Izicwangciso eziNcedo zokunciphisa ukutyhulwa kwabantwana bakho
Ingaba umntwana wakho uyaziphosa emhlabathini, amemeza aze atyebe iinyawo zakhe? AWUKHO wedwa. Bonke abantwana bayaphalazela rhoqo emva kwexeshana.
Nangona banokuba neentloni kunye nokuphazamiseka ngokukrakra, ukuvutha komsindo kungasombulula ngokunyamezela kunye nokuphikelela. Ezi zicwangciso zoqeqesho zingancedisa umntwana wakho ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani kuye, ukuphoxeka akuyi kunceda.
Izizathu Zengqungquthela Yomlilo
Xa umntwana wakho ubonakalisa ukuphazamiseka okukhulu, thabatha umzuzu ukuba uhlole isizathu esiyintloko. Abantwana banethuba ngezizathu ezibini ezibalulekileyo-ukungakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo okanye ukuzama ukulawula imeko.
Xa abantwana bekulwela ukufumana ingqalelo kwizinto eziqhubekayo kubo ngokomzwelo, bahlala bebonisa ukukhungatheka kwabo ngokuziphatha kwabo. Umntwana ongaqinisekanga ukuba unokuhlangabezana njani neemvakalelo ezinokukhathazeka ezinjengomsindo, ukudakumba, nokudumala, unokuphosa ukulungelelanisa. Ukumemeza nokukhaba yindlela yabo yokuthi, "Ndincede, andinakulawula."
Esinye isizathu esona sizathu sokuba abantwana baxhamle ngenxa yokuba bafuna ukulawula le meko. Injongo yabo kukufumana indlela yabo nethemba lokuba ukukhwaza kuyakukwenza ukuba wenze oko bafuna.
Ukuthintela i-Temper Tantrums
Nangona kungabikho konke ukukrakra komsindo kunokuthintelwa, amanyathelo amanyathelo asebenzayo anokumisa amaninzi ngaphambi kokuba aqale.
Khawujonge xa umntwana wakho enokubonakala ebonakalisa umsindo.
Ingaba xa elambile okanye ediniwe? Ukuba kunjalo, cwangcisa phambili uze ungayicwangcisi imisebenzi eya kuba nzima kumntwana wakho ngaphandle kokuba elele kunye ne- snacks enempilo .
Ngamanye amaxesha ukudabuka kungumphumo wezilindele ezingalunganga zomntwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unyana wakho ufumana ithoyizi rhoqo xa ehamba kwivenkile kunye no-Grandma, unokulindela ukuba uyomthengela into yokudlala.
Ukufundiswa kwangaphambili kunokuba yindlela enhle yokunceda abantwana banelindeleke ngokwenene. Ngaphambi kokuba ungene kwivenkile, cacisa oko unokulindela kuza kwenzeka. Yithi into efana nale, "Siza kuthenga ukutya kunye nathi sishiya. Asinakucinga namhlanje kumathoyizi kwaye asithengi nayiphi na imathoyizi. "
Misela imithetho phambi kokuba ungene kwiimeko ezintsha. Chaza oko ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho akwenze ngokuthi, "Hamba eduze kwam uze uzigcinele izandla zakho." Mcebisa umntwana wakho ngemiphumo xa engayithobeli imithetho.
Bonisa umntanakho iindlela eziphilileyo zokulawula iimvakalelo zabo ezingenakukhathazeka, ngoko uyazi ukuba wenzeni kunokuba ube nomsindo. Ukufundisa umntwana wakho ngeemvakalelo kunokumnceda afunde iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuhlala nazo. Unokwenza oku ngokumcela ukuba athi, "Ndiyadumala," okanye ndimbonise indlela yokuphefumula ngokukhawuleza ukuhlalisa.
Unganikeli ukuyeka ukuTeman
Qinisekisa ukuba umsindo ongenamsebenzi kumntwana wakho. Ukuba uyayifaka egciniweyo ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuba uthenge ithoyizi, ungayithengi enye. Ukunika inokwenza izinto zibe lula kwixesha elifutshane kuba kuya kwenza ukuba kube lula ukukhawuleza. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuya kuqinisa kuphela kumntwana wakho ukuba ukudabuka kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana oko akufunayo.
Ukuvuza abantwana ngokulawula iimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo
Ukubonelela ngemiphumo emihle xa umntwana wakho eziphatha ngokufanelekileyo. Mdumise ngokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye ubonise ukuziphatha kakuhle. Yithi into enje, "UYohny wenza kahle kakhulu kwivenkile namhlanje ngokuphulaphula kunye neendlela ezilandelayo!"
Mvuza umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha kakuhle. Nika isitika xa esenza ngevenkile ngaphandle kokukhala. Ukuba akakwazi ukulinda de ukuphela kohambo lokuthenga, nikela ngeenkomfa nganye imizuzu emibini ngexesha lohambo xa eziphatha. Ezi zicwangciso zokuziphatha ezilungileyo zenza umgudu ongaphambili kodwa zinokuthintela imiba eninzi yokuziphatha.
Ukubonelela ngesiphumo esinobungozi kwiintsantant
Ixesha elibi lifuna imiphumo emibi ukuze umntwana wakho afunde ukungawaphonsa. Ukungayithobeli indlela yokuziphatha ingaba isicwangciso esiqilileyo sokunciphisa intlungu. Emva koko, akumnandi kakhulu ukukhahlela ngaphandle kwabaphulaphuli.
Khangela enye indlela, yenza sengathi awuyiva nantoni na, kwaye wenze njengokungathi awukhathazeki ngumsindo wengane yakho. Nangona ukukhwaza kungakhankanya kakhulu ekuqaleni, umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni uya kufunda ukuba ukukrakra ingqumbo akuyi kukuqwalasela.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ixesha lokuphumla liyafaneleka. Ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kukuphazamisa ukuba ahlale esitolo, umzekelo, mthabathe emotweni ukuhamba ixesha. Emva koko qhubeka uhambo lwakho lokuthengwa xa ezolile.
Yazi ukuba awukho yedwa kula mava kwaye ininzi abantwana ilandela iphethini. Olunye uphando lwaphazamisa iingubo ezingama-330 kwisimo sekliniki kunye noomama nabantwana babo. Bafumanisa ukuba uninzi lwentlungu lugqiba imizuzu emithathu. Kwakhona, kufana nexhala lokuba uqale ngokuziphatha kakubi, uze uchithe uxinzelelo. Emva kokufunda, abaninzi abazali baqaphele ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana kwabo kuphuculwe, kodwa xa bebuhlungu kwakhona, kulandela umzekelo.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ixesha elidumileyo liqhelekile kwaye kaninzi liyinxalenye eqhelekileyo yezingane ezikhulayo xa zifunda ukujongana neemvakalelo zabo. Sebenzisa ezinye zezicwangciso ukulwa neendlela ezifanelekileyo kwaye kufuneka zihlale zingaphantsi xa uhlala ungqinelana. Injongo kukumfundisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zoluntu zokujongana neemvakalelo zakhe ezinkulu. Ngokumfundisa iindlela eziphilileyo zokuzivakalisa, uyamnika isifundo sokusebenzisa ubomi bakhe bonke.
> Umthombo:
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