Fumana indlela yokujongana nokubetha, ukubetha, kunye nomntakwabo
Ingaba umntwana wakho uyabetha ngenxa yokuba ulaka okanye ukhale ngenxa yezizathu ongaziqondiyo, ukuziphatha kakubi kungaba yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yophuhliso lwabantwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba umntwana ufumana imiphumo emibi yokugonyana-kwaye ufunda izakhono ezintsha ukuphucula ukuziphatha kwakhe-ulwaphulo luqala ukuphazamiseka ngexesha leminyaka yokufunda.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ulwalamano lunokuba ngumqondiso weengxaki ezinkulu.
Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, umntwana unokufuna uncedo lobugcisa ukulungisa ingxaki.
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Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abaziphatha kakubi ngenxa yokuba abanakho izakhono zokuthetha ukuze bafumane iimfuno zabo. Umntwana ongenakuthi, "Musa ukwenza oko," xa umntakwabo ethatha into yokudlala ezandleni zakhe unokubetha okanye ukuluma ukuvakalisa ukungafuni.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abafunda isikolo baziphatha kakubi ngenxa yokuba abanako ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo . Umntwana ongenalo ulwimi elithethayo, "Ndandithukuthele kwangoku" angabonisa umsindo wakhe ngokukhaba unina.
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana banomdla ngenxa yokubetha okanye ukubetha imisebenzi. Ukuba umntwana ufumanisa ukuba udade wakhe umshiya wedwa xa ehlaba, unokugqiba isigqibo sokubetha yindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana oko akufunayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana babetha abazali babo njengendlela yokuzama ukufumana indlela yabo. Yaye ukuba iyasebenza, ulwaphulo luya kuba lubi kakhulu.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana uhlasela unina ngenxa yokuba akayi kumthengela umdlalo kunye nomama ekugqibeleni anike aze amenze umdlalo, umntwana uya kufunda ukushaya yindlela efanelekileyo yokusebenzisa unina.
Ukubonelela ngokukhawuleza
Nasiphi na isenzo sobundlobongela kufuneka siphumelele ngokukhawuleza. Unganikeli izilumkiso okanye izikhumbuzo zokuyeka.
Nazi ezinye iimiphumo eziphumelelayo ezinokubangela ukunyusa:
- Ukuphuma kwexesha- Xa lisetyenziswe ngokufanelekileyo, ixesha lokuphuma lifundisa abantwana indlela yokuzola. Injongo ephambili yexesha lokuphuma kufuneka ibe ngabantwana ukuba bazibeke ngexesha lokuphuma ngaphambi kokuba baqhekeze.
- Ukubuyisela - Ukuba umntwana wakho ubuhlungu umntu, ukubuyisela kufuneka kube yinxalenye yesiphumo. Ukubuyiselwa kunokubandakanya ukuhlawulela ixhoba eliyithandayo kwixhoba okanye ukwenza imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo ukuhlawula umonakalo. Ukubuyisela kunokunceda ukulungisa ubuhlobo kunye nokunika umntwana ithuba lokulungisa.
- Ukulahlekelwa kwamalungelo - Thatha impahla eyintandokazi yomntwana okanye umsebenzi wakho kwiiyure ezingama-24. Ukulahlekelwa kwikhompyutha okanye ithuba lokuya kwindlu yomhlobo kungaba yisikhumbuzo esiphumeleleyo sokungabhubhisa nabani na.
- Imiphumo yemvelo - Ukuba umntwana wakho otshabalalisa ipropati yakhe, umphumo wendalo ungabona osebenzayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho osemtsha uyaphonsa ifowuni yakhe kwaye ayiphule, ungamthengi omtsha. Ukuhamba ngaphandle kwefowuni kwaye ukuthenga indawo yakhe kunokusebenza njengesifundo sobomi esibalulekileyo.
- Iimpawu zokufumana umvuzo - Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa ubugwenxa rhoqo, qalisa inkqubo yokuvuza. Ukubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuziphatha kakuhle, njengokuthintela ngokunyanisekileyo. Inkqubo yoqoqosho lweedokethi nayo inokuphelisa ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uluhlobo luni lweziphumo ozikhethayo ukusebenzisa, qiniseka ukuba luyalela uqeqesho kwaye aluyi kuhlwaywa . Ukuhlazeka okanye ukuhlazeka umntwazana wakho unokubuya kwaye kunokukhokelela ekunyuseni.
Fundisa izakhono ezintsha
Ukuziphatha okunyamezelayo kubonisa ukuba umntwana wakho akanakho izakhono azifunayo ukulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukufundisa abantwana izakhono ezintsha kufuneka zibe yinxalenye yenkqubo yoqeqesho. Izakhono zentlalo, izakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki, nezakhono zokusombulula iingxabano ziya kunciphisa ukuziphatha okubi.
Qinisekisa ukuba uqeqesho lwakho lufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba yintoni emele yenze. Kunokuba uthi, "Musa ukubetha," tshela, "Sebenzisa amagama akho." Nceda umntwana wakho abone ezinye iindlela ezikhethiweyo ezingabandakanyeki.
Funa UluNcedo lwezakhono
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuziphatha kakubi kungabangela ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha okubi okanye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo. Ukuba ulwaphulo lomntwana lukhulu, okanye aluphendulanga ukuqeqeshwa, khuluma nomntwana wakho.
> Imithombo
> I-American Academy ye-Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: Ukuqonda ukuziphatha koBundlobongela kubantwana nakwi-Adolescents.
> I-American Academy ye-Pediatrics: Umntwana okhutheleyo.
> I-HealthyChildren.org: Ukuziphatha okubuhlungu.