikho komntwana onxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo. Kwakhona, mhlawumbi unengcamango yento ayifunayo kodwa akanalo ndlela enhle yokukuxelela okanye ukukubonisa. Kuze kube le ngongoma ebomini bakhe, ukhulumise yonke imfuno kuwe ngokukhala kwaye yile nto eyasebenza. Ngoku uhamba ngokukhala. Ukunyuka kukunyathelo phakathi kokulila kunye nolwimi. Uphezu kokunxibelelana kwaye njengoko unokucinga, oku kuphazamisayo.
Unokukunceda ukunciphisa ixesha lokumhlophe ngokunika umntwana wakho uninzi lwamathuba okusetyenziswa kolwimi. Ncokola naye rhoqo kwaye qinisekisa ukuba uvumele ixesha lokuba aphendule.
Umzekelo Ezinye iindlela zokuthetha
Amagama akuphela kwindlela esithetha ngayo. Zama ukudibanisa amagama kunye nokuthintela kuye ukuze ahlaziye ngaphantsi. Sebenzisa isibonakaliso sendebe okanye ithoyiyi okanye wenze uphawu lwakho kwaye ulisebenzise ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngelizwi xa uthetha. Unokukhetha uphawu ngokukhawuleza kunoko ilizwi kwaye akulethe uncedo.
Nod okanye ugxininise intloko yakho ngokucacileyo ukuba ubonise ukuba unokufuna ntoni. "Ngaba ufuna iloli?" Ukuba uyakunika umsindo, gungqa intloko yakho nantoni xa uthi, "Akukho lori." Ukuba uyasabela ngokuqinisekileyo, gxuma intloko yakho ewe uthi, "Ewe, iloli." Unokumfundisa ukuba ambethe ukuba uwe.
Ukuba umntwana wakho sele eyazi u-ewe kwaye akukho, oko kwenza ukuba kube lula ukuthetha. Ufuna nje ukubhaliza imibuzo yakho ngokufanelekileyo ukuba ufumane oko akufunayo ukuze ufumane ewe okanye akukho mpendulo kuye. Kwakhona, kungekudala uzakukwazi ukuthetha, "Ndixelele 'ewe' okanye 'hayi.'" Uyakwazi ukumyalela ukuba axoxe ngamagama kunokuba athande, xa izakhono zakhe zomlomo zikhula.
Qinisekisa ukuba awuqinisekisi ukuba u-Whining
Usana lwakho ngoku selumncinci. Eli lixesha lesilingo kunye nephuso, ngoko abantwana bazama izinto ezininzi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nezinto ezisebenzayo zihlala zizinamathela kuzo. Ukuba uhlala unika xa ukhankanya xa umntwana wakho esebenzisa ukuyifumana oko akufunayo kuwe, isebenza. Unesiqinisekiso sokufumana umgca ophezulu. Yindawo ephosakeleyo yokuba ungenayo ngenxa yokuba awufuni ukungayihoyi i imfuno zakhe, kodwa nawe akafuni ukucwenga ukuba ube yindlela yakhe ephambili yokufumana iimfuno. Qhubeka usebenza ukuze unike izakhono zoqhagamshelwano ezifanelekileyo. Ukunikezela amathoyizi asezingeni lakhe lophuhliso kwaye unciphise ukukhungatheka xa kunokwenzeka. Jonga iimpendulo zakho, kwakhona, kwaye qi ni sekise ukuba awugcini nje ukuba ungene ngenxa yokuba ukugcoba kufike kuwe.
Ukunyuka kwaBantwana abakhulileyo
Xa umntwana osekhulile enezakhono zolwimi eziphucukileyo ezenza ukucwiliswa, kufuneka aphathwe ngokungakumbi njengengxaki yokuziphatha kunye nokulungiswa kobuchule bokuziphatha njengokungahoywa kunye nexesha. Qhubeka ulandelelanisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokubonisa ukungonwabi ngeemeko ezinzima kwaye uncedise ukuba asebenze ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kodwa ungamkeli ukucwina njengendlela engagqibekanga yokunxibelelana xa izinto zingekho.