Fundisa abantwana ukuba babe noxanduva ngakumbi
Iindlela zakho zokuziphatha azifanelekanga malunga nokulawula umntwana wakho. Kunoko, kufuneka uqeqesho malunga nokufundisa umntwana ukuba aziphathe njani. Abantwana abafunda ukuzimela baya kulungeleka ngakumbi ukujamelana nemingeni yobomi, ukulawula uxinzelelo, nokwenza ukhetho oluhle nangona ungabikho.
Yiyiphi indlela yokuzimela
Kungenxa yokuba umntwana uziphatha kakuhle, akuthethi ukuba uyazimela.
Izingane ezizimeleyo zingakhetha ukuzithobela ngokukhawuleza. Baya kwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo kungakhathaliseki ukuba baziva njani.
Abantwana abaziphetheyo bangakwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezingenakuthatheka ngendlela ephilileyo. Bafunde izakhono zolawulo lomsindo kwaye banako ukulawula ukuziphatha okungachukumisi . Bayakwazi ukuphendula ngokuhlonipha xa abadala bebalungisa kwaye banokuthatha uxanduva lokuziphatha kwabo.
Baye bafunda nokwenza izigqibo eziphilileyo ngokwabo ngokusekelwe kwimiba yokuxhamla kunye nokuxhamla kokukhetha kwabo. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Ndimele ndenze oko kuba abazali bam bathi," bayaqonda ukubaluleka kokwenza ukhetho oluphilileyo. Bangenza izigqibo ezintle ngokwemisebenzi, umsebenzi wesikolo , imali , uxinzelelo lwaontanga kunye nokuzinakekela.
Xa abantwana behluleka ukuzimela, abazali bahlala bephethe uxanduva lokuziphatha komntwana. Ukuzibandakanya umntwana ukuba enze umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo okanye ukwenza iziganeko eziphindaphindiweyo zokuzama nokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba enze imisebenzi ngokuqhelekileyo kuthetha umzali ubeka umgudu ongaphezu komntwana okwenza umsebenzi wenze.
Ukufundisa abantwana abanezakhono zokuzikhusela xa bebancinci banokubanceda ubomi babo bonke. Abantu abangazange bafunde izakhono zokuzimela bahlala bekulwela ukugcina imikhuba enempilo, baze babe ngabantu abadala. Ukulawula umsebenzi wesikolo, ingqesho, imali kunye neemfanelo zendlu, kufuna zonke ukuzimela.
Abantu abadala abangenalo ukuzithoba banokujamelana neengxaki ezifana nokuphathwa kwexesha kunye nokuphathwa kwemali.
Imizekelo yokungabi nalutho:
- Umntu oneminyaka engama-4 uphazamisa iingxoxo phakathi kwabantu abadala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuba akakwazi ukulinda ithuba lokuthetha.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-6 uhlala ekhukweni ngenxa yokuba unenkathazo yokunyamezela inzondo xa ezama ukulala.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-8 ubudala uhlawula ukutya okungenamsoco ngomzuzu abazali bakhe baphume kuwo.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-10 uchitha ixesha lakhe lokuzigcina esikolweni edlala neepensele zakhe, kunokuba enze umsebenzi wakhe.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-12 uthi ufuna ukufunda indlela yokudlala i-violin kodwa akaze asebenze.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-14 uyamkela umngane kwaye uzama ukweba ibha ye candy kwivenkile.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-16 akanakuxhathisa ukuphendula umyalezo obhaliweyo ngelixa eqhuba.
- Umntu oneminyaka engama-18 ukhetha ukuchitha ixesha eluntwini esikhundleni sokuba enze umsebenzi ofunekayo kwiiklasi zeekholeji.
Imizekelo yokuzimela:
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-4 ubuza umntu omdala ukuba ancede, endaweni yokuziphindezela, xa oontanga ethatha umdlalo wakhe.
- Izambatho ezineminyaka engama-6 ubudala emva kokudla kwasekuseni ngaphandle kokufuna isikhumbuzo.
- Umntwana oneminyaka engama-8 unqabile ukujoyina abahlobo bakhe abahlekisayo omnye umntwana.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-10 uhlala phantsi ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo emva kokuba adle intlanzi yakhe emva kokufunda.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eli-12 usindisa imali yakhe yesibonelelo ngeveki ade athenge umdlalo omtsha afunayo.
- Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-14 uxelela abahlobo bakhe ukuba akakwazi ukuza kuba ufuna ukufundelwa uvavanyo.
- Umntu oneminyaka engama-16 ukhetha ukungena ebomini kunye nabahlobo kuba ucinga ukuba kunokubakho ukuphuza ngaphantsi kweqela.
- Umntu oneminyaka engama-18 wenqaba ukukopela ekuhlolweni xa umhlobo wakhe emnika iimpendulo.
Ukufundisa izakhono zobuGxebi
Ukufunda ukuzithoba yinkqubo yokuphila ubomi kwaye bonke abantwana baya kulwa noqeqesho lwabo ngamaxesha athile. Nika amathuluzi akho afanelekileyo ubudala ukuba amncede enze ukulingana nezilingo nokulibazisa ukuxhaswa.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, xa umntwana ekhupha umntwana, uqeqesho olungaphantsi oluya kulufuna kuwe. Xa umntwana wakho esamkela uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakhe, akuyi kufuneka ukusebenzisa imiphumo emibi. Kunoko, uya kuba nokugxila ekufundiseni umntwana wakho izakhono ezintsha nokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle.