Nceda umntwana wakho afunde iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana neemvakalelo ezinomsindo.
Ukukhungatheka kunye nomsindo kunokukhawuleza ukuguquka, ukungabi nhlonipho, ukunyaniseka, kunye nentlungu xa umntwana wakho engazi indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo zakhe.
Xa ushiywe ungakhange uhlolwe, ukuxhatshazwa ebuntwaneni, njengokulwa nokukhwabanisa, kuye kwaxhunyelelwa kwiingxaki zemfundo, ukuchasana koontanga, kunye nempilo yengqondo ebuthathaka.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkathazo yokucutha umsindo, ezi zicwangciso ezinhlanu ziyakwazi ukufundisa ubuchule bakhe bokulawula umsindo:
1. Ukwahlukana phakathi kweemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha
Ingqumbo iyinto evamile, imvakalelo enempilo. Kodwa abantwana abaninzi bayalwela ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kwemizwa enomsindo nokuziphatha okubi.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abhale iimvakalelo zakhe , ngoko unokutshintsha iimvakalelo zomsindo, ukukhungatheka nokudumala.
Yithi, "Kulungile ukuziva umsindo kodwa akulungile ukutshitshisa." Mncede ukuba abone ukuba ulawula izenzo zakhe xa evekile.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuziphatha kakubi kubangelwa kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuvakalelwa, njengentlungu okanye ukuhlazeka. Thetha ngeemvakalelo rhoqo kunye nexesha elide, umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe.
2. Uhlobo lweZakhono zoLawulo lwezobushushu ezifanelekileyo
Indlela efanelekileyo yokufundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokujongana nomsindo kukumbonisa indlela ojongene ngayo neemvakalelo zakho xa uziva ulaka. Ukuba umntwana wakho abukele ulahlekelwa ngumsindo, uya kwenza okufanayo. Kodwa, ukuba ubona ujamelana neemvakalelo zakho ngendlela enomusa, ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo, uya kuthatha kwakhona.
Nangona kubalulekile ukukhusela umntwana wakho kwiingxaki ezininzi zabantu abadala, unempilo ukumbonisa indlela ojongene ngayo neemvakalelo ezinomsindo. Bhekisela kumaxesha xa uziva udidekile ukuze umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba abantu abadala bahlanya ngamanye amaxesha.
Kulungile ukusho, "Ndiyithukuthele imoto phambi kwethu ayizange ithinte ukuvumela loo bantwana ukuba awele isitalato.
Kodwa ndiya kumisa ukuze banqabele ngokukhuselekileyo. "Ukuqinisekisa ukuvakalelwa kwakho kuya kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba athethe ngeemvakalelo zakhe.
Thatha uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakho xa ulahlekelwa ukupholisa kwakho phambi kwezingane zakho. Cela uxolo uze uxubushe ngezinto omele ukwenze endaweni yoko. Yithi, "Ndiyaxolisa ukuba ufanele undibone ngomsindo namhlanje xa ndidenge. Ndimele ndihambe ukuze ndipholise xa ndibe nomsindo endaweni yokuphakamisa ilizwi lam. "
3. Misela iMigaqo yoBushushu
Uninzi lweentsapho zinolawulo olusemthethweni lweentsapho malunga nokuba yiyiphi imilinganiselo eyamkelekileyo kwaye into engekho xa ivela kwingqumbo. Ezinye iintsapho azikhumbuli iingcango ezikhawulezileyo kunye namazwi akhuliswa ngelixa ezinye iintsapho zizinyamezelo ezincinci malunga nokuziphatha okunjalo.
Yenza imithetho ebhaliweyo yasekhaya echaza okulindelekileyo. Imithetho yomsindo kufuneka ibhekise ekuziphatheni ngokuhlonipha abanye.
Iintetho zeentetho ezifana nokuhlaselwa ngokomzimba , ukubiza igama, kunye nokutshabalaliswa kwepropathi ukuze umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba akakwazi ukuphonsa izinto, ukuphula izinto okanye ukukhupha ngaphandle kwesigama okanye emzimbeni xa ehlutha.
4. Fundisa iZakhono zoLwazi lokuPhatha
Abantwana kufuneka baqonde iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nomsindo. Endaweni yokuxelelwa ukuba, "Musa ukubetha umntakwenu," cacisa oko akwenzayo xa evakalelwa ngumsindo.
Yithi, "Ngexesha elilandelayo, sebenzisa amagama akho," okanye, "Hamba kude naye xa uvakalelwa."
Unokubuza kwakhona, "Yintoni ongayenza endaweni yokubetha?" ukunceda umntwana wakho aqale ukufumanisa izicwangciso ezifumene uncedo. Unokwenza udibanise itekiti engakwazi ukuyisebenzisa xa ecasulwa.
Gcwalisa ibhokisi ngezinto ezinokumnceda ukuzola, njengebhodi yombala kunye neekrayoni, ukuvutha okuvakalayo, okanye umculo ocolileyo. Ukubandakanya iingqondo zakhe kunokuncedisa ingqondo yakhe kunye nomzimba wakhe.
Sebenzisa ixesha njengesixhobo ekuncediseni umntwana wakho ukuzola. Mfundise ukuba angakwazi ukuzibeka ngexesha lokuphuma ngaphambi kokungena enkingeni. Ukuzikhusela kwimeko kwaye kuthatha imizuzu embalwa kuye kunokumnceda azinciphe.
Fundisa izakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki ukuze umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba unokuyicombulula iingxaki ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ubundlobongela. Thetha ngeendlela zokulungisa ingxabano ngokuthula.
5. Ukunika iziphumo xa kuyimfuneko
Nika umntanakho imiphumo emihle xa elandela imigaqo yengqumbo nemiphumo emibi xa ephula imithetho. Imiphumo emihle, njengenkqubo yokufumana umvuzo okanye inkqubo yezoqoqosho zombonakaliso , inokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba asebenzise izakhono zakhe zolawulo lomsindo xa ecasulwa.
Yilandela nemiphumo esheshayo xa umntwana wakho eba nobudlova. Imiphumo emihle ingabandakanya ukuphuma kwexesha, ukulahlekelwa kwamalungelo , okanye ukuhlawula imali ngokuwenza imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo okanye ukukhwela umdlalo kwixhoba.
Funa Uncedo Xa Kuyimfuneko
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bafune ukulawula umsindo ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa, ngokukhokela kwakho, izakhono zomntwana wakho kufuneka ziphucule.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unzima ukulawula ingqumbo yakhe, okanye iingxaki zakhe zengqumbo zibonakala ziba zimbi, zifuna uncedo lochwepheshe . Uqeqesho oluqeqeshiwe lunokulawula zonke iingxaki zempilo yengqondo kwaye lunokunika uncedo ekwakheni isicwangciso solawulo lokuziphatha .
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